I just don't know what to do. Please help.

[Hawar Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hawar]

Hello

I am 30 years-old and, for the past 5-6 months, have experienced "Erectile Dysfunction". OK, I still can get my penis up but no where near as easily as before. I would also say the firmness has gone down by 50%. I believe my penis size has shrunk a bit too, hence the little bit of loose skin around it. (It used to be so tight that I was unable to even "pull" the skin.)

I believe all of this problem is due to the severe depression I've been through in the last 4-5 years. I've been unhappy all my adult life as well, which doesn't help things. I noticed that I lost my libido about 3 years ago. (Not once have I felt "horny" during that time.)

Please help me. I've never had a girlfriend or even had sex. (Simply because I have been unemployed most of my life and haven't had the confidence to go after a relationship. Hence my depression.) My life has been a total misery. I managed to find work about a year ago which has improved my life a little bit, but unfortunately due to this problem I am still unable to go after a relationship. It's making me feel sick thinking that I might go my whole life without anyone in my life.

Please help me, I really need to know that this condition is reversible.

Thank you.

[DirtyNerd Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DirtyNerd]

G'day Hawar

Welcome to the forum and and good work on coming forward so long as you understand there is a problem then you can make the changes to fix them

i am unsure if you have spoke to someone about it before but that is there job and they are really good at helping you find your way again all of us lose are way from time to time

your lucky you know you have problem and want to fix it i recommend you ask your doctor most of the time if your in need its free everyone here will help with what we can but the best thing to do is talk to someone dose not mean your weak or anything at most it makes you stronger then most

focus on your self and don't worry about anyone else your number one once you feel better with your self you will find someone that loves you for you

i hope you all the best in the future and keep us up to date all the best mate your EQ will come back once you feel better stress is shocking for EQ

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Hey Hawar,

The answer is yes, it is reversible. All of it.

We would love to offer some help and support, and give you some great info, but can't as long as you have that suicide word in there.

Any chance you want to edit that out?

[Hawar Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hawar]

Hello

Apologies about that. It's been removed now.

I really would appreciate advise on natural ways to get my old EQ back. Discovering my libido would be wonderful too, although maybe getting a girlfriend (sigh) might help that better. (looool)

I really want to leave stuff like Viagra as a last resort.

[JurassicBone Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JurassicBone]

Two words - Kegel Exercises!
You'll be pitching heat again in no time! lol

[Hawar Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hawar]

I have started them today, actually. But I'm really skeptical about its effect. Can they really improve your blood flow to the penis? Because my penis is well dead at the moment!

I'm not even sure that I'm doing them right but it still feels like it's doing nothing. But will carry on doing them, nonetheless.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Hey Hawar,

Like I said, it is reversible. Might take a little effort and time, but it is definitely doable.

The ED you are experiencing is likely due to the feelings you are having. The mind can be a big factor in how our body responds. Not only our penis and libido, but in other ways as well.

I can't diagnose you, as I am certainly not qualified. But it does sound like you might want to seek a professional to talk to. Someone who could help you better come to terms with the emotions your dealing with right now, and help you get back to a better view of things.

I understand money may be an issue if you haven't had work for a while, but there are services and people that will help you in any financial situation.

Everyone gets down sometimes. It happens. But you can't keep beating yourself up, or it will just make it worse.

PE and kegels will help with the physical part of it, but the mental side still needs to be addressed.

Have a look at these, and see if they can help brighten your view a bit. Chin up Hawar! You're stronger and more able than you think you are!

A quote that I love by one of our very esteemed members, TPW.

Everyone and I mean everyone (yes, you!) have talents and abilities. The question is not whether you have them, it is whether you recognize them in yourself.

Confidence is an internal state; a belief in oneself. Confidence does not require you to be the biggest, baddest or the best. It is about being completely at ease and accepting of who you are in each moment, interaction, experience and circumstance.

True confidence is about owning your values, beliefs, opinions, decisions, words, emotions without apology or explanations. It is about being who you are today and standing by that conviction; knowing that you are already enough; everything else is just gravy.

And a thread you may find helpful.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/735...onfidence.html

[actionbuddy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close actionbuddy]

Don't feel alone with this, bro... A lot of us experience this at various ages. Don't beat yourself up for it.

A/B

[Hawar Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hawar]

Thanks a lot, guys. I'll carry on doing Kegels. This morning I woke up with my morning wood slightly stiffer than it has been for ages. (Most of the time I wake up with nothing.) I hope that's a sign of improvement.

I will also go and see a doctor.

Btw, what's PE? Might need to discover that.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Good to hear Hawar, and yes, that's a good sign. And you're welcome.

PE is an acronym for Penis Exercises, or Penis Enlargement.

[Hawar Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hawar]

Do you get this tingling feeling when you're doing the Kegels, btw? Is that a confirmation that you're doing it right? (Tingling in the balls and pelvis area itself.)

[Hawar Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hawar]

I'm not saying it's down to the Kegel exercises, but my penis has shrunk even more now and it's become harder to get an erection as well. Also the penis skin stretches further than before.

I'm feeling so disheartened and sick right now. It seems being with a girl is something that will never happen to me and is something that's not meant to be in this (only) lifetime.

I'm fearing my erection problems are physiological which are probably harder to heal than mental. I'm not even experiencing any pleasure when I ejaculate. (I don't masturbate often as my libido is rock bottom, but sometimes I do it when I'm testing my penis.)

Please if someone can help me get my erection back normally, it would be appreciated forever.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

It looks you have kegel'd too much. Turtling is a sign of overtraining. Rest your pelvic floor some

If your pelvic floor is tight, I would advise against doing kegels, as kegels will just make it tighter.

Do you currently do a cardio exercise regime?

[Hawar Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hawar]

No, but I train with weights a lot and do a lot of core exercises to strengthen the muscles inside my abs and lower back muscles. (had a lower back injury few years ago and the physio has advised me to strengthen my core.)

You might be right about Kegeling too much, I'm feeling my pelvis area is slightly bigger and I can actually feel it sometimes when doing certain movements. (the feeling wasn't there before.)

[White_Hawk Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close White_Hawk]

Dude, I am in the same boat as you, EQ wise. I can get it up but I'm having trouble staying hard, even during actual sex. I'll start kegeling, I guess... in the meantime I would advise you to book an appointment with a urologist! I'll be doing the same. And let's solve this together!