another discussion of break up due to sexual performance :( WTF??

[blulite]

hey guys, so i had a discussion the other day with the girl ive been seeing for a few month now with regards to my sexual performance. now please dont thing this is me wanting info on how to make her cum or improve my stamina etc... but in fact its the exact opposite.

being that i have an extremely healthy appetite and a libido thats been described as astronomical... my girl if finding it hard to cope with my sex drive. having a conversation the other day about sex and our relationship, as couples do, my gf told me that shes having trouble keeping up and although her appetite is also very high, she believes shes in a lot of trouble and isnt sure if she will be able to keep me satisfied and stated that if she couldnt keep up, she would have no choice than to break up with me..

this kinda pisses me off, not just because of what she said, but because this has happened in the past. and what makes it worse is i regularly hear complaints from women about how men are lacking in the bedroom department (including my gf before we got together) and how they would love to have a guy with an appetite like mine. why then is it that ive been dumped severl times in the past already and now maybe headed that way again just because i perform well in the bedroom???

any suggestions??? and i know the obv one is "calm down", but its not that simple...

[CUSP82]

Try limiting sex to 5 days a week; give her weekends off. What she's telling you is that she likes sex but their comes a point where it's just too much. You keep pushing for more and guess what will happen?

[islander]

OP
believe it or not you may have a hormone imbalance. I suggest getting your blood tested. There is one particular test that measures a hormone that causes an increased drive in the sexual department. DHEA-s
As cuspie said your GF needs to know that she will have a break. Not feel like this is a chore. Having sex to have sex to get the dopamine high or rush or satisfaction on a constant basis is an addiction in a sense. There are tons of ways to get this from other ways in life.

Do you have ADHD? If that is you in your avatar you clearly exercise. That coupled with sleep time, work time, drive time, domestic duties the rest of the time is a few hours left in a day that you need to find other ways of being able to be intimate without it leading to arousal and sex.

She has this insecurity which is valid in my opinion. You have an insecurity which is valid. Hope you can work out a schedule and address what may be causing the super high sexual libido.

Good luck!

[BigO]

Hey man, a gal can only take so much at times, beat the bishop. I am serious, not trying to make light of your situation at all. If you are physically wearing her out spank that monkey like he stole your cookies. Beat his ass, choke him out, rough up the suspect, Whip skippy, give it the five finger thrill ride, cuff the bandit.
If you beat off enough even you will have no desire to have sex. Show her that she is more important than your sexual needs, after all it sounds like she is doing her best.

[blulite]

@ cusp, well this is one of the problems you see, we dont have sex 7 days a week... and i dont push for more, the problem is, when we do have sex i go for hours, she cums loads of times, multiples included and after a while, she throws in the towel and im still in mid flow. this leaves her satisfied for days but she feels shes doing something wrong if i dont cum... which leaves us with a slight predicament and on my part, somewhat confused.

@islander, as above, we have breaks, and yes that is me in my avatar, i work out regularly as often as i can in fact, i dont have adhd, or not that im aware of lol, if anything i would say ocd.... just its for sex and not cleaning or counting things lol. its strange that you mention addiction, as my gf actually said that to me the other day, well not exactly sure what she said about it as i was thinking about sex at the time, all i know is me, sex and addict were mentioned in the same sentence haha.. im wouldnt however say either of us has an insecurity, more of a variation in appetite.

@big O, i rarely masturbate these days as when i used to do so, even though i was having regular sex, it caused me to suffer from prem, so im not prepared to go down that route again. my gal knows shes more important than my sexual needs, and we have breaks and stuff. she was chatting for future reference in this case, but i thought i better bring it up now and try to address the issue before its too late.

[BigO]

Well the good news is your desire should decrease some as you get old and hers should go up. You guys will be perfect in ten years.

[blulite]

Well the good news is your desire should decrease some as you get old and hers should go up. You guys will be perfect in ten years.

lmao, ill tell her that one, see what she says lol..

[jdavid1990]

hey guys, so i had a discussion the other day with the girl ive been seeing for a few month now with regards to my sexual performance. now please dont thing this is me wanting info on how to make her cum or improve my stamina etc... but in fact its the exact opposite.

being that i have an extremely healthy appetite and a libido thats been described as astronomical... my girl if finding it hard to cope with my sex drive. having a conversation the other day about sex and our relationship, as couples do, my gf told me that shes having trouble keeping up and although her appetite is also very high, she believes shes in a lot of trouble and isnt sure if she will be able to keep me satisfied and stated that if she couldnt keep up, she would have no choice than to break up with me..

this kinda pisses me off, not just because of what she said, but because this has happened in the past. and what makes it worse is i regularly hear complaints from women about how men are lacking in the bedroom department (including my gf before we got together) and how they would love to have a guy with an appetite like mine. why then is it that ive been dumped severl times in the past already and now maybe headed that way again just because i perform well in the bedroom???

any suggestions??? and i know the obv one is "calm down", but its not that simple...

The more sex you have, the more women you have and the more orgasms you have you will calm down one day.. When i was 18 i remember having sex about 50 times in one weekend not cumming every single time tho. I remember when i was 20 when i'd wake up to my ex i'd have a unbeatable boner that made me need sex so bad i couldn't go back to sleep! Now i'm not so bothered... Can have sex as much as i want but i prefer a morning-mid day- and evening orgasm... To maintain a big hard dick... But i can literally go without once or twice... However if my balls are too full and i've just woke up ill literally fuck anything with a pulse..

[3666777]

However if my balls are too full and i've just woke up ill literally fuck anything with a pulse..

This just made me spit my coffee out in laughter. Hilarious.

[Irishfan]

I wouldn't think to much about it. If your relationship ends because of this, then it was doomed anyway. Why would you wantbo Cary on with a relationship that is not strong enough to survive something like this.