Opposite of Premature Ejaculation

[MoreDP]

Anyone else have the problem of the opposite of premature ejaculation? 99% of the time I cannot cum during sex. I must do it myself.

If you do have this problem, do you have any tips to fix it?

[Pegasus]

Yes I have had delayed ejaculation though I do not have an issue any more .
There are several forms. I take it you are ok solo?
Anxiety is often a factor . Too firm a grip solo can be a factor. Porn can be a factor.

[MoreDP]

Solo - I have to tense it before I can cum. It's good way for me to control when I cum though, 30 sec to 3 hours no problem.

I dunno what to do. It kinda sucks no to cum during sex :s

[bored]

Are you circumcised?

[going411by7]

Yes, I had the problem years back. I think it was from masturbating for many years before I got
married. It was also a control issue for me. Once I just let go and gave up my need to control
I began to climax more often during sexual intercourse. I also learned how to have multiple
orgasms with her. My wife used to get upset about it, but then let it go as well. We have to
realize that we are only responsible for our own pleasure during sexual intercourse. Of course,
we want to pleasure the other person, but we are all wired differently, and we need to share
with our partner what pleasures us. For example, very few women climax strictly from vaginal
penetration. And many women have never learned how to pleasure themselves. This is much
more important than many women (and men) realize.

I think it is extremely important to experiment and try different approaches with each other. This
will keep the passion alive and well in any relationship.

[not2big]

I recently mentioned on another forum that I was experiencing the same problem. The best advice I received was to get my wife to perform oral which should increase your dick's sensitivity as well as increase your desire. I have not yet tested the theory, but it makes a lot of sense.

[Gspot]

Yes, I had the problem years back. I think it was from masturbating for many years before I got
married. It was also a control issue for me. Once I just let go and gave up my need to control
I began to climax more often during sexual intercourse. I also learned how to have multiple
orgasms with her....

I think it is extremely important to experiment and try different approaches with each other. This
will keep the passion alive and well in any relationship.

Diddo here! (but I have never married) Always with condums for me and I think that was the number one issue with me. Lame sex did not help either but I learned to let go of all inhabition and to take charge quickly. If I was with an oral goddess, I could pump my naked dick into her throat and cum like crazy (I love those women)! Plus, if she knew how to play with my balls, PC muscle, even grabbing my ass cheeks I love, then I was good to blow. Also tit fuck her for a while if she has the rack for it, you can really go hard and women enjoy the erotic enterainment of it more than you would think! Another one I found set me off was to eat her out, either a 69 were she was jacking me off hard or I was jacking myself. Pussy tends to make me loose it in every way. Finding something erotic (that is sexual practice that stimulates the mind's sexual imagination as much as the body's nerves) is the ticket to a messy finish!

I really just embrassed it as exceptional stamina after a few times, even telling women after we were fucking for a while and I knew I was not going to cum for another 1/2 hour or more that, "I love fucking your pussy, but It will be a while before I cum. Can you take me fucking you hard for a while longer?" (This shows sexual dominace and consideration for her at the same time, as well as (IMPORTANT) reassuring her that she is not the problem and that I really enjoy having sex with her). Even if she could not take it at some point, this ups her excitement knowing she is with a sexual dynamo and she will likely tell stories about me. Often I would get close, pull out, remove condum, and try to stroke myself to cum on her body, in her mouth, etc. but no go. No need to stress here either. Just stay sexual about it and say, "I am not going to cum. Lets fuck some more." She will likely be ok with that, or possibly too sore for more intercourse so get inventive. I had great sex without me ever cumming and her enjoying a series of orgasms on many occasions.

Have fun with it and it will cum!

[jd10021]

Despite the stereotypes of the horny man, many men have the same issue as you. This is what worked for me:

1. stop masturbating - After 3 weeks without masturbating, I learned that I didn't have a physical problem with having an orgasm during sex. Of course, over time I reduced this to masturbating only 1-2 a week.

2. don't use condoms - This is clearly subject to having a monogamous STD free relationship, but condoms are real problems for many guys. If you need to use a condom, try Naturalamb (pregnancy only as it does not stop STDs) or one of the more sensitive ones. A google search turned up Crown Skinless Skin Condoms Best Condoms Reviewed.

3. find a good partner - My wife knows how to incorporate porn, oral and stimulation of other erogenous zones to make sure I'm 100% ready to go and she's also very good in bed. You need to find a talented partner who knows how to stimulate you or, better yet, tell your partner how to best stimulate you.

[CUSP82]

Nice JD; rep for you!

[JamesMonroe]

Did most of you with delayed ejaculation masturbate with a tight grip? Lube or no lube?