[Learningtolive]

I feel like sharing this unconfortable and unhealthy obsession. And it sure is about size. "Size Matters" especially for us dick holders. How many times haven't you felt intimidated or " a less-man" for wielding a shorter penis? How many times have you looked at another man's instrument or the package that can be saw in the jeans, just to compare his to yours, and in fact, you always end up depressed?
Yep, this is about that problem. I do confess that I'm one of those. Everyday I'm supposed to PE, I do work and never let that this psychological pain overcomes my willing to have an healthier and bigger penis. Indeed this is painfull. The gains aren't fast and you're afraid of having to use your stick in any near ocasion and step out of it hurt by any giggles or for not pleasing your partner enough(this usually happens to younger people which aren't married and aren't in any kind of serious relationship). That hasn't happened to me yet, but someday will, and not in time to show my tool in a decent condition(that is the right size of it). With this in my head, I won't even have the guts to venture into a relationship.
I was looking for someone who has or had this problem, so we can share experiences and get over it. This might snap your sleep during the night and add some more stress to your possible actual one, which isn't that much needed for everyday life.
After this said, I hope that we find some respectfull answers on this thread as I just opened up myself, trusting all of you, as many others shall. I've never opened myself about this, not even to the closest friends nor parents.
I'd also like this thread to solve more than this problem only. Everyone of us has something on his head that prevents him of acting differently. What I mean by "acting different" is reacting to something in a way you'd like to, if you had such self-confidence. For example: meeting a girl, or head to your/hers/his place for a special time.
Feel free to open yourselves. We can call it a sort of therapy.

Because for Overall body health, you must be more than just physically healthy, you need to be psychologically healthy.

Thank you for your attention,
LearningtoLive

[MrBigDick]

Learningtolive,

I think we all at one point or another have felt feelings of great inadequacy when it comes to other guys. This guy has a better chest or that guy has a chiseled 6 pack or this guy has.......etc. You get my point. We are, by nature, our own worst critics. You can have EVERYTHING going for you and still find something that isn't perfect, something that isn't quite the way you want it to be or some area, whether physical appearance or not that just doesn't measure up to what those around us have. I felt this way alot in my 20's. Not so much anymore because now that I'm closer to 40, I just don't give a damn what anyone thinks of me or how I look. Truth is I'm not perfect, don't have that perfect physique I always wanted nor do I have the sports car, bank account full of money or that awesome house I always dreamed of having. What I do have, is my self respect, my dignity, my confidence that I am the best I can be every day of my life, my health, my family/friends, my kids and my girl friend/partner.

I don't go around to see who's package is bigger than mine or who's got more girth or length or this or that. I focus on me, what God gave me to work with and I go from there. It's a really, really hard place to be where you're at bro and I do get it and understand. I think all of us here could relate in some way or another.

The first thing you need to do is look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see and who you are as an individual. It's taken me years to be able to do that but I can at long last do just that. In the end, it doesn't matter how big your dick was, or how much money you had or what kind of car you drove or house you lived in, what matters in the end is what kind of person you were here on Earth. Sorry, I'm not trying to be totally philosophical here but I think the situation warrants it.

Once you're able to find your internal happiness, the rest won't matter. And a girl is going to like you for YOU and not for your cock size, money or anything else and if those things are all she's interested in, she's not worth it.

I hope this post helps you man. We're all here in support of one another.

[JonPop]

A true BetterMan statement. Rep point for the effort.

[bigboom1]

Maybe you have body dysmorphic disorder bro? If you do, from what it sounds like, even if you get a monster penis, your obsession is always going to change on some other insecurity. But, if you don't (hope you don't), good for you and I think you can obtain your goal in a year if you work at it and have the genetics to grow. Cheers bro!

[kingpole]

What size are you anyway? Most likely its normal size. Like we all have these silly fears.

[Nikki]

The absolute WORST sex I ever had was with a guy who proudly bragged to me that he had 9 inches when we got into bed. The WORST!!!

The absolute BEST sex I ever had was with a guy who was very, very small - but could he ever use what he had! And last a long time with it!!

[going411by7]

Originally Posted by Nikki

The absolute WORST sex I ever had was with a guy who proudly bragged to me that he had 9 inches when we got into bed. The WORST!!!

The absolute BEST sex I ever had was with a guy who was very, very small - but could he ever use what he had! And last a long time with it!!

So there you go, guys! You heard it here.


And by the way, Hi Nikki, and

to the forum.

[Learningtolive]

I do know what you mean MrBigDick. I supose everyone knows that theory but it is so much harder to put it into practise. It takes some years for being able to find inner peace about yoursel. I can already look myself in the mirror and like what I see. In fact, what I see reflected there, is what I've worked for for a couple of years in the gym . The picture seems all perfect to me except when I find myself looking between my legs. There lies something I'm not proud of. Apart from that physic image, when I look deeper into myself, focusing in my personality, I do realise I'm not perfect to. I've still got a lot to learn about life like everyone of you does. But I'm happy to have an original and unique way of thinking about all the things that revolve around us. I'm not one of the many others around that are are personallity build by estereotypes and are by to much influenced by others. I feel confortable about what I've turned into so far. But to achieve my possibly close to perfect happyness about myself, I only need to psychologically and physically get over this problem of size that will put and end to my self-confidence issues.
You probably look at this issue and might call it immature, but hey, I've also never felt so immature by having this sort of problems. Maybe when I see some critical gains I might feel more proud of my skills and capability of becoming a better man

[MrBigDick]

Originally Posted by Learningtolive

I do know what you mean MrBigDick. I supose everyone knows that theory but it is so much harder to put it into practise. It takes some years for being able to find inner peace about yoursel. I can already look myself in the mirror and like what I see. In fact, what I see reflected there, is what I've worked for for a couple of years in the gym . The picture seems all perfect to me except when I find myself looking between my legs. There lies something I'm not proud of. Apart from that physic image, when I look deeper into myself, focusing in my personality, I do realise I'm not perfect to. I've still got a lot to learn about life like everyone of you does. But I'm happy to have an original and unique way of thinking about all the things that revolve around us. I'm not one of the many others around that are are personallity build by estereotypes and are by to much influenced by others. I feel confortable about what I've turned into so far. But to achieve my possibly close to perfect happyness about myself, I only need to psychologically and physically get over this problem of size that will put and end to my self-confidence issues.
You probably look at this issue and might call it immature, but hey, I've also never felt so immature by having this sort of problems. Maybe when I see some critical gains I might feel more proud of my skills and capability of becoming a better man

I totally and completely relate to what you are saying here and if you like what you see in the mirror, then you're that much closer to finding your inner peace. If the problem lies between your legs and you don't like what you see, then you have two choices: 1. You do something about it which is presumably why you are here or 2. You do nothing about it and continue to deprive yourself of one of the greatest pleasures known to mankind; sex and love with another human being. I got divorced 5 years ago and at that time, my ex wife was the only woman I had every been with. Now that I was divorced, I was set free to be with any woman I chose. Like you, I didn't like what I saw between my legs either and really didn't know what women expected in the way of size or performance or anything as I was used to my ex. Well, I chose to do something about it and here I am, 5 very happy years later with a much bigger, harder, longer dick and a woman who's absolutely crazy about me AND my package. It wasn't always this way for me, I had to earn my way here and it did literally take me years.

You can do it to bud. You just have to have the mental commitment and fortitude to NOT let your size get you down but relish in the fact that you've found a unique place like the PEgym where the information if here for you to do something about your size. Every guy starts somewhere buddy, you put one foot in front of the other and go at it one day at a time.

[Learningtolive]

Such community like this gives me strenght. I hope someday I can help you the same way you just did to me right now. Really appreciated MrBigDick. I've got a lot to learn with your experiences and advices.