Keys to Picking up WOmen

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Got this off another forum. Thought it was interesting..

(credit to fovargoo of bodybuilding.com forums)

Getting women was always a struggle for me, I never understood what I was doing wrong or why women just weren't attracted to me, I was the typical average looking nice guy, and had no idea how to attract women, & basically listened to all that bs your mothers/sisters/family/girls tell you they want in a guy.

That is when I realized that I want to fix this part of my life so that it would no longer be something I need to worry about. I read the books, watched the DVD's, researched numerous topics on attracting women, body language, listened to the pros, how to become a leader and it could have been the best thing I have ever done for myself and I would like to show you what I have learned.

I am just going to rapid fire these because there are so many, if you would like me to expand on any topic just ask.

>>> Quit being a nice guy: They just don't get laid, they have let's just be friends tattooed on their forehead. Girls tell guys that they look for a nice guy, but most nice guys end up being boring. Keep reading for how to change this.

>>> Stop apologizing after every little thing you do

>>> ***Bring out good emotions in her: Instead of saying "that's cool," when she tells you she is a dancer or something, respond with: So what is it about dancing that you love & find so fulfilling??
This is great because to answer the question she has to think and feel that way about why she loves it. After her response, repeat it back to her "Oh so you love the feeling of expressing yourself on stage?" Hopefully you can see how this is different than normal boring conversation. I have girls say "Wow! No body has ever asked me that before!" and go onto ten-minute explanations of it and soon enough she is all over me. It works! If you can spark the good feeling vibes in a girl like this does, you will be golden.

>>> Don't be a wuss

>>> Stand up straight: By just working on standing up straight after awhile you will naturally become more confident, which is also a necessity in picking up women.

>>> ***Maintain eye contact just a little longer than she does: Just walk down the street and try this, women honestly will start giggling like little school girls when I do this because they finally see a man that's not afraid of them! Shying away and not maintaining eye contact is something a lot of girls have told me that they have no attraction for guys who do this.

>>> Do not point out when you are not funny

>>> ***Be CONFIDENT. If you don't think you are good enough then why should any girl think so?

>>> ***Stop being so needy/desperate
---You always hear women want what they cannot have & it could not be more true. If you act as if you could take or leave her it makes her think what is wrong with her because YOU aren't showing attraction for her. This makes you more dominant and she will try to impress YOU instead of vis versa. Women can smell desperation miles away and believe me its not a good thing.

>>> Be happy yourself before trying to make anyone else happy.
--- Ever noticed how all the cool kids that get all the women are having FUN? People in general want to be around others who are fun, if you show that you are always trying to have fun women will be flocking you like none other. This does many great things such as showing that you are also a LEADER, what women also look for.

>>> Be a leader

>>> Have some standards: Think about how in any sport for example, the teams that are most respected are the ones that are the biggest challenge.

>>> Don't ask her what you should do: If you have a set out plan its so much better than letting her plan the whole date etc. and it makes you see less boring. When she asks what do you want to do/what are you doing, which do you think sounds better?
---I don't know durr, what do you want to do?
or
---I am going to see X-Men at 7:30pm, do you want to go?
>>> Be adventurous: Don't let them know about every little thing you are going to do, make it a fun adventure for them, if they see you having a lot of fun they will want to have fun too & isn't that the point when you take them out??

>>> Rehearse how you would like your approach/date/whatever with women to go before it actually happens in your head: If you can vision the positive outcome it makes achieving it so much easier.

>>> Body language: Always act as if you are about to leave or could walk away from the situation (I don't mean look like a Debbie Downer, still keep an interesting conversation going while doing this). Goes back to showing that you aren't desperate & women see this and want to entertain you. You have probably seen this happen more from the girl looking away and the guy trying to keep her attention. Think about it, who looks more dominant/high status, the person trying to keep someone elses attention or the attention getter?

----Move when talking to a girl, take a couple steps back when she is talking to you (See above) but then come back. If you can get good at this it drives women crazy.

>>> Be FUNNY: If you can be funny alone you have a much better chance of getting girls than a lot of guys. Whenever you are out with a girl think about what is funny about this situation, or how can I play around with her to get her laughing.
----Remember how you used to joke around with girls when they were in elementary school? They haven't changed a whole lot, don?t be afraid to joke around with them.

>>> Don't laugh just to break the tension or to get her to laugh: It won't work unless you have some crazy ass donkey laugh like some of the youtube videos, but it most cases not a good idea

>>> Take a random word she says and give her crap about it

>>> Never answer her questions directly: Lots of fun to do with women.

>>> Engage her friends, start giving everyone **** right off the bat in a fun way

>>> Be a novelty man: Something new and exciting that she has never been exposed to

>>> Stop giving hot women compliments: If they are hot they get hit on all day long literally and have probably heard every compliment in the book so just stop doing it, she will put your compliment in her huge vault of other sappy compliments she's gotten. ---

>>> Mix a compliment with an insult: You are so cute when you whine. Etc etc.

>>> Take them out of their element: Take a fancy girl to a dirt bike race and have FUN

>>> Stop asking serious questions when on a date: Turn around things she says to something sexual or a word she says and give her crap for it to keep the mood light.

>>> Convey to her that you have 100's of women calling you: Think about this when you get her number...if you had tons of women calling you all day long would you really have time to call her the next day? Probably not. Learn to think this way and you will see a huge difference.

>>> Be the first one to say that if things don?t work out you guys can still be friends/tell her how you guys would never work out in a joking way: Girls are almost always the ones to put you in the friend zone first, so if you are the one to bring it up first she will be wondering why she doesn't qualify for you to be date material & will work to impress you!

>>> Have goals & passions in life: I think you can see why this would be a positive trait towards women.

>>> If a woman feels like you won?t take sleeping with her seriously then she will be more likely to sleep with you: Girls don't want to feel like hoes, so if you make it seem like its not a big deal she will feel much more comfortable about doing it.

>>> Take responsibility for making the moves: Also goes with her not wanting to feel like a slut, and makes you seem alpha/dominant/leader. Even if you get shut down just take a step back and slowly work on the magic until the time feels right again. Girls have all sorts of stupid tests and if you fail them like this one you are just another one of the guys who don't get it.

>>> Constantly improve yourself: If you are fat start going to the gym. If you are a stick try to bulk up, anything to build your attractiveness to them is always a plus. Try to keep up with a decent fashion trend/hairstyle etc. I mean look at almost any hot woman, style and dress is important to her life so she is probably looking for someone who is also stylish etc.

>>> Stop buying women drinks all night long, especially if it hasn't been working for you. So many times girls just use the nice guy to leech of free alcohol then they get drunk and go have sex with a guy that's more alpha. Just buying her drinks is not going to make her want you, you need to be personable & you can do this without wasting all you damn paycheck!


Approaches/Fun things to do when out

>>> Ask for their opinion on something. Try to avoid questions where they could answer it directly and you now have nothing to say and go into oh f@#$ I have nothing to say now mode.

>>> Ask which gender she thinks are bigger perverts/cheats on their spouses the most & bring up a story you have that can oppose their answer. Most girls will say that men cheat more/bigger perverts & I will tell a funny story about how girls will always grope me in inappropriate ways when I am out & explain how there is the popular song by Pleasure P called Boyfriend #2 etc etc.

>>> Tell her a story & if she gets into it stop halfway through and not tell her the rest.

>>> When walking with her if things are sticking out that you know she will have to dodge or move closer to your in a few feet to miss it slightly nudge her towards it a few feet away. She will get what you are doing and it is funny. Keep doing this the whole time but wait till a little bit sooner each time so she never knows when you are going to do it. It makes you unpredictable!

>>> If she is following right behind you start walking in circles

>>> Make up a fantasy world with just you guys. I will tell girls how we should just drop out of school and make a doughnut shop because that would be way more fun. And then say how we should also sell drugs in our doughnut shop at the same time and we can put it in the foods etc, they get really into it. They will face book me or call me a few days later asking when we are going to make our business lol.

>>> Imitate her with beer bottles/saltshakers/anyhting: Grab two and have one be you and act very cool and have her be like a whiney/biatch/geekey girl, change your voices for each one and just give her crap! They love it.

>>> Exaggerate the obvious/be playful

>>> Create mental puzzles for the girls to solve when you are not there. Tell them you have an awesome/scandalous story to tell them, but you have to tell them in person. All day they will be wondering wtf the story is about.

>>> Leave them a voicemail:"Hey ____ uhm I think you have a confession to make call me back"
When they call back make up some ridiculous story about how last night when you were home watching a movie you thought you saw her creeping outside your place stalking you last night when you were watching a movie.

>>> Be mysterious: Take her out on a date but don?t tell her where you are going/doing, just tell her what to wear. They go ape **** over this in a good way with excitement.

>>> At a restaurant: Hot Waitress: How many will be eating today? You: Just us/me, unless you would like to join me and use your employee discount to buy us free food?

[five_dollar_footlong]

not sure what you mean you want to pick women up for sex or walk up to start a relationship or conversation

[five_dollar_footlong]

for sex just talk to her and keep feeding each other drinks and get lucky

[baybabe]

Maintain eye contact just a little longer than she does: Just walk down the street and try this, women honestly will start giggling like little school girls when I do this because they finally see a man that's not afraid of them! Shying away and not maintaining eye contact is something a lot of girls have told me that they have no attraction for guys who do this.

YES YES YES!!!!!! This is SUPER HUGE!!
Everything else on the list...forget you EVER read it! This guy is leading you in the wrong direction, you have to be SUPER DUPER good looking to pull off acting like a completely self centered jerk-off.

The following statement is a contradiction. Its a contradiction because all the other statements tell you to say rude things and be dominating which are all things that will make her feel badly about herself and insecure.

Bring out good emotions in her: Instead of saying "that's cool," when she tells you she is a dancer or something, respond with: So what is it about dancing that you love & find so fulfilling??
This is great because to answer the question she has to think and feel that way about why she loves it. After her response, repeat it back to her "Oh so you love the feeling of expressing yourself on stage?" Hopefully you can see how this is different than normal boring conversation. I have girls say "Wow! No body has ever asked me that before!" and go onto ten-minute explanations of it and soon enough she is all over me. It works! If you can spark the good feeling vibes in a girl like this does, you will be golden

[kingpole]

Originally Posted by baybabe

YES YES YES!!!!!! This is SUPER HUGE!!
Everything else on the list...forget you EVER read it! This guy is leading you in the wrong direction, you have to be SUPER DUPER good looking to pull off acting like a completely self centered jerk-off.

The following statement is a contradiction. Its a contradiction because all the other statements tell you to say rude things and be dominating which are all things that will make her feel badly about herself and insecure.

Yeah i picked that one up to. Being rude is a good way to get slapped or immediatly dumped.

What about the ignoring her part BB do you think men should play the "i don't need you role?" I have ignored women all my life, well they just ignore me right back. So now i talk to them more often than not. Like they are human and not something to be ignored.

I beleive you can be confidant w/o being a jerk. If a woman gets with a jerk eventiually he will jerk her by the hair, Hit her, beat her, give her black eyes....Now ain't that romantic!

[RockofFox]

Originally Posted by kingpole

I beleive you can be confidant w/o being a jerk. If a woman gets with a jerk eventiually he will jerk her by the hair, Hit her, beat her, give her black eyes....Now ain't that romantic!

Good point. My wife has always said confidence is the thing she finds most attractive in men. That confidence will make an average looking guy seem better looking. There is no point acting arrogant if your not really that way inclined. Guys think your a wanker and so will your mates if you suddenly change to mr hero guy.

[Pegasus]

ARgggg games!

[MrBigDick]

Ah yes, dating games, don't you just love 'em??? I do. NOT! There's a fine line between arrogance and confidence.

[eompow]

Civility, manors and etiquette combined with leadership, drive, steel strength and a soft touch. Don't play the game be the only game for her.

[Nikki]

Did this great, macho guy who wrote this article bother to furnish any photos of all the hot babes he has picked up? Were they drunk, fat, ugly, psycho?

There is NO standard way to meet women. We are all different so what works on one girl, will not necessarily work on another. That is why I have written several posts stating you guys just need to be yourself. Be outgoing, smile, ask her various questions to get her talking, have confidence in yourself, etc.

This "bad boy" mentality doesn't work on as many women as you may think. Maybe young girls who are so insecure about themselves that they think those kinds of guys are hot, but when you get past the college-aged women and get out in the real world, you will see we think those guys are jerks.

So, again, just be yourself. You will attract some girls and, unfortunately, you will turn off some girls. But at least you didn't sell your soul just to impress a woman! I realize it takes time to talk to a strange girl, but if you constantly practice you will see in a small amount of time how easy it is to do!