[HotRod]

I was prowling through the archive reading about edging and found lots of posts about premature ejaculation.

I have a different issue:

When I'm with a woman for the first few times, I absolutely cannot cum. And when I finally do I've been moved to tears because it's such a relief.

I'll be on top of her thrusting forever and it just won't cum. Eventually my body is tired and I can't feel anything anymore, and then it's hopeless. I end up with blue balls and relieving myself in the shower. I attribute it 100% to psychological issues...

* Fear of pregnancy - this should be solved by my recent vasectomy.

* Fear of cumming too soon and breaking the moment!

Usually after I've been with a woman about 3 times, my body starts to loosen up and I'm able to maintain control....maybe too much. Sometimes I just want that release. I've decided that I'm going to do things differently with my next lover and just start cumming when my body wants to cum.

My hesitant ejactulation has caused problems. Women begin thinking there is something wrong with them when you can't or don't cum with them, and their pussies get raw. They don't like that.

My heart goes out to guys who suffer with ED and premature ejaculation problems. My hope for you is that you have compassionate lovers who are willing to work with you, and that PE will prove to be the remedy.

Just a word of advice: NEVER apologize to a woman for cumming soon! Tell her she's just so erotic and exciting that your body just completely took over. Try to frame your physical response with a positive light. Don't feed her anything that frames you as deficient. It will continue to work against you. Just some thoughts.