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Originally Posted by bigsilo  HotRod - has your recent vasectomy had any effect on your hesitant ejaculation? I think I have a similar issue. For a number of reasons, my wife and I have practiced birth control by me pulling out before I come. Luckily I have great control, but the thought of pregancy means I go for a long time and wear my wife out.
I have been thinking about a vasectomy to remove that worry - then I can just go crazy (it would be nice to get off in less than 5 minutes one in a while!). |
Hi Bigsilo,
Well. I had my vasectomy on January 25, 2008, less than a month ago.
Physically, everything is pretty much back to normal. I had the no-scalpel vasectomy which I would recommend to anyone considering sterilization. Instead of an incision, a small puncture is made in the scrotum through which the vas deferens is drawn and segments removed. There's a small amount of hard scar tissue at the puncture site, and some very slight sensitivity in the balls. No pain. It's just that things have been a little crowded in the ball sack but it's getting a lot better. I wore a supporter for two weeks and that kept me pretty comfortable.
Anyway. I have yet to have sex with anyone since the procedure. I decided to do this now while I was single so that when I found a new lover, my old anxiety wouldn't be there. I banked my sperm so if I do want children some day that's still a possibility. Oh, this great age of freedom through higher technology!
So to your question: I don't know yet, but I think that once I get the go ahead from my doc that I'm 100% sterile, that I will feel much less anxiety over coming. The other part of my anxiety lies in worrying that the woman might not be ready for me to come, but I'm learning to have more power in my relationships with women and I'm going to be making an attempt to do more "leading" analogous to leading on the dance floor.
We'll see how it goes.