Trying to convince boyfriend to not go under the knife

[sorly4]

Hey there, I'm new here and just joined today. I'm Rina, and I joined here to look for some advice regarding my boyfriend who is obsessed with penis enlargement.

He measures about 4 inches erect is actually very good in bed, but he is so insecure about his size that it often affects our daily romp sessions. He's tried various pills and even bought a penis pump, but none of it gave him the results he wanted.

Right now he is considering a phalloplasty, but I really do not want him to go through with it. Any advice on how to talk him out of it?

[PEskeptic]

Tell him about this site. Obviously you two have a very open relationship. Express clearly that you love him and his penis, but if he wishes to enlarge it, and if he really loves you, he will give this a try.

[eternia]

yes tell him about this site. It can change lives.

[JonasKay]

Hey Rina,

I know that there are some guys here who have considered a phalloplasty - myself included - and/or have gone through with it. Everything I've read says it is NOT the thing to do. Even if the surgery goes well, it can still affect erection quality and angle, and you have to do extensive exercises afterwards to make sure that the tissues heal properly. I don't know if you can really "talk him out of it." You can support him and educate him, but he has to be the one to make the decision not to go through with it. Maybe he should consider coming here for a couple months? I really think that there's a major psychological benefits to being on these forums. It's not just a gym here; it's a good support system. Hopefully other members will chime in!

[MrBigDick]

yes tell him about this site. It can change lives.

Amen man.......

[Vanil]

Seems like he just wants results quickly rather than putting effort into PE.

These are things he should be doing:

If he's overweight, exercise and eat right. Reducing body fat can make the penis look larger as it removes some of the fat pad. Better blood circulation will lead to better erection quality.

Stretch/jelq routine:

- Warm up with a hot wash cloth (soaked in water) over crotch for 10-15 minutes, until the penis feels loose.
- Grip the penis behind the glans like this: =(=)=D and stretch for 25-30 seconds up, down, left, right, and straight out for 2-3 repetitions
- Lather up the penis and hands with lubrication (Vaseline is good for this) and jelq slowly from the base right up to before the glans 50-100 times, alternating with the right and left hands. Shake the penis after that, then repeat the jelqs (this time doing it underhand)
- Cool down by covering the crotch with a hot wash cloth.

He should do this once a day, 2 days on 1 day off. So his schedule would look like this:
Week 1: Monday/Tuesday, Thursday/Friday, Sunday
Week 2: Monday, Wednesday/Thursday, Saturday/Sunday,
Week 3: Tuesday/Wednesday, Friday/Saturday, Monday
Week 4: Tuesday, Thursday/Friday, Sunday/Monday
Week 5: Week break
Week 6: Monday/Tuesday, Thursday/Friday, Sunday (cycle begins again)


When he finishes his routine and cleans up he should spend a half hour or hour edging, which is basically stimulating and maintaining an erection without trying to orgasm.


He'll notice that his erections will have improved, and after a few weeks he'll see a small increase in penis size. Four inches on the starting day, but possibly 4.3 on week 4. By week 10 he could already be close to 5 inches if he does the jelq/stretch/edge routine.

Make sure he keeps a log of what he's doing to keep him motivated.

"Day 1 - August 10th, 2011. Starting Stats: Bone Pressed Erect Length: 4.5in, NBPEL: 4 inches, girth: ??? Routine for the day: Warm up 10 minutes | 30sec Stretches x 3 | Jelqs: 200 | Warm down | edging"


He's gotta get rid of the pills, most of the time those are just scams. Pumps do work, but he has to invest in a quality pump and find a routine that works. (Just pumping a few times won't change things, it's a long term effort.)

Surgery should be an option only when all other alternatives have been exhausted, and even then, you should show him the photos from the guy who has a hole in his crotch that exposes his insides because the surgery didn't go so well. It just may make him appreciate what he has down there!

[Pirate]

Get him a copy of "Exercising the Penis." It is a great book and available from Amazon.com.

[Unit]

Well I found this thread heres the link. Re: What exactly do they do in PE surgery and an other, It's You tube documenty about one mans surgery. http://www.youtube.com/verify_age?ne...%3DoM6MsrkUiM0

[XitemeM]

Manual PE is healthier, will often achieve a more pleasing result, costs nothing, and can give a genuine sense of pride and accomplishment that surgery can't match, and results can be made to be permanent.

He needs to get his arse on this forum

[calixto]

Get him a copy of "Exercising the Penis." It is a great book and available from Amazon.com.

I totally agree.

Also, I really think that hanging (I use the Bib Hanger) is the tried and true way to really really gain a great deal (2-4 inches) over a 2 year period.

It takes time and consistency. This is elemental if one is to gain significantly.