premature ejaculation

[bionicweenie]

Good luck masterblaster.

[irishlanger]

Evening Folks.

First time posting in about 3/4 months. One of the major problems in my relationship has always been sex. She never wants it all that often and when it does happen it always over too quick - my biggest problem and the reason im back on here.
Ive read the site for about a year now and try to put everything into practice as best i can. I have no problem masturbating - could go a couple of hours without cumming easy. Once i get anywhere near her pussy though its all over within seconds. I try pulling out to let the PONR subside but as soon as it goes in again i just instantly feel like im going to cum. I was doing enlargement exercises and PE exercises religiously over the summer but if anything i think it made me worse when it came to actual sex. On my own i could masturbate for hours without cumming, dry orgasms the lot but i always felt like i was carrying a loaded weapon. My dick just became mega sensitive anytime i got near her. We are together 10yrs at this stage so its not like im in the first throws of a relationship where everything is new and exciting. Im fully relaxed around her.
Is it all psychological?
Is there any way to de-sensitise my penis? Im not circumsized if that matters.
Should i be masturbating with an oil or something to make it feel a bit more like the real thing?
I watch a lot of porn while im masturbating, could that be having a negative effect?
Also when i do cum it takes an absolute age for me to be able to get it up again and by that time she is either asleep or the 'moment' has gone. Im only 27 and i know the refractory period gets longer as you get older but is there any way of reversing that process.
I havent given up all hope on things working themselves out but if i cant sort it and quick then its game over for my relationship i reckon.
Im not a greedy bast#rd im not looking for miracles. If i could penetrate for 5 mins that would be enough for me as my other 'all round game' is quite good i think and has baled me out a good few times.

Im desperate at this stage. I dont care about size anymore. Its staying power i need. Help please. (apologies for the long post)

[pe_ZEN]

It may be the porn, don't overdo that - practice edging instead. Another recommendation would be to learn kegel control

[jadzeno69]

irishlanger, it may also be psychological. As I've said before, when a man begins intercourse with a woman, if the man is concentrating on his penis and trying not to cum, he will no doubt lose control and blow it. Try taking your mind off the sensations you're feeling, and focus your attention more on her pleasure. I've told this to some of my clients, and yes it's easy to think "ok no problem, I can do that." But it's really not that easy, you have to train and discipline yourself to the point where you really BELIEVE that your main goal is to pleasure her. When you get to this point, I believe that any man can last as long as he wants. The trick is to think this way from the VERY BEGINNING of your lovemaking, through foreplay and throughout intercourse. This combined with your physical abilities and practices (kegels, edging, etc) should help you out. A way to approach the psychological aspect I describe: pick something about her (hair, eyes, breasts, etc) and pay close attention to it. Notice everything about it - look, feel, how she reacts to you, etc. Before you know it you'll have forgotten completely about your penis. This is the type of concentration I'm talking about. Then focus on something else and do the same thing. Soon enough you won't have to limit yourself to one feature of hers, and you can focus entirely on her and how she feels. YOU must and will feel HER pleasure, and not focus so much on your own. If you're already comfortable with her, and you've been together for so long, then you're over the hard part, which is to relax. This method has helped me bigtime, hope it helps you as well.