So I have terrible terrible premature ejaculation. At first, i did kegels for about 3 months straight with no RKs. Bad idea i now know. It seemed to work for a while but not really more than a few times. I have a lot of tension and constantly have bad involuntary kegels all the time during masturbation and intercourse. It's like my body thinks that a forced kegel hold or constant flexes is necessary to be turned on. It seems that nothing is working. I changed my eating habits. I quit smoking, I meditate, i life weights and do the punching bag, but it seems that no matter what, nothing works.
There there is the other issue, which is my girlfriend. When i have a sexual problem, she gets mad at me. She doesn't understand how it feels to be a man who sucks at sex. Sometimes i secretly take painkillers to dull myself, and when i do, im a sex god. When i dont, it's extremely awkward and bad. I mean sometimes randomly (mostly while drunk but sometimes not) i do okay. She won't ever give us a chance to try again because she gets mad, also her vagina is very sensitive and we usually have to wait a day or so before we can try sex again.
You guys, i need something bad. I keep feeling worse and worse, and although i would NEVER EVER hurt myself over bullshit like this, it's been bad enough and depressing enough for me to see how someone might be tempted too.
Is it me, is it her, is it both of us?
I am getting to the end of my rope fellas.
I am currently doing, in an attempt to repair: ByggD's arousal control exercises, Soto Zen Meditation 20min/day, High protein low fat fruit based diet, 10 daily relaxation yoga, heavy bag, weights and cardio.
Mon: 40 5sec RK Holds, 20 5sec kegel holds
Tue: 20 5s RK holds
Wed: 40 5sec Rk Holds, 20 5sec kegel holds
Thur: 20 5sec Rk holds
Friday: 40 5sec RK Holds, 20 5sec kegel holds
I edge when I can and hold off orgasm to about every three-seven days, i take the weekend off kegels altogether.
I just want to be a normal guy who can have about 15 minutes of sex.
I did this to myself with bad masturbation habits and excessive porn use.
I just dont know how to get my gf to work with me, and i feel SO BAD. SO ******BAD.
Any insight about my routine (just started this week, i took 3 weeks off to try to reset. Didn't work) or my relationship would
I think that her attitude and the way sex feels like a test are the worst things.