How many other guys feel this way?

[Gonfreecs Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gonfreecs]

I'm slightly above average I would say. Just over 7.5 on a good day (havent consistently hit that BP yet) with 5.5 midshaft girth and over 6 inch base girth.

When I first started dating my GF, back in December I was maybe 7 bp and only 5 inches in girth midshaft. Back then I could never go deep in my girl because it hurt her too much. Over the past months shes pretty much got accustomed to my size. Occasionally she'll say "ouch, too deep" but I'm typically able to just leave the balls hanging out majority of the time. Dont get me wrong, I love being able to put my cock all the way in but for some reason its a blow to my ego knowing that she can take all of me without any struggle. Part of me wants to have her know that shes at my mercy and at any moment I can do serious damage. It sounds kinda sadist right? But honestly, I dont want my girlfriend to be able to take all of me.

Is that weird? And no she doesnt know anything about my penis enlargement but since I've starting hanging a few weeks ago shes commented that "junior" is bigger. I normally just say "yea im a late bloomer". Lol.

[Hanma Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hanma]

Uhuh.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

No, it is not supposed to be like that, intimacy is about mutual enjoyment, emotional and physical connection, trust, fun and no pain.

[OneEyedWilly Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close OneEyedWilly]

Stop those thoughts at once...or get some therapy.

[Dick Whammy Retired Moderator Member of the month Jan 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Dick Whammy]

No, it is not supposed to be like that, intimacy is about mutual enjoyment, emotional and physical connection, trust, fun and no pain.

Read what MrB8 has posted - VERY CAREFULLY. He's right. Dead on right.

On the other hand, yes,,,,the thought has crossed my mind. The fact that she can take all of you and then some,,,,can make us think that we are not sufficient.

Try this,,,,,while you are doing the "deed",,,,,,,,concern yourself with her pleasure and not yours for just a bit,,,,,,,,get movin' on her clitoral stimulation (which ever way you gotta do it) and then upon "entry", just concern yourself with the entrance,,,,,an inch or so,,,,,just to rub that "G" and get it warmed up. Once you get her going and happy, the entire experience changes to one of "togetherness".

If that doesn't work,,,,,,,,,get fish.
:-)

[danimal1211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close danimal1211]

I'm glad that I have more than enough length to reach into the cul-de-sac and make sex more pleasurable because of it, not because I have the power to hurt. I don't have a girlfriend right now and most of the sex I've gotten over the last couple years are from a casual friendship and one night stands. Because of this I have to be extra cautious not to cause any discomfort and have to take it slow in the beginning until they relax.

I'm not gonna say you necessarily need therapy, but any desire to hurt someone, no matter how, is not very healthy and needs to be dealt with.

[aBone2pick Senior Member Member of the Month July 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close aBone2pick]

I can totally relate to wanting to feel powerful. The thought that you could hurt your significant other is a turn on for me too. It certainly doesn't mean I want to hurt her, that's not even remotely the case, it's just the desire to feel sexually dominant.


There's also a lot of trust and intimacy involved when there is potential for a little pain. She has to trust that you aren't gonna start slamming her selfishly and just have your way. It cultivates a tenderness in the guy that doesn't have to be present if you can just jackhammer and not cause any damage.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

If you're thinking you're not enough, because you aren't "maxing" her out, think of it this way.

A woman's vaginal canal can adapt (briefly) to accommodate giving birth. It's somewhat flexible, to a point of course. But that doesn't mean that it's pleasurable, or even wanted. There comes a point where too much is too much, and it's more work than fun.

Yes, feeling like you have the size that borders on too much may be an ego booster for guys. But there's something great about being all the way in, full skin contact, pelvis to pelvis.

What makes you feel good ego wise, may just ruin it for her. Something to think about.

[aBone2pick Senior Member Member of the Month July 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close aBone2pick]

Great point, workin. What's the largest baby that can be naturally birthed? That's my new goal size.

[GoingForGold Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoingForGold]

6" is enough to hit the cervix if the woman isn't ready. Hitting the cervix is not good. There is more to technique than how long your dick is, and trust me, she has to "handle" every single rough thrust. You can go faster or harder to make it tougher for her. Again, there is more to sex than how long your dick is.

7.5" is huge, not slightly above average. Properly measured, that is.

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Hey Gonfreecs,

It seems you have two concerns you are attempting to address during intercourse: an erotic desire for rough sexual play and ego gratification. The first issue can be best resolved with an open discussion with your girlfriend to determine if she is interested in rough play and what her (and your) boundaries are. The second issue may be a little more difficult to remedy considering you are using something as adaptable as a woman's vagina as your barometer as W4I indicated.

More to the point, by choosing such an indicator as a woman's vaginal canal to determine the size and adequacy of your virile rod, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and the risk of physically hurting her. Neither option is ideal so why not seek better means to feel good about your size and sexual prowess instead?

Also, I hope that you are not basing your sexual needs solely on what you may have seen in porn for that is created to be fantasy and not meant to be used as sex education.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Ummm I am missing something here . You can hurt her now with rough sex if you choose to do so. You choose not to .

[chuck89gt5.0 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close chuck89gt5.0]

Looks like I'm one of the few that feel the same way as the OP. But I'm a bodybuilder. ..a perfectionist and already know I have an ego