Is orgasm actually 100% mental?
by, 04-29-2012 at 08:50 AM (624 Views)
I am coming to the conclusion that while Premature Ejaculation is treatable to some degree with physical awareness and prowess, that real control and "mastery" for want of a better word is entirely mental.
Consider MMO. The crux of this is separating orgasm from ejaculation. We typically do this by learning awareness and muscle control to suppress ejaculation. However on the basis of more recent exploration, I'm starting to think that the majority benefit of this physical approach is that it helps us to make the leap to mentally separate the two effectively.
I think that as men, we learn from a young age to experience orgasm through ejaculation, and it will be many years, and many orgasms before we even consider trying to a) last longer, b) DO, separating orgasm and ejaculation and c) even recognise that the two are discrete.
On that basis, it's a phenomenally difficult mental leap to separate the two. I suspect that mental awareness is really 95% of what matters, and the physical exercise helps us overcome the hurdle of this established mental expectation.
Am I changing my mind? To an extent. I will still insist that self-awareness is imperative and a huge boost to our control - without that, our mental success would be far, far harder to achieve, since there's no doubt that poor physical awareness or control would easily overpower our mental control.
I have also found that certain powerful pharmaceuticals, which operate solely on the brain, can entirely disconnect the two, and I'm sure that this same disconnect is not only possible without assistance, but also critical to real control.
There are many types of orgasm we can achieve. Ask any woman, she can have a bunch of different types. And so can we men - god knows I've had orgasms of various strengths in my time. The thing is, we're not typically sharp enough to differentiate since they all come along with the prostate-led ejaculatory experience. But women don't have this, so their orgasm isn't clouded by this physical response. It's more ... dare I say ... pure.
Try rubbing yourself to orgasm. Not masturbating, just rubbing your glans. Slowly if you like. Take your time. Feel it all over your body. Feel it build and build. Lose yourself in it. Let your mind carry you elsewhere with it. Submit.
I haven't achieved orgasm this way yet, but... and this is a big BUT. I have enjoyed and continue to enjoy FAR more intense physical sensation this way than ejaculation. And I've laid there after getting so worked up I had to just finish myslf off the traditional way, quivering and trembling for maybe ten more minutes, waves rushing across my body, in near euphoria. I think this is probably more like the sort of orgasm women have.
And that's why I think it's probably ALL mental at the end of the day.
I understand the basis of prostate orgasm requires this sort of mental submission too. It put me off last year when I bought the Aneros and failed to get anywhere with it. I think that's because I was expecting a direct physical response to stimuation and expecting that was enough. No wonder really, because as far as your typical ejaculation response goes, it typically IS enough.
But if you can put that to one side and successfully reject that direct physical need, you will feel so much more intense pleasure its unreal.
I admit I have yet to actually orgasm on this path, but even so, the experience has been consistently more pleasurable than "normal" ejaculatory masturbation. I'll be honest, I've been unable to orgasm, despite all my muscles flexing and convulsing with pleasure for two reasons - firstly that I had been mentally resisting on the basis that I'm trying to keep "old style" orgasm separate from this path, and secondly - perhaps more crucially - that I don't know how it will feel. Perhaps this second reason is also why many women have never orgasmed, and why they need to submit to a partner who can carry them over.
It may be evident from what I'm saying here that I still believe men can have the same orgasms as women. What I'm starting to realise is that ejaculation is an ENORMOUS HURDLE to us achieving them.
Bit of a brain dump there, so apologies if it's a bit scatty, but I'll be interested in your thoughts.