[irishlanger]

Originally Posted by Auszlupin

Ok. When you are being stimulated, try NOT to kegel in order to delay the point of no return. Kegelling will bring you closer. Most men kegel unconsciously while they have are being stimulated. You do this, I do this, and most guys do this. That's why you eventually build up more and more until you cum. If you want to last forever, you can either learn how to kegel really hard at the point of no return in order to hold it in, or you can learn to not reach the point of no return by relaxing. The latter is obviously more effective. It is more difficult as well because you can't just learn it through excercise. You actually have to reprogram your body. Practice masterbaiting without kegelling, and practice masturbating without climaxing. Breath slowly and proper (through stomach, not the chest). Pace yourself. Don't focus on the way you feel, focus on the actions you make. You shouldn't be thinking about the feeling or the thrusting. These things should be happening passively. If things become too intense, focus on something else (I do math problems in my head because those actually require a lot of concentration). If you start to get softer, then go a little harder or kegel lightly, but it only takes a little. Basically, you have to take your mind off your dick, but moderate your arrousle if need be.

One of the most sensible posts ive ever read on this site.
Its going to take a while to master this. I for one used to be constantly kegelling whilst having sex - thought it was normal, kegelled with nearly every thrust, no wonder i could never last long. Its a weird sensation trying not to do it now, the feeling is a lot different, almost feels like my dick is going limp when it isnt. Its like having to learn how to have sex all over again. It'll be worth it though. If i can add an extra inch in length and girth and give her an extra 15 - 20 mins in the sack itll be happy days all round.
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