[baybabe]

This question should be under "A Mans perspective" but I didnt see a better place so its here.

The question is this...
It doesnt matter where I am or what I am dresses like (I'm not trying to blow up my ego right now btw, I would really like a mans perspective) men stare at me, blatantly regardless of who's with them or with me. One time this guy asked me if he could get a picture taken with me (I wasnt even wearing a cleavage shirt) right in front of my boyfriend they do this. When this happens my boyfriend will say stuff like "DO YOU SEE people staring at you?" or "That guy wouldnt take his eyes of you, right in front of his girlfriend!" he seems ok with it and maybe a little like he has a trophy to show off but, I wonder if he has insecurity about it. Like he knows that I can have a pretty good selection of men if I so choose. I wouldnt like my man being gawked at all the time, I would probably say something or mean mug the chick (I know so immature lol). What do you guys think? Is he secretly jealous? Or does he like it?

[Seven]

He has to like it to some point. I'm sure everyone likes to know others think of their partner as attractive. Of course, they are reasonable limits. Personally, if I see a guy glance at my gf, I don't get mad because I already know she's beautiful. By contrast, if I am stared at she becomes unnecessarily defensive. Consider that people can be attractive and still lack confidence or the other way around. I would say that if he does not act defensively then he probably doesn't feel threatened and just enjoys that he has you.

[growing4her]

Its just dumb to stare at a chick who's got company. Its a good way to get your ass beat.Your pretty much telling the guy he aint shit and may as well be invisible. JMO

[Nacho]

It doesn't bother me ... but ...this thread would be much more useful with pictures.

People stare at me all the time because I am 6'9". No one has asked for a picture though.

[kingpole]

Well you know BB im butt ugly people stare at me because im Butt ugly. Hehehe, well anyway this happens to mon a lot. Makes my step dad insanely jealous to the point where he wont take her out to dinner, church or any other place. My mom is 66 and still attracts attention from men even half her age.

Baybabe when are we getting married?

[baybabe]

Originally Posted by Nacho

It doesn't bother me ... but ...this thread would be much more useful with pictures.

Your right...you start =)
Growing4her & Seven...thanks for sharing! That was insightful. I like that its doesnt bother him when people gawk however, I do wish he would show a little more jealousy. There could be other relationship issues behind this one but, I could practically tell him "I was dancing on tables NAKED...DID YOU HEAR ME? I SAID I WAS DANCING NAKED AT A BAR! HELLO?" and he would said "what? what did you do that for?" I dont want him to be crazy jealous I just want him to want me to be only his. I think he's a bit too superficial or something idk.

Kingpole... We will marry when you are all I ever want in a man, good luck with my checklist.

[kingpole]

Originally Posted by baybabe

Your right...you start =)
Growing4her & Seven...thanks for sharing! That was insightful. I like that its doesnt bother him when people gawk however, I do wish he would show a little more jealousy. There could be other relationship issues behind this one but, I could practically tell him "I was dancing on tables NAKED...DID YOU HEAR ME? I SAID I WAS DANCING NAKED AT A BAR! HELLO?" and he would said "what? what did you do that for?" I dont want him to be crazy jealous I just want him to want me to be only his. I think he's a bit too superficial or something idk.

Kingpole... We will marry when you are all I ever want in a man, good luck with my checklist.

I almost have a sixpack! really! I have a two pack!


Question though is maan good looking himself or thinks he is good looking? If your both good looking like myself i can see the syuperficialness in him not reacting to attention from other men. Does he get stared at as well? If so it may become a competition type relationship.

[baybabe]

Originally Posted by kingpole

I almost have a sixpack! really! I have a two pack!


Question though is maan good looking himself or thinks he is good looking? If your both good looking like myself i can see the syuperficialness in him not reacting to attention from other men. Does he get stared at as well? If so it may become a competition type relationship.

Well you got one check keep working =)
Yeah I see your point, of course he's good looking but Im finding that he's an "All about me" type of guy. Its so strange because he is so laid back and easy going, it just doesnt match.

[Seven]

Originally Posted by growing4her

Its just dumb to stare at a chick who's got company. Its a good way to get your ass beat.Your pretty much telling the guy he aint shit and may as well be invisible. JMO

It's something I try not to do. Not for the fear of getting beat up but because I think its disrespectful to the guy. It's an instinct to look for mating partners. You can't suppress it.

[Nikki]

In the past, when I was in the beginning stages of a new relationship, I never looked at another guy and would not have appreciated it if he were looking at other women. As the relationship grows, either you become really "into one another" or you don't. If after dating a guy for awhile and I knew deep down he and I would never be together forever, yeah, I might look at other guys. I would imagine guys are like too, huh?