Hi there guys and girls,
I registered yesterday and introduced myself in another topic. Today I decided to start this thread, where I will explain what's going on. Please don't watch my grammar too much, English isn't my first language.
History of puberty, masturbating
I'll just start from the beginning.. close to the moment where puberty hit me, I started developing sexual thoughts and acts. It started with just some innocent fantasizing, exploring my body, looking at illustrations in biology books etc. I remember masturbating when I wasn't even able to ejaculate. When puberty hit me, the exploring, fantasizing, excitements and also masturbating became more over time. I learned myself to have a quick orgasm in order to no get caught or anything, but still have one. I noticed that, when I contracted my penis (PC muscle) it felt way better and it would get me off faster. So I continued to do this in order to get off quickly without being caught. When I got a little older, like 14.. I started watching porn and masturbate to that in the same manner. I would get very excited and tense very fast, have a wank and pull the pants back up.
History of sex
So.. in the meantime I started to develop more muscle, deeper voice, armpit hair etc. and I also got something I never wished for: acne. It pretty much destroyed all my confidence to talk to girls et cetera. Eventually growing a little older, more confident and 17 years old I got into a relationship. I literally was getting hard when we kissed or touched or anything. I was so obsessed with having a girlfriend, kissing, getting sex and all that before that almost everything got me rock hard. Not long until we had sex and I found out that I was terrible at it. I would literally blow my load before I even got in the first time. I thought it would get better over time..
Situation now
So here I am now, 21 years old, had some relationships, had alot of sex during (if you can call it that) and still suffering from bad Pre-E. I'm in a relationship for 2 years now. The sex started the same way every time. We would kiss a little bit (not so much aroused), then we kiss a little heavier (i feel blood pumping into my penis and hart rate going up a little), we will touch and get naked (seriously rock hard boner and heart rate is up), then she wants to masturbate me a bit, but I always try not to let her because I will cum in a matter of seconds-minute and leaving her not penetrated. In order to leave my girl satisfied I did a longer foreplay on her and when I penetrate her, I would just thrust very hard in order to make her cum. Still, I come within the first 5 seconds to a minute depending on ??.
Also: Sometimes my girl wants me to start penetrating her, but she isn't wet enough for my penis to get inside. My penis is about 7,1" in length and 6,1" in girth and when I try to penetrate her, my frenulum gets stretched (not circumcised) too hard which also makes me kegel real hard and almost cum instantly and there is so much friction, which I cannot bare.
Me and the forum
I have read the stickies, been lurking around and tried some things, but because there is such a variety of causes and fixes I don't know what to do anymore. I think its good to know what causes my Pre-E, so I read about that. Here is my conclusion:
! -Poor masturbation habits (fast and kegeling to cum even faster) -> Definitely
-Tense pelvic floor -> Not sure about this one, it doesn't feel tensed all day, just when anything sexual happens.
-Rushing to PONR -> Maybe I did sometimes, but I definitely love sex itself more then the orgasm so I guess this is not the problem.
! -Imbalanced Pelvic floor -> Probably because of kegeling while masturbating and not reverse kegeling
! -Over sensitivity -> Not sure, I think not. I can easy touch the head of my penis, a tight grip on the base is sensitive though. But oversensitive?
! -Arousal problems -> Definitely. I get aroused fast in sexual acts or when I look at a girls ass or tits, I would fantasize and get aroused.
! -Performance anxiety -> Depends, but yes. Sometimes I would feel great, but lately things got worse. Sex drive is getting down because I feel like I can't satisfy my own and her needs.
-General poor fitness -> No, I work out 4 times a week. I have gained muscle over the last two years and I watch my diet in order to build muscle.
-Neurotransmitter imbalance -> Seem to have some signs of high histamine , but not much. So I guess not.
! -Frenulum breve -> Really dont know.. when erect my foreskin is a little bit behind my glans. I can pull a bit, but then my glans will bend downward.
! are problably the most important (I think).
With these causes in mind, I seriously don't know where to start*. Do I start increasing masturbating or, edging, ballooning, controlling arousel, reverse kegeling, visit the doctor or god knows what?
* I did already cut the porn out. So much regret..
Along with that, how do I combine the different techniques with sex with my girl? It not that I can say to her: I need to control my Pre-E, we can't have sex anymore till I fixed it. She has sexual desires to.
Please, help me. I can't see myself living with Pre-E in the future. Not anymore..
I registered yesterday and introduced myself in another topic. Today I decided to start this thread, where I will explain what's going on. Please don't watch my grammar too much, English isn't my first language.
History of puberty, masturbating
I'll just start from the beginning.. close to the moment where puberty hit me, I started developing sexual thoughts and acts. It started with just some innocent fantasizing, exploring my body, looking at illustrations in biology books etc. I remember masturbating when I wasn't even able to ejaculate. When puberty hit me, the exploring, fantasizing, excitements and also masturbating became more over time. I learned myself to have a quick orgasm in order to no get caught or anything, but still have one. I noticed that, when I contracted my penis (PC muscle) it felt way better and it would get me off faster. So I continued to do this in order to get off quickly without being caught. When I got a little older, like 14.. I started watching porn and masturbate to that in the same manner. I would get very excited and tense very fast, have a wank and pull the pants back up.
History of sex
So.. in the meantime I started to develop more muscle, deeper voice, armpit hair etc. and I also got something I never wished for: acne. It pretty much destroyed all my confidence to talk to girls et cetera. Eventually growing a little older, more confident and 17 years old I got into a relationship. I literally was getting hard when we kissed or touched or anything. I was so obsessed with having a girlfriend, kissing, getting sex and all that before that almost everything got me rock hard. Not long until we had sex and I found out that I was terrible at it. I would literally blow my load before I even got in the first time. I thought it would get better over time..
Situation now
So here I am now, 21 years old, had some relationships, had alot of sex during (if you can call it that) and still suffering from bad Pre-E. I'm in a relationship for 2 years now. The sex started the same way every time. We would kiss a little bit (not so much aroused), then we kiss a little heavier (i feel blood pumping into my penis and hart rate going up a little), we will touch and get naked (seriously rock hard boner and heart rate is up), then she wants to masturbate me a bit, but I always try not to let her because I will cum in a matter of seconds-minute and leaving her not penetrated. In order to leave my girl satisfied I did a longer foreplay on her and when I penetrate her, I would just thrust very hard in order to make her cum. Still, I come within the first 5 seconds to a minute depending on ??.
Also: Sometimes my girl wants me to start penetrating her, but she isn't wet enough for my penis to get inside. My penis is about 7,1" in length and 6,1" in girth and when I try to penetrate her, my frenulum gets stretched (not circumcised) too hard which also makes me kegel real hard and almost cum instantly and there is so much friction, which I cannot bare.
Me and the forum
I have read the stickies, been lurking around and tried some things, but because there is such a variety of causes and fixes I don't know what to do anymore. I think its good to know what causes my Pre-E, so I read about that. Here is my conclusion:
! -Poor masturbation habits (fast and kegeling to cum even faster) -> Definitely
-Tense pelvic floor -> Not sure about this one, it doesn't feel tensed all day, just when anything sexual happens.
-Rushing to PONR -> Maybe I did sometimes, but I definitely love sex itself more then the orgasm so I guess this is not the problem.
! -Imbalanced Pelvic floor -> Probably because of kegeling while masturbating and not reverse kegeling
! -Over sensitivity -> Not sure, I think not. I can easy touch the head of my penis, a tight grip on the base is sensitive though. But oversensitive?
! -Arousal problems -> Definitely. I get aroused fast in sexual acts or when I look at a girls ass or tits, I would fantasize and get aroused.
! -Performance anxiety -> Depends, but yes. Sometimes I would feel great, but lately things got worse. Sex drive is getting down because I feel like I can't satisfy my own and her needs.
-General poor fitness -> No, I work out 4 times a week. I have gained muscle over the last two years and I watch my diet in order to build muscle.
-Neurotransmitter imbalance -> Seem to have some signs of high histamine , but not much. So I guess not.
! -Frenulum breve -> Really dont know.. when erect my foreskin is a little bit behind my glans. I can pull a bit, but then my glans will bend downward.
! are problably the most important (I think).
With these causes in mind, I seriously don't know where to start*. Do I start increasing masturbating or, edging, ballooning, controlling arousel, reverse kegeling, visit the doctor or god knows what?
* I did already cut the porn out. So much regret..
Along with that, how do I combine the different techniques with sex with my girl? It not that I can say to her: I need to control my Pre-E, we can't have sex anymore till I fixed it. She has sexual desires to.
Please, help me. I can't see myself living with Pre-E in the future. Not anymore..
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