Confidence to date women when having erection problems

[UKGuy]

Okay so I won't bore everyone with my issues I have talked about it countless times but to get to the point basically I tried penis enarlgement years ago (yes It was all my fault obviously) and it went horribley wrong and gott several injuries unfortunately I never really recovered and to this day I have a real difficulity keeping an erection and getting rock hard is almost impossible even 10 years after it's still hard to deal with at times. I was insecure about my dick size at 21 years old and I didn't think straight my cock worked perfectly before the insecurity took over me (probably from viewing porn at a young age and too often) I have given up on the hope of having normal erectile function.

However I want to try and ask women out I am tired of being celebate (a virgin at 27) and without female company. I see so many guys (and people I know) with women and feel inferior and a loser being single and I have been singles for YEARS. I really don't know how to address this issue though when it comes to trying to ask women out but be open about my obvious erection issues I feel so pathetic and ashamed because of my problems but I don't want them to stop me from trying to get a girlfriend but then I think why do I do I deserve a woman when I can't even get it up properly. From talking to my dad and doctor and urolgist it seems like I can't get more advanced treatment for my ED until I have tried getting sexual with women. I don't know how to handle this though is it mainly a case of being confident about my ED? Like tell women about it but not be inscecure? There's that belief that if you don't make something a problem or feel insecure about it women won't either but yeah I hardly feel confident in reality to approach women I'm attracted to knowing full well I have a impaired dick and wonder how most women will react to that maybe I'm being too negetive but I can't realistically see most women going out with an impotent man when there are tons of guys who can fuck with no problems.. If I'm honest though I probably could get a blowjob from women and learn to how to lick pussy well but I not confident about actual sexual intercourse when its' such a problem to stay hard.

For the female members here how should a guy handle this and honestly would you go out with a guy with a broken dick?

Thanks

[CUSP82]

Women got out with nice guys, fun guys, guys that make then laugh, kind guys, guys that are sincere and take them nice places and show them nice things and are friends and companions to them. Your dick, as well as mine, is the last thing on their list!

[2009vettez51]

just meet a girl go out with her and let nature takes its course. Try to stop worrying about your penis and see what happens when that day comes.

[hooksvsbird]

My GF came up with a possible solution for me. My post epiphany talks about it in the ED forum. I am dealing with the same issue.

[3666777]

You can't take viagra for your ed? Also don't worry about sex on the first few dates. Remove the idea that you will even have sex with them from your mind and you'll be good.

[moonbeamrider]

Man it sounds like its all in your head. Ive never heard of a permanent dick injury from PE. I would suggest you only talk to the most beautiful women around you and do it often whenever you can. Dont miss an opportunity.. talk to every one of them you run into and dont think about having sex with them just have a short conversation(or long). This will boost your confidence and possibly sovle your problem. Remember there is no try.. you do or you dont. So go out there now and do it. Dude stop reading this and GO!

[TINKERBELL]

It all sounds like its fear based, you assume your dick is still broken, you believe if won't work so it doesn't.
You need to not think or worry about your dick when approaching females, focus on the interaction , the enjoyment of being, focus on the fun and the connection, focus on what about her turns you on. Learn to use your tongue and toys, i say this becasue even with working dick those things are great for flavoring sex and great for taking pressure off of your penis performance. Many females are understanding and i do believe its your head that is interfering with your ability to get hard.. psychological trauma from your old injury .

[BTBrian]

Like everyone has told you, how do you know you even have ED if you've never tried it with a girl? I've never seen anyone on here with a real physical injury from PE that never healed. It just sounds to me like you have a severe case of sex anxiety and you have it in your head that you can't get an erection.

Just meet a nice girl (the majority of them don't care much about your dick), take her on a few dates, and when the time comes let nature take it's course! If you think about it during the encounter then you won't be able to get hard though. So you have to find a way not to think about it.

[UKGuy]

It's not in my head I wish it was but it's not I don't get morning erections hardly ever anymore and my erections are poor even when I masturbate and don't cum for say a few weeks. I have been doing Kegels and saw an improvement but they haven't worked as well as I hoped. Strangely I have been getting a few random erections recently and it will stay erect for a few minutes but they're super weak I'm so frustrated as to how poor my erection quality is it's really making me lack confidence in even talking to women I'm attracted to I feel like I have worse erections than most 40-50 years old. There must be something I can do to restore my erection strengh I don't think I could cope mentally getting a penile implant I'm pretty insecure about my dick size enough without shortening it with a dick implant although my size average (6 inches erect when I used to get fully hard). Being insecure about my dick got me into this ED mess in the first place.

What If I straight up tell a woman who I feel I could get sexual with that I have ED or erectile problems? I worry she will say well see ya! I don't blame her either. I mean If I'm honest and open about my troubles will most women be okay with it? Even If I can't get it up successfully and have sex I still desire sexual experiences with women. I wonder how realistic it is though that women will be with a guy who may not be able to have sex unless say I'm a woman's husband (which I'm not obviously) I don't want to marry either. What I mean is I can see women staying with a impotent man if they have been married for years but a young 27 year old single guy? I'm not too sure most girls will get involved with younger impotent men and be less understanding and accepting of it.

[pony2stallion]

Did you speak to the urologist about the injury? Did he diagnose you with any problems or offer tests? What's your general health like?