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Premature Ejaculation - How to last longer?
''How i went from ''coming too early'' to ''lasting too long''
''Now i make her beg me to cum''
''It's you against your mind''
My first experience:
So, I was with this girl. I never had sex and it was about time to have sex. We were upstairs, and we started to kiss. After some kissing and stuff, she took off my clothes and i took off her clothes, and then after some playing, i was inside...
After like 1 or 2 minutes, i came. It was really nice and i fellt really good. My GF smiled at me and we layed on the bed.
Couple days later, we were at her room again, watching tv, when she started to kiss me again. We ended up having sex again. I came again in like 1 or 2 minutes. This happend 2 more times. All the time, i was thinking it was normal, and whenever my gf asked me, i told her it was because her parents were downstairs and because of that i came fast. Reality was, i had no control. After some talking, i found that she would actually like it more if i could last longer(come man, 2 minutes sex, are you for real?). But that was the thing that made me think, because after i knew she would have like it more if i could last long, i asked her this: Was your ex-bf able to last long? She asnwered with yes, and she said: ''I guess he was pro at lasting long, but i dont care, I love you know''.
I KNOW RIGHT, MY ENTIRE MIND WAS BLOWN AWAY. She friggin said her ex was pro at it, which means I SUCK! Who wouldn't been blown away if your gf said that? And then telling me that she loves me so she doesn't care, just to let me feel good(which didn't help ofcourse).
What did you do?
What did I do? I couldn't do anything, i was just so blown away, everything was ruined. I knew i sucked at sex and that her ex was better. I went home, went on internet and searched everything. Special Durex condoms, delay stuff, I PUT TIGER BALM on my dick(That shit burned the hell out my dick). Nothing helped good. Ofcourse i didnt try those stuff with her, i tried it while masturbation. But yet, they didnt work. I tought GAME OVER. I tought i had the illness called: Premature Ejaculation. I tought i was born with it, and now im stuck to it. My whole convidence went from 100 to 0.
What happend at your next sex session after she told you?
Yea, the next session. I was scared as hell.
I was like: Just go for it, we'll see what happens. So, we went to my house, for the first time ever.We entered my room, and after a time we were naked, ready for sex. BUT, there was one thing different. I had a mirror in my room, which she didn't. And, next to my bed, i had a picture of my self, when i was 5 years old. Before the moment she wanted to sit on my dick, I saw the picture of me in the reflection of the mirror. The thing is, the picture was really funny, i was standing somewhere and i was pulling a really funny face. At that moment, my GF sitted on my dick, and i was inside. But somehow, because i saw the picture, i started to laugh in my head. My mind was for a moment at the picture, and not at the sex. So then she suddenly started to ride my cock, but weird enough, i fellt no urge to cum, i fellt like i had control.
At the moment guys, I had control over my mind. What i did next, we had sex in every possibly position we ever did. I lasted 40 minutes, but just because she had to go home due the time. Just before i came i said: Who is the pro now?
I remember that when i brought her home, i was laughing the way back. I had this HUGEE smile on my face, and every girl i saw, i wanted to put my cock in(lol sorry). I was just REALLY happy!
You wonder how i suddenly could last longer? Read further:
To let you understand why i lasted longer, i will tell you the causing of PE:
PE is caused because we are too much aroused. When we use an arousement scale, from 1 to 10, where 1 is totally flaccid, and 10 about the PONR(point of no return). Whenever I wanted to go inside, i was already at level 9. So it only took me like 1 minute to reach level 10. The first 4 time of my sex were like that. I was thinking about how great the sex was gonna be, that i was gonna pound her like those pornstars, but all those stuff, just made me come at 9, hight aroused - close to PONR.
The reasion i did last the 5th time, was because before I went inside, my mind was somewhere else: It was on that picture. Because of the picture, i started to laugh in my head, which made my arousement level drop to 7. My dick was still hard, but the level arousement was at 7.
Now when you are at 7, it takes you 3 more levels to come to the PONR. When i was at 9, it only took me one level. It was for me impossible to have control over that one level, but IT IS POSSIBLY to have control over those 3 levels.
Soooo... how am i gonna last longer?
If you understanted my explain about what causes PE, you already should have a hint:
If you want to last longer, you need to make sure you are at level 7, when you are about to have sex.
Now i will sum up everything and give you tips that will help you drop down your arousement level when needed:
-Before the sex: Most commen problem is that people already start to think about the sex, when they just entered the door of house. NOT GOOD. Dont think about the sex, dont think in your mind how nice it will be when you will pound her in Doggy Style. Just stay calm, think about other stuff, go drink some water, think about tomorrow work/school.
-Foreplay!: Do friggin foreplay i tell you. Lay down and let her enjoy your tongue or fingers. Let your mind relax, just think about your fingering or oral skills, apply them, dont think about your sex, concentrate on the foreplay.
-Before intercourse, think about stupid stuff. You can try this when you masturbate. Find things that will drop your urge to cum. When you jerk off, you feel a climax coming, that will end up ejaculation. If you think about something else, just at the moment the climax is gonna start, the climax will stop: You can last for another 5 minutes. After those 5 minutes, when the climax is about the start again, think about the funny/weird thing again, and it will drop down again: Another 5 minutes! What you are doing is, you are going from Level 7 to 8. You make your self drop down to 7 again. When you get good at this, you can go to level 9, and let it drop fromt there. It is easy. If you survive the first 3 minutes, without really urge to come, you get the control in your hand, because in that 3 minutes, your body gets used to the feeling, and after that, it's all a child play. Some toughts summed up that will help you drop back your arousement level:
-''Dudee, why the fuck is the earth a circle?''
-''LOL, that teddybear sitting right there is looking at me''.
-''ROGER, im going in, over. Enemy spotted. Hitting it right now Over''.
-''OMG, that vagina is eating my cock, nooooo''
Just to be clear on this: You are thinking this in your head! Dont say it to the girl or something xD
-You might wanna think about something funny you saw on tv
-find a picture in the room thats funny and look at that
be creative; while masturbating, find out what make you drop your arousement level.
- Reverse Kegels: Yea, kegels work good to drop down your arousement level. Try this out: When you are masturbating, and you are fealing the climax coming(you are going to level 8 or 9), pull your balls downward. Your arousement level should drop. When you do a reverse kegel, you get the same effect. Reserve Kegel btw is when you are on the toilet, it is when you push out the pie. So not when you hold, but actually where you push it out. It is when you make a fart. Thats a reverse kegel. Your anushole becomes bigger when you do the reverse Kegel. Talking about nasty stuff, thinking about nasty stuff also works to drop down.
-Edging: When you masturbate, go to level 9, and then suddenly stop. Whenever you feel like your almost reaching PONR, stop immediately. This makes you recognize the Level stuff, and climax.
-Do not come too fast with masturbation. Take like 10 to 15 minutes. So no fast cumming, enjoy the clips on the internet.
-BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. If you are gonna think you gonna cum fast again, you probably will. Believe that you can hold it!
-I recently found out that Breathing out makes the climax go away aswell. So when you feel it, breath out good.
IMPORTANT: Dont wait too much with those tips. Whenever you feel the climax coming up, do them. When the climax is too far, close to your PONR, you cant stop it with those tips. So use it just when the climax starts! More on this issue at ''Dont be too late'' part.
Summary:
So the point of all those stuff i explained above, is to hold you on Level 7.
Your sex should look like this:
1. Before you 2 are even in the room, do not think about sex.
2. When the foreplay starts, taking off cloths etc, use the tips i gave above to let control your arousement level.
3. First start pleasing her. This should make your dick remain cool. Before the sex, let her make your cock grow again, but remember, remain control. Dont get crazy just because she is jerking you off.
4. Just before you go in, make sure you are at 7. Dont be like: ''omg, im going in, here i go, it's gonna start!''. Be like: ''And here comes the long train entering the subway!''
5. You are inside. Start slowly, and then spice up the speed. When you feel the climax is coming, drop the speed, use the tips i gave to drop down the arousement level. When it's dropped down again, spice it up again. You should now have control over your arousement level.
Dont be too late!
Take in mind that when you are close to the PONR, those mind toughts wont help you drop it down. Thats too late, you are already at level 9 !
If you did miss the moment, and you are too far at the climax, those are last stuff that can help you:
-Stop immediately with the sex. Do not pound anymore.
-Pull out your dick and pull your balls downward.
-Squeeze your dick at the base really hard.
It's all a mind game.
It's you against your mind. Your mind wants to come as fast as possible because the arousement is soo nice. So ward off your mind with those tips i gave, and take the control in your own hands!
More about the Arousement Level and PONR ( please read) :
Sex is like a sport/game. When you are too late in handeling, or you cant defend your self against your mind, he will score: You cum too fast. If you can control the arousement level, you can control and score when you want!
Press this link. I hope you understand the arousement level thing better with this graphic drawing.
At step 3, when you rise up from level 7 to 8, thats the point where you start feeling the climax building up.
If you dont drop down your arousement level at that point, and you continue to Level 9 or higher , the tips that i gave you about thinking of other stuff, or reverse kegel and stuff, wont work. You end up ejaculation.
If you accidentially continue till level 9 or higher, use the tips i gave you at ''Dont be too late!'' part.
So whaddup with your sex life now?
hehe, now it's just awesome. It became a normal instinct now. However, if i loose my attention, and go inside her when im at level 9, i still come too early, but it's rare now to make that mistake. But last time, when we had sex, i was taking pictures of her, while she was riding me reverse(so i was seeing her ass). While i was taking picture, i got HIGHLY aroused. I was just in time to avoid my self of coming. Soo look out when you try new stuff: It can arouse you really fast.
How do pornstars do it?
Exactly the same way! Go watch any porn video. You'll see that when a guy enters a girl, and starts to fuck, he will have a period of fucking hardcore, and then suddenly he slows down. THIS IS POINT HE DROPS HIS AROUSEMENT LEVEL! Also, sometimes you see those pornstars suddenly take out their dick and move into an other position. This makes them instantly drop down the arousement, and continue in other position. It's funny, if you understand this concept. You can clearly seeing them using this stuff.
If you have anymore Question, feel free to ask me!
I hope i was able to help you guys that are strugling with premature Ejaculation.
Tzr
''How i went from ''coming too early'' to ''lasting too long''
''Now i make her beg me to cum''
''It's you against your mind''
My first experience:
So, I was with this girl. I never had sex and it was about time to have sex. We were upstairs, and we started to kiss. After some kissing and stuff, she took off my clothes and i took off her clothes, and then after some playing, i was inside...
After like 1 or 2 minutes, i came. It was really nice and i fellt really good. My GF smiled at me and we layed on the bed.
Couple days later, we were at her room again, watching tv, when she started to kiss me again. We ended up having sex again. I came again in like 1 or 2 minutes. This happend 2 more times. All the time, i was thinking it was normal, and whenever my gf asked me, i told her it was because her parents were downstairs and because of that i came fast. Reality was, i had no control. After some talking, i found that she would actually like it more if i could last longer(come man, 2 minutes sex, are you for real?). But that was the thing that made me think, because after i knew she would have like it more if i could last long, i asked her this: Was your ex-bf able to last long? She asnwered with yes, and she said: ''I guess he was pro at lasting long, but i dont care, I love you know''.
I KNOW RIGHT, MY ENTIRE MIND WAS BLOWN AWAY. She friggin said her ex was pro at it, which means I SUCK! Who wouldn't been blown away if your gf said that? And then telling me that she loves me so she doesn't care, just to let me feel good(which didn't help ofcourse).
What did you do?
What did I do? I couldn't do anything, i was just so blown away, everything was ruined. I knew i sucked at sex and that her ex was better. I went home, went on internet and searched everything. Special Durex condoms, delay stuff, I PUT TIGER BALM on my dick(That shit burned the hell out my dick). Nothing helped good. Ofcourse i didnt try those stuff with her, i tried it while masturbation. But yet, they didnt work. I tought GAME OVER. I tought i had the illness called: Premature Ejaculation. I tought i was born with it, and now im stuck to it. My whole convidence went from 100 to 0.
What happend at your next sex session after she told you?
Yea, the next session. I was scared as hell.
I was like: Just go for it, we'll see what happens. So, we went to my house, for the first time ever.We entered my room, and after a time we were naked, ready for sex. BUT, there was one thing different. I had a mirror in my room, which she didn't. And, next to my bed, i had a picture of my self, when i was 5 years old. Before the moment she wanted to sit on my dick, I saw the picture of me in the reflection of the mirror. The thing is, the picture was really funny, i was standing somewhere and i was pulling a really funny face. At that moment, my GF sitted on my dick, and i was inside. But somehow, because i saw the picture, i started to laugh in my head. My mind was for a moment at the picture, and not at the sex. So then she suddenly started to ride my cock, but weird enough, i fellt no urge to cum, i fellt like i had control.
At the moment guys, I had control over my mind. What i did next, we had sex in every possibly position we ever did. I lasted 40 minutes, but just because she had to go home due the time. Just before i came i said: Who is the pro now?
I remember that when i brought her home, i was laughing the way back. I had this HUGEE smile on my face, and every girl i saw, i wanted to put my cock in(lol sorry). I was just REALLY happy!
You wonder how i suddenly could last longer? Read further:
To let you understand why i lasted longer, i will tell you the causing of PE:
PE is caused because we are too much aroused. When we use an arousement scale, from 1 to 10, where 1 is totally flaccid, and 10 about the PONR(point of no return). Whenever I wanted to go inside, i was already at level 9. So it only took me like 1 minute to reach level 10. The first 4 time of my sex were like that. I was thinking about how great the sex was gonna be, that i was gonna pound her like those pornstars, but all those stuff, just made me come at 9, hight aroused - close to PONR.
The reasion i did last the 5th time, was because before I went inside, my mind was somewhere else: It was on that picture. Because of the picture, i started to laugh in my head, which made my arousement level drop to 7. My dick was still hard, but the level arousement was at 7.
Now when you are at 7, it takes you 3 more levels to come to the PONR. When i was at 9, it only took me one level. It was for me impossible to have control over that one level, but IT IS POSSIBLY to have control over those 3 levels.
Soooo... how am i gonna last longer?
If you understanted my explain about what causes PE, you already should have a hint:
If you want to last longer, you need to make sure you are at level 7, when you are about to have sex.
Now i will sum up everything and give you tips that will help you drop down your arousement level when needed:
-Before the sex: Most commen problem is that people already start to think about the sex, when they just entered the door of house. NOT GOOD. Dont think about the sex, dont think in your mind how nice it will be when you will pound her in Doggy Style. Just stay calm, think about other stuff, go drink some water, think about tomorrow work/school.
-Foreplay!: Do friggin foreplay i tell you. Lay down and let her enjoy your tongue or fingers. Let your mind relax, just think about your fingering or oral skills, apply them, dont think about your sex, concentrate on the foreplay.
-Before intercourse, think about stupid stuff. You can try this when you masturbate. Find things that will drop your urge to cum. When you jerk off, you feel a climax coming, that will end up ejaculation. If you think about something else, just at the moment the climax is gonna start, the climax will stop: You can last for another 5 minutes. After those 5 minutes, when the climax is about the start again, think about the funny/weird thing again, and it will drop down again: Another 5 minutes! What you are doing is, you are going from Level 7 to 8. You make your self drop down to 7 again. When you get good at this, you can go to level 9, and let it drop fromt there. It is easy. If you survive the first 3 minutes, without really urge to come, you get the control in your hand, because in that 3 minutes, your body gets used to the feeling, and after that, it's all a child play. Some toughts summed up that will help you drop back your arousement level:
-''Dudee, why the fuck is the earth a circle?''
-''LOL, that teddybear sitting right there is looking at me''.
-''ROGER, im going in, over. Enemy spotted. Hitting it right now Over''.
-''OMG, that vagina is eating my cock, nooooo''
Just to be clear on this: You are thinking this in your head! Dont say it to the girl or something xD
-You might wanna think about something funny you saw on tv
-find a picture in the room thats funny and look at that
be creative; while masturbating, find out what make you drop your arousement level.
- Reverse Kegels: Yea, kegels work good to drop down your arousement level. Try this out: When you are masturbating, and you are fealing the climax coming(you are going to level 8 or 9), pull your balls downward. Your arousement level should drop. When you do a reverse kegel, you get the same effect. Reserve Kegel btw is when you are on the toilet, it is when you push out the pie. So not when you hold, but actually where you push it out. It is when you make a fart. Thats a reverse kegel. Your anushole becomes bigger when you do the reverse Kegel. Talking about nasty stuff, thinking about nasty stuff also works to drop down.
-Edging: When you masturbate, go to level 9, and then suddenly stop. Whenever you feel like your almost reaching PONR, stop immediately. This makes you recognize the Level stuff, and climax.
-Do not come too fast with masturbation. Take like 10 to 15 minutes. So no fast cumming, enjoy the clips on the internet.
-BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. If you are gonna think you gonna cum fast again, you probably will. Believe that you can hold it!
-I recently found out that Breathing out makes the climax go away aswell. So when you feel it, breath out good.
IMPORTANT: Dont wait too much with those tips. Whenever you feel the climax coming up, do them. When the climax is too far, close to your PONR, you cant stop it with those tips. So use it just when the climax starts! More on this issue at ''Dont be too late'' part.
Summary:
So the point of all those stuff i explained above, is to hold you on Level 7.
Your sex should look like this:
1. Before you 2 are even in the room, do not think about sex.
2. When the foreplay starts, taking off cloths etc, use the tips i gave above to let control your arousement level.
3. First start pleasing her. This should make your dick remain cool. Before the sex, let her make your cock grow again, but remember, remain control. Dont get crazy just because she is jerking you off.
4. Just before you go in, make sure you are at 7. Dont be like: ''omg, im going in, here i go, it's gonna start!''. Be like: ''And here comes the long train entering the subway!''
5. You are inside. Start slowly, and then spice up the speed. When you feel the climax is coming, drop the speed, use the tips i gave to drop down the arousement level. When it's dropped down again, spice it up again. You should now have control over your arousement level.
Dont be too late!
Take in mind that when you are close to the PONR, those mind toughts wont help you drop it down. Thats too late, you are already at level 9 !
If you did miss the moment, and you are too far at the climax, those are last stuff that can help you:
-Stop immediately with the sex. Do not pound anymore.
-Pull out your dick and pull your balls downward.
-Squeeze your dick at the base really hard.
It's all a mind game.
It's you against your mind. Your mind wants to come as fast as possible because the arousement is soo nice. So ward off your mind with those tips i gave, and take the control in your own hands!
More about the Arousement Level and PONR ( please read) :
Sex is like a sport/game. When you are too late in handeling, or you cant defend your self against your mind, he will score: You cum too fast. If you can control the arousement level, you can control and score when you want!
Press this link. I hope you understand the arousement level thing better with this graphic drawing.
At step 3, when you rise up from level 7 to 8, thats the point where you start feeling the climax building up.
If you dont drop down your arousement level at that point, and you continue to Level 9 or higher , the tips that i gave you about thinking of other stuff, or reverse kegel and stuff, wont work. You end up ejaculation.
If you accidentially continue till level 9 or higher, use the tips i gave you at ''Dont be too late!'' part.
So whaddup with your sex life now?
hehe, now it's just awesome. It became a normal instinct now. However, if i loose my attention, and go inside her when im at level 9, i still come too early, but it's rare now to make that mistake. But last time, when we had sex, i was taking pictures of her, while she was riding me reverse(so i was seeing her ass). While i was taking picture, i got HIGHLY aroused. I was just in time to avoid my self of coming. Soo look out when you try new stuff: It can arouse you really fast.
How do pornstars do it?
Exactly the same way! Go watch any porn video. You'll see that when a guy enters a girl, and starts to fuck, he will have a period of fucking hardcore, and then suddenly he slows down. THIS IS POINT HE DROPS HIS AROUSEMENT LEVEL! Also, sometimes you see those pornstars suddenly take out their dick and move into an other position. This makes them instantly drop down the arousement, and continue in other position. It's funny, if you understand this concept. You can clearly seeing them using this stuff.
If you have anymore Question, feel free to ask me!
I hope i was able to help you guys that are strugling with premature Ejaculation.
Tzr
I do that aswell, when having sex. In the missionaris position. Let a little sesam come out. It drops my arousement level, but it's still as hard as it was before. It makes the Doggy Style lasting longer. That position is really tought - but the best!
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When i used to jerk off, i did this thing. Just when i was about to cum, i kegeled as hard as i can. Then i have an orgasm but no sperm comes out. Directly after that, i continue jerking off, and then i orgasm again. I've tried my limit and i was able to come 4 times. But after that 4th time, i was sooo tired.
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