Cheating?

[Nikki]

How do you define cheating? Obviously if you have any kind of sex with someone other than your partner that is cheating. But do you consider looking at porn on the Internet, etc to be cheating? In your opinion, is cheating just physical interaction or can a person cheat in other ways?

[W.M.P.]

Watching porn is NOT cheating. Although I barely ever watch it these days, to me is just nothing more than another source of stimuli to bring the boys some relief from excessive build-up of manjuice. There's no doubt that porn can have a detrimental effect if not kept in check, but in my opinion, it's NOT cheating at all.

A lot has been said about many forms of cheating, but I think that the one and only line that divides cheating from not, is physical contact; from simple fondling and petting and everything that can be done on the road to having actual intercourse, the meeting of the flesh is where cheating occurs.

[Banana]

Although I consider physical interaction with another person to be cheating, I consider spiritual/psychological interaction to be a lot worse.

[slanker]

Does that mean sex in words i.e. phone, text, internet?

[JonPop]

O.K. Guys, put the shoe on the other foot.

How would you feel if your SO was looking at male porn? Would you feel that this would be cheating?

[MrBigDick]

I'd have to agree with some of the sentiments above. Porn is NOT cheating. My girl knows I look at it and doesn't have a problem at all with it, in fact, she expects it by virture of the fact that I'm a guy. If she wanted to look at naked guys fucking other chicks, it wouldn't bother me at all. That wouldn't happen as my girl is a bit more of an old fashioned kind of gal where the traditional male/female roles are respected and honored (although, there are a few modern twists).

My girl does, however, consider viewing nude photos of a girl that I know of on the internet crossing the proverbial line and I almost lost her as a result of said activity. Seemed silly to me but it seriously bothered her ALOT. So, the pictures were purged from my laptop and disposed of. She sees it as if you know her and have talked to her, you've formed an emotional connection and to look at nude photos of her does constitute cheating. I don't view it that way at all but she does so to respect her wishes, I no longer engage in that activity. It's one of those things where I simply say "whatever" and I move on.

[JonPop]

To women, sex is more than just intercourse. For a woman to get off at night, you have to "make love" to her all day (and I don't mean physically).

You are spot on with this Veg. Having been married many, MANY, years. This is SO true.

[Nacho]

What difference does it make how I define cheating? What really matters is what SHE considers cheating.

[Nikki]

What difference does it make how I define cheating? What really matters is what SHE considers cheating.

If you are talking about non-physical contact, then I tend to agree. In other words, if a guys has any kind of sex with someone else, that is still cheating whether she thinks so or not. However, she may or may not view looking at porn on the Internet or e-mailing someone of the opposite sex as cheating.

[PhibbysHammer]

Spiritual, emotional and sensual betrayal of anykind. She or he can't give someone else what she/he has devoted and promised to you without it being cheating. However, if you are swingers, or alternative sex practicers and you both agree to share sex with others this would not be cheating. But if you or her are telling intimate secrets and sharing your deepest innermost thoughts with any other than your significant other that is cheating. (i.e. giving others what you should only give your S.O.) Watching porn is not cheating unless you promise them you won't do it. There has to be an emotional or spiritual flaw before physical cheating could ever take place.