Porn Reboot

[Edge of Glory]

What's the exact proccess of rebooting guys? Is it just no porn at all whatsoever? is it because of lack of good EQ or because it caused you prem ejac? For me it caused prem ejac cuz I was mastirbating to it quickly every day for a year without a gf, without lube and because I was doing only regular kegels the whole time without rev kegels and using a very light grip. Now I have done exactly the opposite of everything I just mentioned and now I last about 40 minutes during sex with my constant gf. For me rebooting was going off it easy and lowering arousal to it by still watching porn for 3 months but not touching myself before completetly or watching it again anymore. Now I have found myself masturbating to it again, eventhough it hasn't affected my dex life yet. Gonma ease off of it again.

I don't know too much about rebooting, since I've never done it. But if you're interested, THIS is one of the more popular sites for porn-addicts to reboot. It has rebooting guides and tips and testimonials and stuff like that. From my understanding, you cut out porn (and often masturbation) completely for a certain length of time (like 3 months) and see how much better you feel and note improvements. Hopefully, these motivate you to abandon it totally. I actually don't think there's anything wrong with masturbating or edging, provided you don't use porn for it (or if you do, limit porn).

My store is fairly similar to yours. I was using a tight vice-grip when masturbating to porn, never lubed, went rapidly (I could cum within minutes). But I've been off it for a while and feel great now and really have to desire to go back. It's great to see how much you've improved. Good luck.

[Dontrike]

Maybe this is true for you, but you could also choose to learn how to get women and develop it as a skill.

While that is true, I have no one to take examples from nor someone to truly ask about such things. I have only tried 3 times total. 1 girl I didn't actually ask (there's a story there), 1 said no, and the other became a 6 month long distance relationship that I never met and I never technically even asked her anything like that, I had the help of a lesbian friend of mine to help me. So all in all I have only ever asked one girl out and that was about 2 years ago.

I agree that some luck might play into it but there are women (and men) out there for every one. You just have to know where to look, what to look for, and how to approach it. I think the issues with some guys, and girls, is they set their eyes on a perfect dime and pursue that instead of going for the 6 that has been looking at them from afar.
While getting that perfect mate is ideal, realistically it just isn't plausible for most.
Even if a 5 was looking for another 5, there are other factors that come into play. Confidence, how you come across (if you're real or just spit game), and then the factors I consider to be luck (availability, if you're both looking for the same kind of relationship, if the person is who they come off as).

I see the problems of getting a mate to be the same as getting a job for a lot of people. While the jobless person is complaining about no jobs being around, they are only looking for the high paying and great jobs but they ignore the lower paying ones that are available. Now, I'm not saying that people with woman problems are complaining, but often than not, they are blocking out the women that are interested in them while aiming for something higher.

Honestly I just don't find most women attractive, even the "hottest" women have me just saying "meh" and going about my day. It isn't that I am looking for the perfect 10, but I know my chances with any woman are close to zero.

It wasn't that long ago that I thought that if I didn't have a drivers license that I would be laughed at, but for the last month, since I have had one, I can already tell it doesn't make a difference either way if I can't even walk up to a girl, strike up a conversation, and ask her for her number or on a date.

I have zero idea when it comes to talking to a woman. I can talk to my female co-workers or even talk to female customers, but it is different than asking for a number.

I will leave that there since this isn't really the thread to be discussing such things.

[JamesMonroe]

I don't know too much about rebooting, since I've never done it. But if you're interested, THIS is one of the more popular sites for porn-addicts to reboot. It has rebooting guides and tips and testimonials and stuff like that. From my understanding, you cut out porn (and often masturbation) completely for a certain length of time (like 3 months) and see how much better you feel and note improvements. Hopefully, these motivate you to abandon it totally. I actually don't think there's anything wrong with masturbating or edging, provided you don't use porn for it (or if you do, limit porn).

My store is fairly similar to yours. I was using a tight vice-grip when masturbating to porn, never lubed, went rapidly (I could cum within minutes). But I've been off it for a while and feel great now and really have to desire to go back. It's great to see how much you've improved. Good luck.

if you were using a tight vice-grip, how come you didn't get delayed ejaculation like most guys that do what you did? A tight grip usually makes a vagina seem not arousing enough. Maybe the porn and rushing masturbation did it.

[Edge of Glory]

if you were using a tight vice-grip, how come you didn't get delayed ejaculation like most guys that do what you did? A tight grip usually makes a vagina seem not arousing enough. Maybe the porn and rushing masturbation did it.

Yea, there isn't always solid logic to these things, but I think the porn and quick ejaculation had a greater effect than the grip, leading to less stamina rather than more.

[Dance Sucka]

While that is true, I have no one to take examples from nor someone to truly ask about such things. I have only tried 3 times total. 1 girl I didn't actually ask (there's a story there), 1 said no, and the other became a 6 month long distance relationship that I never met and I never technically even asked her anything like that, I had the help of a lesbian friend of mine to help me. So all in all I have only ever asked one girl out and that was about 2 years ago.

What I see here is a guy who has a bad history and wishes things were different. Well you can wish all you want friend, but it's going to take more than 3 tries to get better with women. I am the same way, I don't try enough either. I've only been on 1 or 2 dates and I've only had one girlfriend in my life, and it was an online relationship. Every girl I've ever asked out as said no, and I haven't really asked out many...The reason why guys like us fail is because we give up too easily. Hell, we give up before we've even tried. My challenge for you is to believe in yourself. No matter how ugly, how worthless, how unlucky, and even how small you think your penis is, the next time you meet a girl and even have the slightest bit of interest in her, I want you to ask her out on a date. Something casual and fun like getting some pizza or going for a walk in the park, or for drinks if you're above the drinking age in your country. Don't do cliches like coffee, a movie, or dinner. That shit is overused and gives off the "I'm unoriginal" vibe. Well, truthfully the cliche can work under the right circumstances, but I hope you see my point.

I am taking this challenge myself, and if you guys want to, please join me ! Join me in facing your fears of rejection and getting better at being social !

Dance!

[grifter2420]

What I see here is a guy who has a bad history and wishes things were different. Well you can wish all you want friend, but it's going to take more than 3 tries to get better with women. I am the same way, I don't try enough either. I've only been on 1 or 2 dates and I've only had one girlfriend in my life, and it was an online relationship. Every girl I've ever asked out as said no, and I haven't really asked out many...The reason why guys like us fail is because we give up too easily. Hell, we give up before we've even tried. My challenge for you is to believe in yourself. No matter how ugly, how worthless, how unlucky, and even how small you think your penis is, the next time you meet a girl and even have the slightest bit of interest in her, I want you to ask her out on a date. Something casual and fun like getting some pizza or going for a walk in the park, or for drinks if you're above the drinking age in your country. Don't do cliches like coffee, a movie, or dinner. That shit is overused and gives off the "I'm unoriginal" vibe. Well, truthfully the cliche can work under the right circumstances, but I hope you see my point.

I am taking this challenge myself, and if you guys want to, please join me ! Join me in facing your fears of rejection and getting better at being social !

Dance!

Pretty solid advice man.

also, my post earlier was more a generalization of people I've run across. There are always those who are outside of that line of thinking, like what is quoted above.
I've hardly ever asked a girl out but I've been out on a lot of dates. The thing is to always come off as confident but not like some self absorbed jerk and to always be yourself. That last part seems to be the hardest for a lot of people and I've even fell victim to once or twice. Really, my best results always came from being myself and coming across as someone they can be friends with while having a good time.
Think part of the allure that works for me so well is that I come across as shy. I am not a people person so it takes me a while to warm up to anyone really in real life. But that doesn't prevent me from holding small talk however it does prevent me from coming out with lame come on lines and generic chit chat.

[JamesMonroe]

Yea, there isn't always solid logic to these things, but I think the porn and quick ejaculation had a greater effect than the grip, leading to less stamina rather than more.

Right now in experimenting with tight grip penis head edging with baby oil and NO porn. I think it's gonna be very successful. I can test out the results with my constant sex gf too. I'll let you know how it goes if I can find this posting again....

[Koh]

Joining in on this challenge. About to get a good workout in myself. Will continue to workout my social muscles, and become bolder a day at a time. Let the rejections come at me.

[Dontrike]

My challenge for you is to believe in yourself. No matter how ugly, how worthless, how unlucky, and even how small you think your penis is, the next time you meet a girl and even have the slightest bit of interest in her, I want you to ask her out on a date.

It sounds like a nice challenge, but I shall decline it. I will fail it pretty quick, not that they will say no, but I will most likely not do it.

[Dance Sucka]

It sounds like a nice challenge, but I shall decline it. I will fail it pretty quick, not that they will say no, but I will most likely not do it.

yeah it takes some balls to do it, but it's really not that bad...you will be able to do it when you are ready to try.

Dance, Sucka !