So is regular sex the key to solving PE?

[PumpSon!]

I have heard regular exposure to the sensations and feelings of real sex is the key to lasting longer, is this true?

[BTBrian]

Its a big part of the solution but not the solution in itself.

[ThomasJohnThomas]

The key is relaxing and to know it is ok to have an orgasm and enjoy it. Sometimes you might come a little fast, so what, you can always go again.

[Von_Vintar]

I feel that this is a major factor....at least in my experience. My girlfriend (well, now ex-girlfriend) and I used to have sex very frequently. I had always had a problem with PE, but the problem all but disappeared when we were doing it 4 or 5 times a week, 2 or 3 times a session. I could go as long as I wanted. And if I ever did cum to soon, it was no big deal....we'd just laugh it off and then hit it again in a few minutes. I thought my PE was cured. And essentially it was. Here's why (in my opinion anyway): NO PRESSURE. For the first time in my life, there was no focus on how long I could last and the thought of PE never crossed my brain. It was bliss.

But then things went south. The initial "honeymoon" phase ended. Life got stressful due to work and other concerns and as a result the sex became way less frequent. This shouldn't have been a problem. Its a normal thing that happens in all relationships. But it was a problem. Now if I came too soon, in my head I knew it would be at least a few more nights (maybe even a week) before I'd be able to "prove myself" again. At that point it was over. Lack of communication from both of us about the situation just drove the problem deeper. My confidence was shot. Her sexual desire for me plummetted. We held on as long as we could, but eventually we had to split.

Moral of the story: if you have a girlfriend, COMMUNICATE. Don't let it slip away.

Sorry for the morose rambling, guys....its been a rough couple of weeks....

[JamesMonroe]

I believe it is one, if not, THE actual real full cure, but people on this site don't like it when I say that. I'm sorry but it is the truth. That is my opinion and my point of view because of the same exact experience you had. Most people on here are kids with little experience and guys without girlfriends that watch too much porn and have bad masturbating habbits. Yes, the exercises here DID help me a lot and get me prepared with many tools to use, but the fact is that I still had prem ejac after long, hard solo training and as soon as I started getting laid again. It wasn't until I slowly got used to a real girl and her real vagina again that I saw a big change. It took a while but slowly but surely, I started being able to handle it because I started becoming immune to the high levels of stimulation and arousal that you get from a real woman, unlike solo masturbation. Infact, as soon as I started having regular sex with my gf, I stopped all exercises and haven't needed them at all. the secret is real constant sex and getting used to the most intense positions. Yes, it's hard to get a gf who loves sex as much as we do, but unfortunately, that is the best training.

[Pegasus]

Lots of guys who get regular sex have pre e, so no it is not the answer , having said that I do believe it helps.

[JamesMonroe]

Part 2 (scroll up for part 1)

And yes.... you are right about the anxiety. It is part of prem ejac and it's hard to control without constant sex. With constant sex the anxiety levels stand to go down and ultimately disappear as the result from getting better and better with time and practice and you noticing that you are becoming a better lover for your partner. I remember at the beginning when I started having sex again i would apologize and promise a better time next time. That was hell on Earth. Talk about anxiety. Oh and also yeah... doing it more than once per encounter is great training too. Doing it 2-3 times makes you last longer the second an third time and THAT also trains your body to get used to more and more sex with less sensitivity and your body remembers and adjusts to it.

[JamesMonroe]

Part 3
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It's funny how you are mentioning everything I believe in and the things that i recommend and list in my journal/log posting. I also recommend reverse kegels ONLY for a while, ballooning, edging with lube, watching porn without masturbation and ultimately, not watching porn anymore. These things helped me on my journey and I found them here on this great site.

[thenewdude]

More sex does not cure PE. I am 40 years old and can tell you that PE may be caused via psychological, emotional, physical, medical, etc... factors. And too much sex can even cause PE believe it or not.

[JamesMonroe]

That's why I said its my experience and opinion. When you don't have those issues, then real sex is the best practice. According to people on here, "everybody knows that more real sex is the best practice" And you can't say that it doesn't cure prem ejac because I didin't have any of those issues u talk about and more sex DID cure my Prem Ejac.
So... That is your experience. Also, maybe you didn't have constant, patient, caring, progressive sex for a long enough period. That is what cured me. So... what's your story NewDude? Maybe you are watching too much porn or doing too many regular kegels. how's your edging and ballooning? Using lube or dry?