Without carrying on, I'll give you guys and girls a brief synopsis of my story. Im a college student now, 21 and until last year didn't have any serious relationships with girls or women (I was 20 @ the time). Met a girl, wasn't too hot on her at first but we grew tighter and I started to really feel strong emotions when around her, she felt the same (or at least I thought she did) being that she initially pursued me and I was fine with just being friends. She really wanted to take it to the next level and I was a bit wary at first, as crazy as I was about her I still remained a little skeptic due to my understanding of how people our age operate. Long story short, we wind up having sex. At first once in a while, then over the next few months a few times a week. At the time I met her I was really unhealthy, stressed out and just in a slump. I chose to include this because it has much significance to the story and my performance with her. We got super intimate on a daily basis, I loved being around her. There's no doubt there was attraction however I had trouble obtaining erections, and even when I got hard enough to penetrate they were still weak. Foreplay was always great, prolonged and we both did a lot of oral on one another. (Probably subconsciously because I was aware I couldn't last more than 30 seconds) Rarely would I get the wood I wanted. Things seemed fine, but I knew they weren't. I was a virgin before this and she was far from that, being the case she already had a standard and was pretty hyper sexual. It seemed she wanted to initiate all the time by rubbing my cock, sucking me , etc. Aside from the sexual realm (I know this isn't the relationship thread), I really had feelings for this girl. just want to clarify it wasn't just a lust thing. We started communicating and were pretty open, she expressed her concern and encouraged me to get my dick "checked out". Not in a mean way, I think her greatest fantasy was me being able to provide for her. Hence her trying everything with me to try and get me aroused constantly. I knew it was just from my lifestyle of working 40 hrs a week minumum wage, smoking pot, eating poorly, no exercise and probably conditioned due to excessive masturbation as a teen and rubbing out a lot of quickies to porn and ish. Regardless, she's not in the picture anymore. I have no hard feelings for her nor do I regret the time spent, now that I got more personal time I began wanting to better myself (for me and for future women). I felt like I let myself down and wanted more than anything to give her a wild orgasm or a few of them (thru penetration), def. got the manual thing covered. Since she's been out of the picture I've looked into correcting all the things I mentioned above to improve my penis health. I started working out, quit doing drugs, cleaned up my diet and started taking cayenne pepper supplement. In addition to that, I found PE Gym through my research and have actually been lurking these threads for about 4 months now on and off. I love the sense of community and honesty here and thats why I decided to make an account.
As far as my routine, I began practicing Kegels and Reverse Kegels probably like 50 reps of each 3 times a week, usually resting in between days. I always do a hard squeeze and hold for about 3-5 seconds each rep. I had no set schedule, just kept a mental note and did them while typing, on the bus, you get it. I've had my periods of being physically fit throughout my teenage years and am pretty in touch with my body. I already knew about the PC muscle from stopping urination as a kid, don't know why I did that? Maybe I've had this PE thing in me all along. (learning all the lingo is new to me though) Initially, my goal was strictly to improve EQ and stop premature ejaculation. Which I knew went hand in hand, that week wood= busting quick. However after coming across this site i've been overwhelmed to say the least. I didn't even know you could practice exercise for size gains. I wasn't truly content with my size ( don't think many guys are) so I said what the hell, might as well try to gain a lil too. I began jelqing on a pretty regular basis in conjunction with a edging routine. Within a month of the kegels and exercise I was getting full blown hard ons and was pretty satisfied. After about 6 weeks of wet jelqs I noticed my EQ declining, It got this far because initially I enjoyed the exercise and saw small gains in flaccid hang the day after... I was doing like 100-150 reps in the shower or prior to an edging session like 5-6 times a week. Barely resting, I wasn't using a vice grip but it could've been a little looser. I looked into it and my assumption was right, the jelqs were causing my EQ to go down. I immediately laid off (haven't done any in the past month) and after reading a lot here realized size isn't really a concern of mine since im pretty average nor do I want to invest my time into some of the super intensive workouts some engage in for a small gain. Im currently sporting like a 6.5 nbpel and like 5.0 girth, bpel somewhere around 7.25-7.50. Im pretty content with my size now but just want feedback on my routine for improving stamina and EQ. I still feel there's a lot of work to do. I will admit Im still guilty of doing some quickies which I know are a catalyst for premature ejaculation. So I've promised myself to only edge and may ballon as well on a every 4th session busting cycle like many speak of here. Since I cut the jelqing out, my erections are coming back, not what they were at the beginning of my training, but I definitely didn't do permanent damage. I wasn't really bruised or anything, no pain soreness, just probably overworked a little. Im going to continue to kegel and reverse kegel and am open to all criticism and strategies you can share with me. Currently i'm still kegeling on a random schedule, but on a 50/50 k/rk routine and do that a few times a week, resting days in there. Been studying for school so I haven't been beating off or looking at porn at all, want to get back into edging sessions when I have some more time and my units ready. I've noticed a difference in my penis health since my lifestyle change and just got a little too over zealous with the jelqs. Overall, i'm happy with the progress I've made in such short time (haven't been able to use it with a lady, but not in a rush either as Im pretty sentimental and don't want one night stands). I know with the experience and knowledge some of you have you can shed some light on this situation. Thanks everyone. Peace.