A New Toy Issue For Me

[CaptainJohnson]

We went to one of those stores yesterday. She looked at a bunch of bullets and micros. She said nothing is better than her current micro. We did get a lasso to try and help with the ED. I asked her if she would prefer a vibrating one (ring) she said they suck "no power".

Slu I think I am stuck with the replica but I might get it in a different color. I won't think if others use it better on her because I refuse to use it on her. If she needs it right now I will not complain and she can use it on herself.

Your girlfriend has tried one ring. I know that reaction, and I have seen it before. Tonnes of people dismiss vibe rings because of one experience with one brand. It is hard to find the one that works for you, but I know that most people who have tried the disposable trojan ring are repeat buyers: my girlfriend and I included. We have owned about 4 different vibe rings, and only one of them was any good, but I forget the brand name at the moment (it was good, but wasn't great). We have tried 3 different disposable rings on top of that, and once again only the trojan stood out. Sex is also different on a ring, as you do less speeding up, and instead focus on increasing the time you let the ring stimulate her. It is one of those times it is better to be slow than fast. Most guys just treat it like regular sex and never get the girl to enjoy the ring as much as she could.

[hooksvsbird]

Thanks Capt. I will keep it in mind. The trojan ring, how do you think it would work for its main purpose? Helping get and maintain an erection?

[CaptainJohnson]

Thanks Capt. I will keep it in mind. The trojan ring, how do you think it would work for its main purpose? Helping get and maintain an erection?

Sorry for the late response. The ring is not as tight as some other rings out there. I am unsure if it aids to maintain erection or not, but it couldn't hurt. Its real purpose is the vibrator up top.

[4Samson]

If you dont want to be using toys and similar methods to make up for your ed and are just doing it because you feel you dont have another choice, then what about viagra? You can buy it online for like $1 a pill and probaly wouldnt even need a full pill. Perhaps you have already tried and it didnt work for you for whatever reason but it sounds like you have some form of legit ed and that is exactly what viagra is made for. You problems may be as simple as a little blue pill.

[islander]

Wow op. I never thought of that. I never thought he would think of that. I for sure would think of that if he whipped one out. If it wasn't in original packing I wouldn't allow it and probably leave lol. Never thought of the reverse. I guess if they had a problem with it they would have asked. I never thought of it as bad but if it would bother him as it bothers you I'm sure he would have said something. Never been with a guy who is not open. Good luck to you.

[hooksvsbird]

Wow op. I never thought of that. I never thought he would think of that. I for sure would think of that if he whipped one out. If it wasn't in original packing I wouldn't allow it and probably leave lol. Never thought of the reverse. I guess if they had a problem with it they would have asked. I never thought of it as bad but if it would bother him as it bothers you I'm sure he would have said something. Never been with a guy who is not open. Good luck to you.

For the record islander I am a guy. I have come to grips with toys at this point. Also as somebody pointed out she did not ask me to get a new penis and there are memories attached to it so why should I ask her to change her toys.

I am brand new to toys is all. They have never been necessary before. But now I am going to try and embrace them. Even the strapon. Like somebody who is missing a leg will use a prosthetic to still compete in sports.

I was anti toy because my whole life sex was the one thing I could rely on in a relationship. Not that I couldn't compete with a toy but my view has always been that there wasn't a toy that could compete with me in bed. It was a big part of my identity my self image. Now, I understand that I am no longer that guy and that my partner deserves more than oral and digital orgasms. So I will fall back to these tools that I have always viewed as the crutch of the less skilled.

[hooksvsbird]

If you dont want to be using toys and similar methods to make up for your ed and are just doing it because you feel you dont have another choice, then what about viagra? You can buy it online for like $1 a pill and probaly wouldnt even need a full pill. Perhaps you have already tried and it didnt work for you for whatever reason but it sounds like you have some form of legit ed and that is exactly what viagra is made for. You problems may be as simple as a little blue pill.

Well my DR had me try a 25mg dose and made no difference. Then my GF wanted to try just a ring (I used the lasso, don't think I got it tight enough) with no viagra. Didn't really work just an EQ in the 50-70% range. This week I am going to try 50mg of viagra and the lasso and I am going to try the strapon.
To hell with my ego.

[CaptainJohnson]

For the record islander I am a guy. I have come to grips with toys at this point. Also as somebody pointed out she did not ask me to get a new penis and there are memories attached to it so why should I ask her to change her toys.

I am brand new to toys is all. They have never been necessary before. But now I am going to try and embrace them. Even the strapon. Like somebody who is missing a leg will use a prosthetic to still compete in sports.

I was anti toy because my whole life sex was the one thing I could rely on in a relationship. Not that I couldn't compete with a toy but my view has always been that there wasn't a toy that could compete with me in bed. It was a big part of my identity my self image. Now, I understand that I am no longer that guy and that my partner deserves more than oral and digital orgasms. So I will fall back to these tools that I have always viewed as the crutch of the less skilled.

I am sorry but no guy is mechanically equal to a machine, unless your are saying your tongue/cock moves faster than 100 Hz (100 vibrations a second). It is easier for a guy to get himself off with his hand than it is when having sex, and generally, the same is true for women. They will always get off easier with their own hands, or with toys. Using toys on women can also be very erotic, and having something that vibrates at such high rates really does make it easier than just using your own hands or tongue (if you disagree, try arousing your woman with words while simultaneously licking her vagina 'cause it ain't easy, and you'll sound like an idiot).

Sex is something unto itself, and stands apart from simple masturbation and toy-use, but masturbation and toy-use can be used to elaborate on sex. Remember, even though you can get yourself off easier, you would still prefer to be with a woman. The same applies to women: sex is more than just an orgasm. Guys seem to always forget this, but the proof is in the pudding (euphanism?).

It is good that you are choosing to be open to toys, but remember that there is a clear distinction between sex with a partner and arousal from a toy; however, when toys are used with a partner, that can be the best of both worlds, but something from each is lost in translation. Sex with toys often takes away from the intimacy to a degree, and most toys are more effective when used by an individual on their own. Ultimately, there is a different atmosphere and mood to this type of experimentation, and it is good to recognize that each form of sexual play differs. Sex in a parking lot is different from sex on a bed. Sex with a toy is different from using a toy alone. Using a toy alone is different from sex. You can't really compare them. Have fun, experiment, and broaden your horizons

[hooksvsbird]

I am sorry but no guy is mechanically equal to a machine, unless your are saying your tongue/cock moves faster than 100 Hz (100 vibrations a second). It is easier for a guy to get himself off with his hand than it is when having sex, and generally, the same is true for women. They will always get off easier with their own hands, or with toys. Using toys on women can also be very erotic, and having something that vibrates at such high rates really does make it easier than just using your own hands or tongue (if you disagree, try arousing your woman with words while simultaneously licking her vagina 'cause it ain't easy, and you'll sound like an idiot).

Sex is something unto itself, and stands apart from simple masturbation and toy-use, but masturbation and toy-use can be used to elaborate on sex. Remember, even though you can get yourself off easier, you would still prefer to be with a woman. The same applies to women: sex is more than just an orgasm. Guys seem to always forget this, but the proof is in the pudding (euphanism?).

It is good that you are choosing to be open to toys, but remember that there is a clear distinction between sex with a partner and arousal from a toy; however, when toys are used with a partner, that can be the best of both worlds, but something from each is lost in translation. Sex with toys often takes away from the intimacy to a degree, and most toys are more effective when used by an individual on their own. Ultimately, there is a different atmosphere and mood to this type of experimentation, and it is good to recognize that each form of sexual play differs. Sex in a parking lot is different from sex on a bed. Sex with a toy is different from using a toy alone. Using a toy alone is different from sex. You can't really compare them. Have fun, experiment, and broaden your horizons

Thanks for the reply Capt. I have to disagree with you on 1 point. I have never had a girl ever want to use toys with me. The 2 times I offered they tried and threw it on floor preferring me. Now maybe I have just been lucky and 98% of the women I have been with were able to have multiple orgasms easily and now law of large numbers is catching up with me. My personal view is no toy can compete with the real non ED me.

Like I said currently I have no choice but to use them so I might as well make the best of it.

[someone_like_u]

I am sorry but no guy is mechanically equal to a machine, unless your are saying your tongue/cock moves faster than 100 Hz (100 vibrations a second). It is easier for a guy to get himself off with his hand than it is when having sex, and generally, the same is true for women. They will always get off easier with their own hands, or with toys. Using toys on women can also be very erotic, and having something that vibrates at such high rates really does make it easier than just using your own hands or tongue (if you disagree, try arousing your woman with words while simultaneously licking her vagina 'cause it ain't easy, and you'll sound like an idiot).

Sex is something unto itself, and stands apart from simple masturbation and toy-use, but masturbation and toy-use can be used to elaborate on sex. Remember, even though you can get yourself off easier, you would still prefer to be with a woman. The same applies to women: sex is more than just an orgasm. Guys seem to always forget this, but the proof is in the pudding (euphanism?).

It is good that you are choosing to be open to toys, but remember that there is a clear distinction between sex with a partner and arousal from a toy; however, when toys are used with a partner, that can be the best of both worlds, but something from each is lost in translation. Sex with toys often takes away from the intimacy to a degree, and most toys are more effective when used by an individual on their own. Ultimately, there is a different atmosphere and mood to this type of experimentation, and it is good to recognize that each form of sexual play differs. Sex in a parking lot is different from sex on a bed. Sex with a toy is different from using a toy alone. Using a toy alone is different from sex. You can't really compare them. Have fun, experiment, and broaden your horizons

Great post cj!

Also op, don't let the whole toy issue get you down. It seems you've got a great woman by your side who loves the man you are. My husband and I use toys occasionally. We both consider them added fun. It's very erotic for me to use one on myself while he sits back and watches while stroking himself or just allowing him to take control while I watch him and play with my nipples or something like that. Anyway, I hope you'll grow to love them as added pleasure instead of a crutch/needed instrument in your sex life. Good luck with you two

Added: No toy can complete with a man period. For women, it's the whole sexual experience with a man, one we have a deep connection or feelings for.