how to tell if your wife likes/wants a bigger dick?

[tbowne Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close tbowne]

Hey Gang,

Can't ask her directly but she has made a couple references over the last 10 yrs about size. I am 6.25 x 4.75 and a good 9 eq. I can go as long as needed and she usually orgasms. She only needs a minute or two and then wants me to hurry up. I don't think my size is a deal breaker by any means but I would like to know if she longs/fantasizes/whishes for a larger unit.

I am comfortable with my self and don't really need PE to be happy, but I am going to continue. I know that she dated a well endowed fellow years ago. She only mentioned in passing that it was big and nothin else. So as far as I see it any damage from finding out now is already done.

Btw, stealth PE for 6 weeks.

Any suggestions?

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

My biggest suggestion is to not ask dumb questions. Nothing good will come of it at all!

[Messerschmidt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Messerschmidt]

Grow larger with PE, if she doesn't complain, you have your answer.

[Captain Dallas Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Captain Dallas]

Personally the only way to find out in my opinion is to tell her about PE and that you want to try it and see her reaction. This makes it safe for her to be honest. This is how I did it with my wife. My biggest concern at the time was that she would be upset about the dangers and so forth-but she was excited. She made it clear that I was already big but changing it sounded interesting-she was excited. She was also happy that I wanted to please her even more.

I question if a woman would be honest if you just ask her without a safe zone like this (ie "I'm making it bigger, what do you think?) Not because I think women are dishonest but it's no different than us-would you tell your wife if you thought her ass was too big? No, not unless you're a fool. There ARE times to be respectfully dishonest, her saying it's ok even though she would like bigger is one of those times.

So - by telling her YOU want it bigger and can do so, you'll make it safe and okay for her to say "sounds like fun" or something else at least indicating she's open to it.

If I were you, I'd do what wish I did-which was very effective: I did an extender for a long time hoping she'd notice. Then finally brought it up, etc. But when I started jelqing, the gains were huge and quick and she couldn't stop talking about it-she loved it. If I could do it over again, I'd jelq until she noticed and let her bring it up-that to me would be fun. Jelqing is very little work for the big gains you get (or at least that I got and am getting), so you might try it-it's very fun and I bet you'll get hooked.

[sweetie52 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sweetie52]

If your partner has never said anything to you-don't worry. Worrying will complicate things. If she "critisizes" you-look further into why this is happening. As far as hurrying up- if she comes first; sometimes the desire to go on gets a little dim. If you orgasm first, she will have something to strive for-and no one will be hurrying.

[Panther Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Panther]

I told mine about PE. She has said, many times, your penis is perfect - no need to do anything.

However, after my first inch of gain and increased girth she said "wow, its bigger and looks great" In other words she likes it bigger.

This doesn't mean she didn't like my cock before. Just means she still likes it, even though its bigger. Moral of the story don't even ask or talk about it.

Only reason I told my girlfriend is because I couldn't get enough private time to do a good routine. So I told her and lock myself in the bedroom for my routine. I do not let her watch or let her in or let her know what my routine is.

[Captain Dallas Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Captain Dallas]

^Me too: I told my wife because I really needed to have more time to do PE, and that was only possible if she knew what was going on. However, I totally let her be involved. When I jelq, she helps me get it hard again and it's really fun watching her watch it. She doesn't do it always, but at least 1-2 times a week she's very interested, talking about it, looking, touching-it's fun. She's my cheerleader now.

But I still think it would be more fun if they had to figure it out without being told, as it would just be so nice to out of the blue, "are you getting bigger???" or something like that.

[bobberick Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bobberick]

I think that's why I'll have to eventually come completely clean. When I officially move in with my girlfriend, I'll need more time.

As far as the OP's question, I don't know, but I have an experience that may or may not shed some light. My girlfriend's boobs grow ridiculously about a week before her period. I know most women have body fluctuations, but her's are like nothing I've ever seen or felt. They go from soft B's, to solid C's... every month. That said, I like them either way. I really do. I wouldn't wish them to be one way or another. (Truth be told, put a gun to my head and I'd want them smaller.) Anyway, as far as that goes, I don't have a preference, and its because I love her completely. I love everything about her and the fluctuations are all part of the allure. She gets upset because she put on five pounds. In the meantime, I freaking love it! She's in awesome shape and the 5 lbs is nothing. I'll take her either way. I always will.

I think that's the way you need to approach your curiosity here. If you two are in love, I don't think it will ever matter. She would probably enjoy your penis larger, but the key word is "YOUR." I think guys, me included, think of a larger penis and always associate with some stud of a man with some huge dong. But that's not the case. In an intimate relationship, if she wanted your penis larger, it would only because its YOUR penis. Listen, you may have a beer gut... does she love you? Would she love you the same if you trimmed up? Would she enjoy the look and feel of your flatter stomach? Yeah... she probably would, but that doesn't mean she doesn't completely want you the way you are now.

I would even say that if your penis started magically shrinking, she'd be fine with it too. People adapt to each other. Our relationships aren't concrete and things are always changing. People who belong together, change with each other.

So after all that rambling, I say GO FOR IT! She may not "want" a bigger one, but if YOURS is bigger, I'm sure she'd be ecstatic. I highly doubt that she ever even thinks about it. Take it from me. I went from 6.125" to 8" BPEL with the same woman in less than a year. I see absolutely no difference with the way she treats me or loves me. But does she enjoy me larger? ...I'm sure she does. Did she wish I was bigger when I was average? I highly doubt it. We loved each other and I made sure she was satisfied in bed. ...which you already do.

Ramble over.

[ExS Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ExS]

Very nice response Bobberick, I agree with everything you say! Not a ramble, in my opinion, but rather a well thought out opinion.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

My wife hs known from the start taht I pe, said she liked it the way it was and now she likes since it has grown. She says she gets stronger orgasms but is sometimes sore now afterwards. I guess there are pros and cons but i know my wife would like sex with me the same if I quit PE.
that sure as hell aint happening anytime soon, lol

[RockstarParkingDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RockstarParkingDude]

a good woman makes a man want to better himself. so better yourself.

[bxitachi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bxitachi]

like panther i told both my ex and my current gf
both had the same its good now and the "damn it feels even better now" response so i took it to mean PE helps but self confidence and good technique matters as well.

[killerbeedick Member Find all posts View Profile Close killerbeedick]

Hey Gang,

Can't ask her directly but she has made a couple references over the last 10 yrs about size. I am 6.25 x 4.75 and a good 9 eq. I can go as long as needed and she usually orgasms. She only needs a minute or two and then wants me to hurry up. I don't think my size is a deal breaker by any means but I would like to know if she longs/fantasizes/whishes for a larger unit.

I am comfortable with my self and don't really need PE to be happy, but I am going to continue. I know that she dated a well endowed fellow years ago. She only mentioned in passing that it was big and nothin else. So as far as I see it any damage from finding out now is already done.

Btw, stealth PE for 6 weeks.

Any suggestions?

every woman will always want to feel that ominious "full" feeling... there is always good sex or knowing how to use your tongue and lasting long, or being super hard, but there is also that "full" pussy being stretched feeling too, its just part of a different kind of sex... the more time goes on the more kinky sex can get, you try new things, some buy big dildo's and some even go as far as letting there wives fuck bigger dicked men... even if you give your wife the greatest orgasim and the best sex, they may always wonder what it feels like to be stretched to the limit, even if it means they won't like it, and even if it hurts, its just something instilled in there brains, its part of that Fruedien obsession in adult development, seeing there fathers naked for instance, implanting an idea of large penises (even if papa is small, its still huge to a young girl), seeing porn at a young age, what ever it maybe, they will always wonder! another thing is if they had a larger lover in the past, and if they liked it, well then you just have to make up for it with foreplay and other things, but if they didn't like it, then hell, i wouldn't even think about it... i am actualy getting married to girl who has never had a bigger dick then me, and to her my dick is actualy to much anyway, i have to go easy or it hurts but she still loves the idea of knowing i can hurt her anytime i want, she's a nypho that way... i wouldn't marry a woman or even go out with one for long that have had bigger dongers, i always ask about it and if they say they have been with a horse dicked guy, and the dew that have majority wise say they don't really like it anyway, well regardless i still dump them eventualy!

[CaptainUnderpants Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CaptainUnderpants]

Hey Gang,

Can't ask her directly but she has made a couple references over the last 10 yrs about size. I am 6.25 x 4.75 and a good 9 eq. I can go as long as needed and she usually orgasms. She only needs a minute or two and then wants me to hurry up. I don't think my size is a deal breaker by any means but I would like to know if she longs/fantasizes/whishes for a larger unit.

I am comfortable with my self and don't really need PE to be happy, but I am going to continue. I know that she dated a well endowed fellow years ago. She only mentioned in passing that it was big and nothin else. So as far as I see it any damage from finding out now is already done.

Btw, stealth PE for 6 weeks.

Any suggestions?

tbowne - It sounds to me, from the tone of your questions, that you are more interested in doing PE for her not for you (maybe I misread between the lines). I do PE for me because I want a big dick. I don't think I would have the committment and patience to acheive goals otherwise, but certainly the wife has benefited and enjoys the larger unit and endurance.

Best of luck to you. I did find it easier to talk to her and open up the lines of communication after I had some success and had been doing it for about 6 weeks. From my prospective it seemed easier to tell her after I had some noticable gains. So maybe come clean and see what she thinks.

[killerbeedick Member Find all posts View Profile Close killerbeedick]

i am completely open with my girl from the start! i told her i was i was reading stuff on the internet about dick pumping and that it helped with erections and orgasims and that it could make it fatter too... i said to her that i didn't even care about if it made my dick bigger, but that i wanted better orgasims and better erections rather... but of course a bigger unit is way more fun to play with, its a novelty of sorts... she loves it and thinks all my toys and gagets are cute and funny, and i even tell her when i'm about to PE, i bring out my bathmate and dry hump her with it lol... so ya make it fun, tell her it may not be so drastic of an increase in penis size either, but indeed no matter what the case, stress that it will better your sexual health! do for her, do it for you and do it for the tons of other dudes that want to know about your seccess!