Transition from talking to kissing

[juleswinnfield]

Hey ladies and gents, thought i'd come here with my issue.(for some reason i cant move down, so i apologize for a big paragraph) im great at talking to girls, making them laugh, conversing etc blah blah. but what i suck at is the transition from talking to making my move and kissing and hooking up. i havent made out with too many girls, 4-5. but a couple of them i was actually blackout drunk and snapped back in the middle of making out with them, one was my ex and another we were already talking and knew each other and knew we'd hook up. im in college, so it kind of helps my odds. but whats your advice, or if you wanna share your move or something youve used thats worked, and if youre a lady, somethings thats worked on you. cheers and hope to hear some good discussion here.

[Envision]

Sup man, its a hard game out there, sometimes a girl might not even want to makeout that night or situation. there are so many variables, like are you at a bar, club or local college party? It depends... Usually girls aint making out unless there is alcohol involved.

Now is your problem like nervousness or awkwardness in making the next move? Atleast you have the ability to talk and make people laugh, just keep working off that. I'd say you gotta flirt, get playful, and set your mind on kissing her before you even attempt it. But every girl is different...Some girls want the bold and aggressive approach, others want the smooth and sensitive one. It's all about reading people. I hope that aint sucky advice.

[BTBrian]

It's always awkward unless you know for sure they are into you. Personally I'm not into hooking up much outside of relationships so most of the girls I kiss I already know they're into me which makes it easier. You just gotta go for it though, most girls are just as horny as you are. Find a way to do something with physical contact, tickling them or dancing or something like that and then transition that into a kiss. That's a lot easier than just going straight from talking to kissing

[Haunted Bufalo]

In my experience with college girls what you say has very little to do with it, it mostly comes down to looks you give each other. For example, if it feels like it's getting to "that point," make eye contact and if she maintains it, look at her lips and then go back up to her eyes (not super quick but don't linger on her lips either). If she wants it she'll do the same thing and give a little smile, so just go for it. You can also "accidentally" make your hands' touch, and if she lets it linger for a little bit then make your move. If you're at a party and have been talking for most of the night, she's alright decided if she wants you or not, and at that point all that really matters is that you make the move, the transition isn't that crucial (I'm talking exclusively about college girls, I have no experience with other women).

It sounds like we're pretty similar, and honestly what helped me the most was realizing that girls are just as horny as we are, if she's into you all she's waiting for is for you to make the move.

[2009vettez51]

I am the exact opposite I sucked at talking so I would talk just long enough to figure out if they were into me then go strait for a kiss to break the ice. The longer I waited the more akward it felt to me. If I am talking to a girl and would rather be making out with her then thats where im going to take it.

[Growler]

I only hook up with girls from online dating. When I do it I warm them up so much before meeting that they already want to fuck me when meeting. Seriously.

[sandiego27]

Dude your in college, just go for it. College chicks are like a day out of High-School, it's like taking candy from a baby at that point. They are horny and not necessarily looking for any type of commitment, make your move. If you strike out (which I doubt it), there's thousands more surrounding you.

Wait till your out of college and dating women in the real world in the late 20's/early 30's, it get's a bit more complicated. College dudes have no idea how easy they got it.

[Chargeit]

Just do it, You don't want to wait until your in your mid-20's and realize you've missed out on such prime opportunities. I'm not saying to slut yourself, there really isn't much respect in that, I'm just saying don't let your youth pass you by. I was lucky enough to be good with these things, maybe its the killer instinct that kicks in when you know your good to go.

Learn to project your sexuality, and tie into others. This doesn't mean being a creep, don't said oddball things, make lude comments about body parts, or make unwanted physical contact. Smerks at the correct time, eye contact and playful touching. When I say playful I mean acceptable contact, Shoulder, arms hands. Don't be scared to get closer when you feel its appropriate, if shes interested she'll be accepting towards it. Just remember, read them, Start slow if you have to. Figure out what she wants and how she responds. Don't just invade her space from the first moment and expect to not look like a creep.

Its different for all men and women. If shes into you right off the bat than you may get away with things otherwise creepy, but I'd suggest to Play it safe, stay on the non-creep side of things.

Eye contact is key, If shes as stuck in your eyes as you are in hers it usually means something. If shes making it but not keeping it could just mean shes shy, if shes refusing to make it with you than maybe its time to look elsewhere.

Sadly, you can't easily explain this stuff, there's a fine line between flirting and being a creep, don't cross it.