[irishlanger]

Fella's, do any of you find that after you ejaculate your libido just dies. Its happening to me a lot lately that once i blow once thats it game over for at least 30mins. Its very frustrating. Any ideas on how to boost your libido to have it just springing back up ready for more just like it used to. Im only 28 so i know its not my age catching up with me.

[going411by7]

Hey, pal. Don't sweat it. Recharged after thirty minutes? That ain't bad! Remember that 28 is not 18. This too shall pass, and I'm sure you'll still have days when junior will spring right back to attention.

[Lazy 8]

Originally Posted by irishlanger

Fella's, do any of you find that after you ejaculate your libido just dies. Its happening to me a lot lately that once i blow once thats it game over for at least 30mins. Its very frustrating. Any ideas on how to boost your libido to have it just springing back up ready for more just like it used to. Im only 28 so i know its not my age catching up with me.

Don't sweat it, Irishlanger! You are experiencing what is known as "the refractory period" during which it is impossible for a man to achieve an erection after having an orgasm. For 18 year olds, this is about 15 minutes, on average. For older men, the average is 30 minutes but as you age, the refractory period increases. You can read about it here on Wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refractory_period_(sex)

P.S. It is age catching up with you!

[irishlanger]

Not what i wanted to hear Lazy, feel a bit old now.
Ah well it'll just make me more determined to master ejaculation control. I dont mind it as much if i know she is completely satisfied by the time it happens but when she is lying there panting pleading for more and you cant give it - thats when its a pain in the ass - makes you feel about 2 inches tall.
Anyway feels great being able to discuss this with others without being judged. F#ck dogs - this site is mans best friend.

[PhibbysHammer]

You dont have to cave in to mother nature's toll fee Irish. I'm 46 and started suffering your symptoms just after age 30 and lived with them for almost 15 years. Then I found this forum. By exersizing faithfully and using the supplements and minerals touted by the vets here, I function like I'm 25 again. I busted a large one a week ago about 2 mins after her first Orgasm and actually kept going for another 10 mins or so for her benefit. It was awesome and I'm sure I could have finished another round had she of had the strength to accomodate me. My problem now is how am I going to get my wife back to that "Pre aging" Libido so she can keep up with me. Stay with the forum and program and I bet you solve many of those problems.

[going411by7]

You're an inspiration, PH!!

[C.Phantasy]

A lot has to do with your thoughts at that moment.
Try this thought post Ejac "I will get an 10 out of 10 EQ in 10 minutes". It may work or at least reduce the RF phase.

[eompow]

Originally Posted by irishlanger

Fella's, do any of you find that after you ejaculate your libido just dies. Its happening to me a lot lately that once i blow once thats it game over for at least 30mins. Its very frustrating. Any ideas on how to boost your libido to have it just springing back up ready for more just like it used to. Im only 28 so i know its not my age catching up with me.

Hello Guy's

I know I sound redundant but work on MOM. Started working it around 30 years old and now I'm in the mid 50's. You will enjoy it. Go for it Guy's.

[HotRod]

Hi irishlanger,

Looks like you're getting some good input here.

Just to add a couple points, I think guys take on a lot of pressure to keep going to keep their women satisfied. I don't know how many women devote as much energy to making sure their men are satisfied in bed...and it shows. Most women I've been with were not quality lovers. I think they need instruction. And women make fun of men for not asking directions!

I haven't had too many sexual problems, but one thing I usually do almost instinctively is to try to make sure she's had her fill before I reach orgasm. So she's usually wiped out and just wants me to cum so she can rest.

So lots of foreplay. Push and pull - bring her arousal up and then just stop what you were doing or change pace. Lots of oral and manual stimulation before intercourse. Lots of other touching and fooling around too. Stop intercourse and go down on her. Break up your activities. There are some great ideas in Multi-Orgasmic Male on avoiding that step over the edge.

Some of this probably works best by working with your partner on timing rather than trying to do it all on your own.

Think about sustaining your pleasure first and her sustained pleasure will just be a natural byproduct of yours.