Flirting and seduction

[Magneto]

once you have started flirting and started spending time having lenghty convo with a female how do you take it to the next level and seduce her? I mean, what can you do or say to her that will replay in her mind when your not there? Say things that have sexual connotations but do not appear to be of a sexual nature lol?

[John Trenor]

Say things that have sexual connotations but do not appear to be of a sexual nature lol?

Hey Magneto. LOL! It may seem funny when you write it down - essentially being sexual without acting sexual - but you're actually onto something here... One thing I have found to work, and something that's not really obvious, is just plain touching. I'm not talking about making the girl feel uncomfortable like some sort of perv (obviously you don't want to grope her when you meet, lol), but "stealthily" increasing physical intimacy for the duration of your conversation with her.

The reason touching is important is because physical contact sends out the message that you are sexually interested in her without having to say it. So, you're conversation may be all fun and games, yet you can make it so that your bodies are having a different dialogue. For example, you can start with "accidentally" brushing her hand when you reach over to pick up your drink from the bar. Or, you can gently lay your hand on her mid to lower back when you both sit down. I'm sure you can think of plenty more opportunities to initiate touching and you get the idea.

When you show her that you're not afraid to touch her with those initial stealthy moves, she'll feel more comfortable with it as well. If all things are going good in fact, she'll pull the "so charming touching your arm when she laughs" gesture. She may even place her hand on your knee if you're making a connection. again, she's doing this because you showed her it's okay. If you think it feels right, you can even put your arm around her at this point. When it's time for you to part ways, you want to show one overt gesture of physicality (it's safe to do so at this point - you have nothing to lose). this gesture may include a hug or, better yet, a kiss on the cheek.

The whole point of this escalating touching routine is to 1) communicate sexuality without saying it, and 2) to make her feel comfortable with the idea so that she will get closer physically as well. In fact, if you pay attention to her physical signs and then reciprocate accordingly, the night may end with more than just a kiss on the cheek. But, if it does end with a kiss on a cheek and nothing else, it's all good because you have gone a long way to build intimacy with her (far more than talking alone could do). In this case, the feeling of that intimate bond will stay with her, thus making it far easier to get that second date and pick up where you left off.

I know this sounds simple, but it works really well - the simplest touch during those first exciting moments of interaction can be quite sexy.

[Flanker6]

Hey Magneto. LOL! It may seem funny when you write it down - essentially being sexual without acting sexual - but you're actually onto something here... One thing I have found to work, and something that's not really obvious, is just plain touching. I'm not talking about making the girl feel uncomfortable like some sort of perv (obviously you don't want to grope her when you meet, lol), but "stealthily" increasing physical intimacy for the duration of your conversation with her.

The reason touching is important is because physical contact sends out the message that you are sexually interested in her without having to say it. So, you're conversation may be all fun and games, yet you can make it so that your bodies are having a different dialogue. For example, you can start with "accidentally" brushing her hand when you reach over to pick up your drink from the bar. Or, you can gently lay your hand on her mid to lower back when you both sit down. I'm sure you can think of plenty more opportunities to initiate touching and you get the idea.

When you show her that you're not afraid to touch her with those initial stealthy moves, she'll feel more comfortable with it as well. If all things are going good in fact, she'll pull the "so charming touching your arm when she laughs" gesture. She may even place her hand on your knee if you're making a connection. again, she's doing this because you showed her it's okay. If you think it feels right, you can even put your arm around her at this point. When it's time for you to part ways, you want to show one overt gesture of physicality (it's safe to do so at this point - you have nothing to lose). this gesture may include a hug or, better yet, a kiss on the cheek.

The whole point of this escalating touching routine is to 1) communicate sexuality without saying it, and 2) to make her feel comfortable with the idea so that she will get closer physically as well. In fact, if you pay attention to her physical signs and then reciprocate accordingly, the night may end with more than just a kiss on the cheek. But, if it does end with a kiss on a cheek and nothing else, it's all good because you have gone a long way to build intimacy with her (far more than talking alone could do). In this case, the feeling of that intimate bond will stay with her, thus making it far easier to get that second date and pick up where you left off.

I know this sounds simple, but it works really well - the simplest touch during those first exciting moments of interaction can be quite sexy.

Yes.

[CUSP82]

Why have to seduce her? Why not remain friends? One of the biggest problems we cause oursleves is taking it to the next level because WE want to! That usaully ruins a good friendship.There is nothing wrong with having a good friend who happens to be of the opposite sex. Trust me, if she wants to go to the next level she will let you know.If you push it your history! Trust me I have many female friends and very often they give me the signals and of course I turn them down! ( does anyone one on this planet believe my last sentence wasn't total bs? If you don't think it's bull then I got a bridge in Brooklyn for sale!). Let them make them move!

[itguy123]

Why have to seduce her? Why not remain friends? One of the biggest problems we cause oursleves is taking it to the next level because WE want to! That usaully ruins a good friendship.There is nothing wrong with having a good friend who happens to be of the opposite sex. Trust me, if she wants to go to the next level she will let you know.If you push it your history! Trust me I have many female friends and very often they give me the signals and of course I turn them down! ( does anyone one on this planet believe my last sentence wasn't total bs? If you don't think it's bull then I got a bridge in Brooklyn for sale!). Let them make them move!

i always thought it was lakeside property in florida for sale :P Female friends are the ones who won't have sex with you. That's my perspective :P

[CUSP82]

Every once in a while your best female friend turns out to be your wife! It happened to me!

[itguy123]

Every once in a while your best female friend turns out to be your wife! It happened to me!

You are seriously one in a million. If you spend more then 20 hours with a girl and haven't gone on a date, usually you have been regressed to friend status. Maybe your wife was one of the ones who realized one of her good male friends was actually the man she had been looking for the whole time. This is rare IMO.

[CUSP82]

It was also 30 years ago; we did things a bit differently! You guys are screwing at 12. And what's with that friends with benefit stuff? We didn't have that I when I was dating. The first time I heard that I thought the girl had good health insurance. What did I know! Oh to be young again!

[itguy123]

It was also 30 years ago; we did things a bit differently! You guys are screwing at 12. And what's with that friends with benefit stuff? We didn't have that I when I was dating. The first time I heard that I thought the girl had good health insurance. What did I know! Oh to be young again!

Well my biggest problem is I look 10 years younger then I am. I know at older ages it will be nice, but when I have to go to clubs that are 18 and UNDER to pick up women, it's sad.... Btw, I'm 26.

[RockstarParkingDude]

seduction is about not being friends. period.