hanging4big,
That's a very common misconception. Kegeling can make it worse in these scenarios:
1) You overwork your pelvic floor muscles (by Kegeling too much). In this case, the PC, BC, and IC muscles are just too weak to hold of ejaculation.
2) You are perform quick kegels while you are masturbating/having sex. For on reason or another, this has the opposite effect. Instead of stopping premature ejaculation, it causes it. However, this can be eliminated if you pay attention to your penis and relax it if it starts to kegel
3) Kegeling in general makes your penis more sensitive. This is great (more pleasure!), but at the same time it can become too sensitive, especially in the beginning. This is most often a temporary side effect and shouldn't cause any worry. As many multi orgasmic men will tell you, strong pelvic floor muscles are essential. The only way to achieve this is by Kegeling.
When using the Kegel to hold of ejaculation, you have to:
a) Do it immedietlly before the point of no return.
b) Typically be able to hold a kegel for 10 seconds or more. Barbara Keesling says in her book, How to Make Love All Night, that you can just do a lot quick kegels at the point of no return (while stopping all stimulation), but I haven't been able to get this to work. Maybe it will work for you.
Hope this helps!
As I said before, for many men this is a long process. It often takes a lot of practice, patience, and trial and error. But it's definitely worth the end result. Just stick with it and you'll be King in no time. |