The ‘friend zone’ has come up on these boards and I decided I’d do a quick write up about my views here. I have been influenced somewhat by Mode One by Alan Roger Currie. He makes clear what kind of behavior men exhibit in healthy (and unhealthy) interactions with women. In all cases, remember that you have the right to identify and express what you’re looking for with any given woman. You don’t owe her friendship and she does not owe you attraction. Without any further delay, there are three categories

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I bet you know someone like this: He never exercises. He’s out of shape, sedentary and planning to finally start exercising.

And when he takes the plunge and gets in the gym and begins to watch his diet, things start to change, right? He begins to see improvement and for the first time in years, he believes in himself. It’s great.

But did he find the magic workout routine? Did he find the magic macro nutrient ration? No, on both accounts. In fact, all he really did was

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The indirect opener. Negging the target. Spiking DHV’s. It all seemed so different. So new. Maybe that’s what drew me to PUA. What I had been doing clearly wasn’t working, so maybe trying something totally different, albeit unusual, would lead to success with women. How could I argue with the success of guys like Mystery, or Neil Strauss (a.k.a Style), especially considering the success of his book The Game?

Talk of underground lairs and nicknames gave PUA a sense of camaraderie amongst

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I remember back in middle school when guys were first starting to notice attractive girls. A developing pair of breasts. A nice round butt in skin-tight pants moving in rhythm with a girl's step. Her hips seductively swaying from side to side. It was natural to look - sometimes even stare.

There was a level of camaraderie among men as well as an obligation to alert your guy friends of an approaching cutie. "6 o'clock, bud." And we'd turn our heads like clockwork or discreetly

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I'm starting a small blog series about Nice Guy behaviors. There seem to be a number of posts around here by guys who have surprisingly similar experiences and struggles when it comes to inviting women into their lives. I hope that sharing learning experiences, both positive and negative, can be productive.

My journey towards really improving myself came about roughly 9 months ago when I really hit rock bottom. It was easily the darkest point in my life, but it caused me to do a few

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