Go down?

kerka · 02-25-2006, 01:20 AM

Hey remek, you know me ;-) so basically i went "down" on my girlfriend for the first time a couple weeks ago, she absolutely loved it, but i get 0% pleasure out of it except the pleasure of knowing shes having a good time. That usually would be 100% fine with me, but i would also like to get pleasure from this in return. How do I go about telling her this without offending her?

By the way, love what you did with the site! The forums are looking awsome. How's the book coming along?

remek · 02-25-2006, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by kerka

Hey remek, you know me ;-) so basically i went "down" on my girlfriend for the first time a couple weeks ago, she absolutely loved it, but i get 0% pleasure out of it except the pleasure of knowing shes having a good time. That usually would be 100% fine with me, but i would also like to get pleasure from this in return. How do I go about telling her this without offending her?

By the way, love what you did with the site! The forums are looking awsome. How's the book coming along?

Kerk,

Hey there. If she has never been down on a guy before, which it sounds like she hasn't, then it will probably be a little akward. Don't let this scare you away, I recommend working at it.

Personally, I would first ask her thoughts about the subject. Is she afraid to do it? Or does she want you to make the move (i.e. does she want you to say 'get over here and give me head').

Then, I would make the move depending on how she answered. If she answered she is afraid, then reassure her there is nothing to be afraid of, and that you guys can "try it out" together. If she wants you to make the move, then do it

. Try whispering in her ear when you guys are getting hot and heavy, telling her what you want.

Hope this helps. Books doing great, and thanks for the comments :up:

remek · 02-25-2006, 12:42 PM

Also, we got quite a few ladies and gent's in here. Maybe they can provide some good input.

SWEETYV22 · 02-25-2006, 05:53 PM

Let me just say this, most girls do not like to give head. But how do you know what you like and dislike until you try it. The first time for anything is always nerve wrecking and a feeling of being uncomfortable always sets in. So, I agree with remek, ask her. But let me just add this, if she has never offered or even shown the interest of giving you head, asking her might only lead to you are giving only to receive. But be careful on how you approach her. And when you two do talk about this I would suggest talking about it before any sexual activity. For example, mention it casually in a face-to-face conversation so you can see her initial reaction. That should give you a good idea if she is just afraid, nervous about her first time or just a selfish *****!

superman · 02-25-2006, 07:09 PM

if all else fails, just lather your penis with some chocolate or syrup, females cannot resist.

On a serious note... just talk to her, be the man and let her know what you want and how you feel about things.