[stretch030713]

I'm lost. I just can't last long while having sex. I think my pc muscles are strong enough. If I'm masturbating, I can stop ejaculation and have dry orgasm, which I can then go for a much longer time. I can go forever anyway while maturbating. I can edge for hours. All well and good by myself. But if I'm having sex with my wife.... forget it. Minute man. What the hell am I supposed to do? At the point of orgasm, just stop and squeeze hard enough to dry orgasm, then continue? I've tried to leave it in but It seems like I can't squeeze hard enough to hold back orgasm while inside. I know by dry orgasming you eliminate the refractory period and can keep going for long periods of time. Like I said, by myself I can do this all day. I don't want to stop in the middle of making love to her to squeeze my pc muscles while shes looking at my face like..."what the??" I know when the point of no return is coming. I just don't know a way to stop it and make the session seamless i guess. Even if I were to pull out and change positions, I would probably not be able to concentrate on squeezing and would probably cum. Any advice on how this works? What do other people do to last long? I've heard that you can rewire your brain by not ejaculating every time you masturbate. Your body learns not to associate pleasure and orgasm after a while. Or something like that. Will this help? Anyone heard of this? Any advice would be helpful. Thx.

[IdealPenis]

Try to relax as much as you can. I think this is the first thing you need to take care of. You may be stressed from work, from the diet you have, the environment, etc. Fiind what is stressing you and fix it. Then give your self moments of relaxation( picnic, sport, SLEEP...).


I'm no specialist, but I would recomand to stop before the point when you need to squeez to not come. Try to do it real slow so you can feel every sensation in your body.
Exercising the penis is not the most important thing for a good life. If you have a healthy life(diet, exercise, emotional) you can perform very well in bed. Exercising the penis is a plus for your sexual health, but is not the THING that rules for a good life and sexual life.


Hope you will fiind out what is holding you back.

[Big Al]

You should try the "Stop and Start" exercise:

The Stop and Start exercise can be performed with a partner, but at best it's performed alone.

To begin, simply start by masturbating or if you are using a partner, begin having sex- an important note if you are using a partner- you must remain in full control while doing this exercise.

If your partner begins to move or tighten themselves up in any way, it will interfere with your concentration.

Proceed up until the point right before you ejaculate, THEN STOP! Rest a bit until you feel you are starting to lose your erection then proceed to start and stop two more times. AFTER the third time, you may ejaculate if you wish.

What you are doing with this exercise is building up endurance. As time goes by, your first sensation of ejaculation should take longer to achieve. It's important to try to practice this exercise every day if you are having problems with premature ejaculation.

Once you've reached your stamina goals, you can maintain them by doing your stamina work at least twice a week. You should continue to do your stamina exercises for as long as you wish to maintain your penis and its supporting organs in optimal shape.

Hope this helps

[buttheadyeah]

be more dominant in bed....this helps too.

[C.Phantasy]

Originally Posted by buttheadyeah

be more dominant in bed....this helps too.

Word

[stretch030713]

LOL. I have to smack her around more. Thx for the advice guys. I think I need t just relax a bit. We'll see.

[Nacho]

I don't understand why you can't just stop while you're having sex and then restart? Why does sex have to be seamless?

[buttheadyeah]

yes, Nacho is right.

Whats the big deal with stopping? I mean i think its healthy to even talk during sex. So why couldn't you even explain that you wanna re situate yourself, or anything. There could be a thousand things you could say to use as an excuse to stop for a second or two.

I dont think you're being reasonable. Also if you're enjoying it too much you're going to blow no matter what. You can't have a mind set like " OH YEAH This is sooo good, im gonna keep pounding and get all i can get out of this and like totally enduldging in your penis." YOU WILL BLOW YOUR LOAD. You have to have a mild spirit and kind of like meditate on what is going on..look at the whole picture, don't just focus on pleasing yourself. PLEASE HER......

Hope this helped.

[irishlanger]

Originally Posted by stretch030713

I'm lost. I just can't last long while having sex. I think my pc muscles are strong enough. If I'm masturbating, I can stop ejaculation and have dry orgasm, which I can then go for a much longer time. I can go forever anyway while maturbating. I can edge for hours. All well and good by myself. But if I'm having sex with my wife.... forget it. Minute man. What the hell am I supposed to do? At the point of orgasm, just stop and squeeze hard enough to dry orgasm, then continue? I've tried to leave it in but It seems like I can't squeeze hard enough to hold back orgasm while inside. I know by dry orgasming you eliminate the refractory period and can keep going for long periods of time. Like I said, by myself I can do this all day. I don't want to stop in the middle of making love to her to squeeze my pc muscles while shes looking at my face like..."what the??" I know when the point of no return is coming. I just don't know a way to stop it and make the session seamless i guess. Even if I were to pull out and change positions, I would probably not be able to concentrate on squeezing and would probably cum. Any advice on how this works? What do other people do to last long? I've heard that you can rewire your brain by not ejaculating every time you masturbate. Your body learns not to associate pleasure and orgasm after a while. Or something like that. Will this help? Anyone heard of this? Any advice would be helpful. Thx.

Man, i could have wrote this exact post myself. Ive actually been trying to find the right words to post it. Exactly the same problem. Could masturbate for 2 / 3hrs if i wanted too, often bring myself to 8 /9 PONR's and cut them off either by kegelling till it subsides or relaxing all muscles till it goes away itself.
With herself though once that vagina wraps itself around its all over. Ive tried slowing it down, withdrawing and licking her out whilst it subsides a little but i just seem to get to a certain point of arousal with her that its impossible not to cum. Very very frustrating. And once i cum once im so pissed off that i cant get it up again for a long time afterwards. Using your hand is a totally different ball game to the real thing, i know a lot of it probably has to do with state of mind and distraction etc, but its annoying.

[kingpole]

Hey, you can't help it if your wife is gorgeous. Problem solved though. Before you think you going to have sex waste a cum in the toilet. It may even work if you do a ritual cum wasting in the toilet in the mornig. This helps take the edge off the anxiety factor. Cumming is a stress releaser. Purge the stress!