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  • Why is Sex Still Taboo?

    With the subject matter of my blog and its presence on social media coming under fire lately and the recent banning of a high school sex education book by angry California parents because it included frank discussions about things such as masturbation and bondage (see link below), I am once again reflecting on the reasons why sex continues to be taboo.

    The following excerpt by columnist Scott Shuster was originally published in 2005 but raises some valid issues don't you think?

    "So much of our culture, our media, our daily routine, our very fiber of existence comes down to sex. You think ‘Sell it with Sex’ is just a marketing ploy? How much of our promotion and advertising is centered on sex? How much of the Internet is pornography? How much sex is the focus of our fashion? The reality is that sex is an integral part of our culture. It’s practically the very root of that “pursuit of happiness” concept. Sex drives us. Sex manipulates us. Sex burns our blood.

    Here’s The Irony

    While our culture relentlessly shoves sex down our throat 24/7, our society postures sex as taboo. A perfect example is the initiative for abstinence-only education that our stuck-up, religion-based government is wasting our tax dollars on, instead of birth control, traditional contraception, and family planning. Why does our so-called ‘morality’ insist that sex is only for those who are married, and even then only done in private? Why is sex something that certain religions still forbid out of wedlock? Why don’t we talk about sex at work and with our friends?

    With certain exceptions we don’t talk about sex. We’re not supposed to. We don’t talk about masturbation, yet it’s widely acknowledged that it’s perfectly normal. Those who DO talk about these things are labeled ‘Perverts’ and chastised in our society. But we all do it. We all think it. We all want it. So why is sex so taboo? Why do we continue to cover up nipples and crotches on commercial television? Why is prostitution illegal? Why did Janet Jackson’s tit launch a national crusade for decency?

    Of course we all like sex, so why don't we just condone it? No argument that there needs to be understanding, consideration, protection, maturity, discretion, and responsibility in the process, but why don't we just admit we like sex, give in to our desires, and be open about it, instead of hiding it and pretending it doesn't take place ALL THE TIME? What if sex wasn't a forbidden fruit? Would we crave it as much? Would we be thinking about sex morning, noon, and night if our society and our culture were more open?"

    What are your thoughts?


    Sex education book featuring bondage shelved after outcry from US parents | Books | theguardian.com

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  • #2
    Our nation was founded by the "Pureitons"
    They fled from religious persecution and the values they had
    have been very slow to overcome.
    Just like prejudice, even after many generations it is still rampant in society, from all sides. It will take many more generations and much melding for this to not be an issue.
    Yes, sex sells because it is naughty for all the reasons you stated above.
    Some commercials are so blatant it makes me wonder if the writers, producers and ad agency's weren't all stoned at the time.
    But...Sex sells. Even with all the back-lash from the religious groups, money is still the bottom line. As to why we are still such a prudish nation?

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    • #3
      One of the many reasons is we live in such a competitive society and anything others can do to control individuals or groups of people such as views on sex, is fair game to these controlling people. I am so sick of hearing the words, bitch, slut, small dick (not that having one is bad but it is when used as a derogatory term) and these are all words to control and shame others. Society writ large lives by these rules unfortunalety, but we have this little corner of the world where we are free to express our views without too much negative feedback. Thank you PEGym. Looking forward to other points of view.
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      • #4
        Yes, it is quite the irony that our media tends to billboard sex all over the place, even in selling of products, and yet in most personal circles and social groups, it tends to be a "squirmy" subject, especially as one delves more into "fringe" areas of sexual desires and acts.

        We generally seem to have quite the uptight, fearful society when it comes to an experience that 99.99 percent of the adult population engages in very regularly. lol
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        • #5
          Taboo? Hey animals have sex and it's not taboo to them is it? So why is it taboo with humans? Do you think that maybe we're a bit more advanced than animals ( well some of us are) and that sex for humans does carry a responsibility ( like getting pregnant). Maybe it's not the sex that is taboo but the fact that responsibility goes with sex that may make it so.
          The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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          • #6
            I blame Disney and fig leaves.
            "Those who know others have knowledge,
            those who know themselves have insight.
            Those who master others have force,
            those who master themselves have strength". - Lao Tzu

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            • #7
              In my opinion, education is the best route to avoid all the major problems we may be facing today, people get in trouble because they don't know anything about it, they have desires and urges but the they face the scrutiny of society so they look elsewhere for guidance, some turn to porn some get inhibited and so on so forth but most do miss out on so much as things get too complicated for them.

              If everything is explained simply and openly from the beginning, in a sensible manner, neither prude nor crude, I bet that many social, psychological and relationship problems would go away in no time.

              Knowledge is power, we learn how to pick food and how to cook because we need nourishment, we love food, so we educate ourselves on it, why sexuality is so different, we get harmed bad when we are blinded by ignorance, just like with food, watch out for that mushroom it could poison you, but look there, see that (insert favorite food here) it tastes delicious especially when done like so and so, knowledge is important.

              If we want to save the youth, we'd better teach them, share our knowledge and experience, because when we don't they may harm themselves while seeking it, or miss out on much that they loose a great part of the experience that is life.

              Now imagine if such knowledge is ready in a suitable form for their age, to teach them without harming them, these days, kids in their early teens are exposed to porn without any form of understanding, worse, they keep it a secret to avoid their parent's wrath, that leads to misshaping of their mentality and future, its that age when they should learn the basics, humans are curious creatures by nature, so if those kids were educated, first they won't turn to porn, nor the internet for information, second, they would ask their parents and discuss whatever is on their minds, third they have reliable sources of correct information guaranteeing a healthy upbringing and mentality, the world would be a lot more different than we know it, and this is not a minor issue, its just over looked by many.
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              • #8
                "Why is sex something that certain religions still forbid out of wedlock? "

                With certain religions you can get yourself killed.

                The religious crowd is very violent because in their mind they do things for their God because that's how he wants it done. There will be a book from way back when to instruct what is right or wrong. You challenge any of that and you are against their God, who being God is always right. The very religious tend to be the very poor which compounds the problem. Same problem with ghetto people, they fight to the death over the stupidest things because they don't have much else in their life.


                You can try to fight the religious nuts but you will not chance their minds. In general the poorer you are the more religious you are, simply God is control of your life not you.
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                • #9
                  Originally posted by CUSP82 View Post
                  sex for humans does carry a responsibility ( like getting pregnant). Maybe it's not the sex that is taboo but the fact that responsibility goes with sex that may make it so.
                  Exactly!

                  For me, I feel it's not the school system's place to teach my children anything other than education material. It is my place to let my children know about the birds and the bees and all the in between. So, if the schools must teach them something, I'd rather it be abstinence-only education.

                  Why are we(as a whole) so hush hush about sex? We have such a melting pot of different cultures/religions in today's society, so we have to go middle ground on about everything, cause everybody's right and we should respect their cultures/religions. All I can do, is be the best me and try my best to teach the children I'm raising according to our family's beliefs. Everything has a time and place and society teaches our children enough without our consent before we even realize it. I would not want to see a bunch of tits, ass, and crotch shots during normal evening tv programs while my kids are up watching with us. Not good!

                  Sex carries such a big responsibility and with every Tom, Dick, and Harry trying to "teach" our children about it, I hope children don't get a false sense of responsibility with all the education they've received and sex looses its grander.
                  Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others.
                  If you want love, give love.
                  If you want honesty, give honesty.
                  If you want respect, give respect.
                  You get in return, what you give.

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                  • #10
                    Hypocrisy. Most americans are exactly that.Judging everyone else,but yet are the exact same way. Perfect example are shitty drivers who talk shit about other shitty drivers. Same thing,OMG did he say that? Yet your cheating on your spouse?? People like to put themselves on a higher platform than they really are on,so sex is a big no no to talk about.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by The Passionate Wife View Post
                      With the subject matter of my blog and its presence on social media coming under fire lately and the recent banning of a high school sex education book by angry California parents because it included frank discussions about things such as masturbation and bondage (see link below), I am once again reflecting on the reasons why sex continues to be taboo.
                      I remember when they had sex ed in elementary school it was second grade. 18-19 years ago. One of the other kids said my penis looked like the one if the sex ed video .

                      total fuck up I did not get permission from my parents to be able to view the video...........I think it was a screw up by them .I think that was the point that fucked me over to having a sex life..


                      They pretty much set me up to FAIL and I took the bait.. I think this was done to make my older brother and 2 older sisters look better.


                      just like aweek ago my mom said

                      so when are you going to get a girlfriend when are you going to have a grandchild...
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Thick_Unit View Post
                        I remember when they had sex ed in elementary school it was second grade. 18-19 years ago. One of the other kids said my penis looked like the one if the sex ed video .

                        total fuck up I did not get permission from my parents to be able to view the video...........I think it was a screw up by them .I think that was the point that fucked me over to having a sex life..


                        They pretty much set me up to FAIL and I took the bait.. I think this was done to make my older brother and 2 older sisters look better.


                        just like aweek ago my mom said

                        so when are you going to get a girlfriend when are you going to have a grandchild...
                        Wow, second grade and kids are saying your penis looked like the one in the video? Where you showing your penis at recess or something? Lol. It effed you up from having a sex life? You were in second grade! Second Graders don't need sex lives. And if YOU chose to hang on to this and turn it on your parents almost 20 years later, that's on you, not them.

                        I didn't get permission to watch the video when I was in Jr. High School. My sex life is perfectly normal.
                        Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others.
                        If you want love, give love.
                        If you want honesty, give honesty.
                        If you want respect, give respect.
                        You get in return, what you give.

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                        • #13
                          Glad I am not american.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by someone_like_u View Post
                            Wow, second grade and kids are saying your penis looked like the one in the video? Where you showing your penis at recess or something? Lol. It effed you up from having a sex life? You were in second grade! Second Graders don't need sex lives. And if YOU chose to hang on to this and turn it on your parents almost 20 years later, that's on you, not them.

                            I didn't get permission to watch the video when I was in Jr. High School. My sex life is perfectly normal.
                            no the urinal went all the way to the floor there was really no chance of making a mess there was no dividers.no my parents are fairly close minded about it and it became a problem.



                            14-15 is typical age when when people start having sex

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                            • #15
                              I think young teenagers deserve to discover sexuality, intimacy between themselves, discover who they are, what a relationship is. They need time, good and bad experiences to help them build what they will be as a consequence of what they are, what they desire and enjoy, without any pressure.
                              Sure enough they must be advised about the necessity of condoms (yet they don't need to learn one by one all the disgusting illnesses they may get through sex before they've even held the hand of their lover), they must be warn off porn (difficult to manage it these days).
                              Otherwise I'm sure they'll do just fine.
                              Even more so if they're raised in a great manner, confidence in themselves and respect to the others.


                              I agree it isn't always easy to talk about it with friends, parents or whatever, but in many cases you can find a few persons you can talk to if you dare open yourself.
                              Talking about sex involves the false ideas on performance , of comparing yourself to the other etc..So what concerns me more is if one doesn't have someone close enough to be open and free with him.

                              Then I'm not American so... as for religion..

                              .....humhum what can I say we all know children must be taught we descend from the sin of Adam and Eve and not from the monkeys.....
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