Jump start a dead libido?

[Koh]

I'm aware. I have common sense, I'm just tired of letting it hold me back in say pursuing social relationships, and meeting new people. I went to a beach yesterday, a beautiful one full of attractive ladies. And I didn't talk to anyone.... wasted $20, and 2 hours of a drive, to what: lay down on the beach for about 2 hours? I did not like that.

[litopita]

The points laid out above are good summaries for the task ahead except 5 and 6 which still show a deep rooted "fear" of judgment and need for "control". A confident person should have no need to be in control, that's where confidence and narcissism are different. If you are confident you should have no problem walking around your woman with a flaccid dick or even letting your dick go flaccid during sex or foreplay.

Confidence stems from the common saying "believe in yourself". Most guys dont fully grasp this concept of self belief. Believe in something about yourself even if you logically know its not true. The mind processes logic and emotion differently. For example believe you are the most handsome guy in the room even if you know you have loads of pimples. If they asked the most handsome person to stand up, most guys would fear. For you you would stand up. They would laugh at you and you would turn and ask them what they are laughing at. You are the most handsome person in the room. Thats what you KNOW and its funny that they are laughing.

@Koh The "Me First" attitude can best be demonstrated in alpha males in animals. The alpha wants to fuck the female then eat the food. It is his. And because he acts like it, the rest of the pack actually believes it. Don't ask for permission where it regards you and your needs or money. Read more on being alpha. But its much wider than that so am not going to write an essay on here i might get banned

[Koh]

So basically repeated, emotional felt affirmations could help me get in that mindset? Say doing these affirmations everyday in the mirror? Some days, I feel in zone, not caring what others think, doing what I want to do. Then others, like yesterday, I reverted back to my antisocial ways.