Insecurity?

Yeap · 12-11-2007, 12:24 PM

Well some of us on this forum are insecure, while others just seek to improve themselves, but my question is for those of us who are insecure and wish to seek larger penis's to fix this issue. Is their any way to fix the mental scarrign that the media, pornography and society has put upon us. The fact is that we will never be big enough, and someone will always be larger than us. The media tells us bigger is better and act like women really care about penis size like it's a huge part of a relationship which it is not. My brain is so scarred from growing up watching porn and feeling like i was never good enough. is there any way i can fix this?

HealthNFitn3ss · 12-11-2007, 12:57 PM

Dude I do understand how you feel. I always felt little mysef. I only realized this year that I'm somewhat adequit. Everyone is simply different and handles things their own way. People generally wan't something more or better, and after you have anything long enough..... it just isn't enough. I've only recently accepted this year that my body is how it is, and that changing it is hard work. That feeling will always be there somewhat (and I realize it may resonate more prevalantly throughout others thoughts.)
I'm sure though, that as you PE and make gains little by little you'll start to feel better about yourself. It helps at the end of the day to sit back and truly think how much worse off you could be. For me my humbling experiences arose after my aunt recently passed away from breast cancer, and my mother was afflicted with the same illness (of which she is currently recovering). It made me realize that whatever problems I have are minute compared to what they could be. I also think that it would help to find a partner that you feel truly appretiates you; both emotionally and sexually. Sure there are girls out there who claim they need "Monster Cocks" but for everyone of them there are many more much less shallow women. It's all in the way you look at it and I'm sure in time, you'll feel more comfortable in your body.
Stick with the PE though. I'm approaching my second month and it definately helps physically, and adds to my confidence as well. I wish you luck in the future, and hope you feel better.

Yeap · 12-11-2007, 01:09 PM

thanks man, glad to know im not the only one out there. i've been pe'ing for a lil over 2 months now and gained about .25 inches and i do feel better its just going to take alot more time and commitment to get where i want to be. i guess my problem is that although im adequite as well i feel inferior to men with larger penis's i guess u could say

remek · 12-11-2007, 07:06 PM

Yeap: I think most PEers are insecure to some degree. It comes with the turf, I suppose. I strongly believe PE helps with the mental outlook as well - mainly because it gives you more control of your size.

Instead of feeling inadequate and not being able to do anything about it, PE gives you a sense of power.

Dustpan · 12-11-2007, 09:23 PM

Yeap:
I had insecurity for 40 years with my wife, then I started penis exercises in 2005. Month after month I became more sure of myself and also my wife began seeing the difference that PE made. So stick with it and you will see the difference. If you think positive about PE it will happen.

Yeap · 12-11-2007, 09:38 PM

thanks for the help guys

remek · 12-12-2007, 01:17 AM

No problem, Yeap. And really - you've probably heard this many times, but size really does matter less than many other things when it comes to pleasing your partner.

Yeap · 12-12-2007, 01:56 AM

yea i've heard that often. I never really felt insecure until my current girlfriend who had slept with 2 people before me. I only felt uneasy when in the beginning of our relationship she made a subtle comment that was a joke and i interpreted it as me being inadequite, and since then i don't feel the same about her.

bodistava · 12-12-2007, 04:32 PM

It's my experience that if you're doing any type of self improvement it needs to be YOU that you're doing it for. You can't rely on porno for any size indicators, it's just not a realistic standard. If everyone but "us" had a big dick there would be no room in the porno biz. They have all the resorces we have and then some, thier job is to have a big dick so they want to be good at it. On a side note, take a look at some of the more unusual porno, the guys aren't very big at all(yes....even the black guys.) In the end, if all you have to offer a partner is a big dick and nothing else....you'll be a lonely guy.

Dustpan · 12-12-2007, 05:59 PM

Yeap,
During first 40 years of having sex with my wife, she never mentioned that I wasn't satisfying her as a husband, but I was the one that had the fear that she wasn't completely okay with what I had. When I started to 2-1/2 years ago with PE she still told me that my size was okay and didn't need to go though the exercises to increase the size of my penis. I knew that I had to do this for myself so I could feel that I had done something to make my penis bigger and take away the insecure feeling that I had.