Hey, Slanker. I don't have ED problems, but I know what it is like to get my ass kicked by a crazy girl friend. There was period of time where she had this huge insecure meltdown because I admitted to looking at other girls. She admitted to looking at other guys but she enforced a strict double standard. It was CRAZY! And low and behold: I couldn't get an erection with her because I had such twisted feelings of guilt and anger. Eventually we regulated and started having good sex again, but ultimately I had to break up with her because she was just too crazy. Since then I've had sex with two women and it hasn't been nearly as fun. That relationship messed me up. It also opened me up and taught me a lot too, but the negatives are crystal clear. I know what I did wrong now and won't repeat it with another woman.
Something you might find helpful: I have been reading David DeAngelo's dating tips, have his ebooks, and a bunch of his DVDs. When I first saw his stuff I thought he was just a marketing scam or that his ideas would just get me into trouble with women, but the more I've been getting into this I've realized that he has a ton to offer. I've searched and I can't find anyone else who has researched the topic of meeting, dating, beginning relationships with women to the level he has. His philosophy hinges on men being okay with being men (something a lot of women like my crazy girlfriend don't want men to be because they want to control them - and then when they get control of men they beat them down or dump them). The point is that DeAngelo's stuff has been really helpful to me in getting my head straight about women, about selecting women, staying in charge of my life, and about how to go about meeting one for a long term relationship in the future. You might want to check him out and get on his free dating tips mailing list. A warning: his free dating tips are indeed advertizing, but if you can look beyond that you can begin to get at his main insights and it may prompt you to check out his Double Your Dating ebook which is only about $20. I'm only bringing all this out because I believe that psychological fitness is key. I've found his stuff extremely helpful in combatting my nerves around women. I've just got a better perspective now.
Here's his catalogue:
David DeAngelo's Video And Audio Programs
Best Wishes,
Rod