Not Enough Sex: Data Reveals Some Surprising Results

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sexless relationshipIf you were to ask random people on the street who complains about not having enough sex more — men or women — they’d say “Men!”, right? I mean, we all know guys think about sex every six seconds, or some ridiculous amount, right? We’ve also all heard the stereotype of the wife who “always has a headache.” Clearly men are the more sex starved!

Wrong!

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The Sexless Data

When looking at the top 5 complaint-related search terms for specific phrases, this data showed lack of sex is definitely an issue for thousands of people. Here are the stats:

Search term –  “___________ marriage”

— sexless marriage – 21,090 average monthly searches
— unhappy marriage – 6,029 average monthly searches
— loveless marriage – 2,650 average monthly searches
— sex starved marriage – 1,658 average monthly searches
— no sex marriage – 1,300 average monthly searches

Search term – “__________ relationship”

— abusive relationship – 5,867 average monthly searches
— sexless relationship – 3,675 average monthly searches
— complicated relationship – 3,563 average monthly searches
— unhappy relationship – 1,450 average monthly searches
— bad relationship – 1,363 average monthly searches

OK, not enough sex is definitely being felt by at least one side of the relationship. But, who’s doing the complaining? Let’s look at some more stats…

Search term – “my boyfriend won’t have sex with me”

805 average monthly searches

Search term – “my girlfriend won’t have sex with me”

413 average monthly searches

Let’s now look at married couples…

Search term – “my husband won’t have sex with me”

972 average monthly searches

Search term – “my wife won’t have sex with me”

1,048 average monthly searches

What Does that Sexless Data Say?

Looking at the data above, we see something pretty interesting. When talking about boyfriends and girlfriends, it appears the gals are doing a lot more (nearly double!) the complaining about lack of sex as the guys. That’s completely opposite of what I know I expected.

Now, the married couples changes things quite a bit; however, it still blows the “sex-starved male” theory out of the water. Although married men appear to be complaining slightly (less than 10%) more than married women, about not enough fun between the sheets, it still isn’t the overwhelmingly male complaint. It looks like men and women nearly equally say, “Not tonight, dear.”

Kimberly’s Random Thoughts on the Sexless Data

I’m going to preface this next bit with saying, I am not a professional counselor and, obviously, every relationship is unique. If you feel like the lack of sex in your marriage is negatively affecting your relationship, you should definitely reach out to a professional.

With that disclaimer, here are my thoughts. Communication, guys. Seriously. That’s what it’s all about. I discussed this with some of my friends — both women and men — and I heard something interesting. Both genders said there were times they wanted sex, but were pretty sure the other didn’t, so they didn’t instigate anything and went without. It wasn’t that their partner was turning them down. It was that they thought they would, so they didn’t even try. How many times were they wrong? How many times did their partner feel the exact same way? Lack of communication.

I’ll also let you guys in on a little secret, if you feel like you’re the sex-deprived in ther relationship. For the most part (and there are exceptions to this), women need to feel close to their partner to want to have sex. You don’t have to necessarily wine and dine her, but you do have to make that mental connection with your partner. Think about it. When you “wine and dine” your girl, you typically give her 100% of your attention. She feels special. She feels valued. She feels loved. It’s not the wine or the food. It’s you.

Talk to your partner and make her feel loved. Hopefully we can see those average monthly search numbers go down for both genders!

Kegeling, Attitude and Workouts & More: Ask the Experts

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positive male enhancement workout attitudeBig Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about Kegeling, attitude and male enhancement and more, in this Ask the Experts article.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Kimberly at forum name – KMWylie – and she’ll have the experts here on PEGym get your questions answered.

Q. For some reason, on more than one occasion, I’ve forgotten to do kegels before start/stops (edging)…

… and I end up doing then in the shower while warming down. Is there any disadvantages to this?

Big Al: The disadvantage to doing it this way is you don’t get the tissue stretch benefit that could be had, if you did your Kegels immediately after your enlargement exercises.  Still, if there’s some issue with your schedule where you have to split your routine up, then doing it the way you’re doing it is better than not training at all.

Q. On some occasions, I’ve felt rushed or just wanted to get (my training) over with,…

…and I think it may have affected the quality of the session. Have you found attitude to be a factor in your experience or your experience helping others. Thank you for your time.

Big Al:  You’re welcome 🙂  There’s nothing more important for your gains than having a positive attitude and focusing on your exercises to the exclusion of all else.  When you start treating your routine like an afterthought, your gains will likely suffer.  If you have to, use some kind of motivation mechanism to reward yourself after training.  You might aslso want to do it early in the day.  This way, you get the feeling of accomplishment that comes from having your workout done- and the rest of your day should tend to go better too 🙂

Q. Question about stop and start, what is the ultimate goal of stop and start….

… Also is training six days a week too much or is that fine, so long as I am still getting good PII’s? I will measure tomorrow to really see how my progress has been going, but I have noticed more flaccid length and overall volume, so I think it’s good.

Big Al: The ultimate goals of the Stop and Start is to help you to develop maximum hardness, control, endurance, and your powers of visualization.  You should be able to perform this exercise 4 times a week at peak levels.  To really get the most out of this exercise, make sure you’re attempting to hold a “skin splitting” erection during the duration of the exercise.  If you cheat yourself on this exercise and perfom beolw your abilities, you’ll fail to maximize your EQ.

6 Steps to Succeeding at Your 2015 New Year Resolutions

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new years male enhancement resolutionsHumans are eternal optimists, and the age-old tradition of making New Year Resolutions is proof-positive of this fact. Come January 1st, we look forward to a brand new year and all the amazing things to come, including the better person we will be! We sum up that better person in the form of resolutions.

Sadly, a large majority of those well-intentioned resolutions never come to fruition.

Well, here’s my resolution for this year…

To help more people keep their resolutions and attain their 2015 goals.

Here’s my first attempt at making this resolution for myself (and in turn others) come true. 6 Steps to help you succeed at your 2015 New Year Resolutions.

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  • Step 1 – Clearly Define Your Goals – Whether your goals are penis enlargement or something else, only by clearly defining your goals will you have specific target in mind.  Think of it like a cross-country roadtrip. You’re more likely to get where you want to be, if you know the exact destination. Think: “I want to go west.”  versus “I want to go to San Diego.”  Quantify your goals to pinpoint them even more.

 

  • Step 2New_Years_Resolutions – Set a Deadline – With a clearly defined goal in mind, decide when you’d like to accomplish this goal by.Giving yourself a deadline will not only give you motivation, but also help you ensure you’re on track to reaching your goal, during the process. Be realistic. Obviously, you’re not going to increase your penis length by an inch in a week.
  • Step 3 – Create a Plan – Like a roadtrip, you need to know what roads you’re going to take to get to your destination. Think old school, turn-by-turn, Mapquest type directions. A daily plan is the best.
  • Vh-Super-New-Year-resolutionsStep 4 – Enlist Help to Make Yourself Accountable – There’s a reason why people who hire personal trainers are more likely to achieve fitness goals than those without a trainer — they are held accountable by someone other than themselves. Now, if your goal centers on male enhancement, you may not feel comfortable sharing it with your friends or family, and having them hold you accountable. The good news is there are options, even for the more personal goals. You’ll find lots of PEGym members on the forum who can help keep you accountable, or try an enhancement coach trainer, like meCoach.

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  • Step 5 – Track Your Progress – Tracking your progress has a couple of benefits. First, it helps you keep yourself accountable. Second, it allows you to monitor your progress during the journey. Third, if you’re not making the progress you need to be making, you can review what you did in the past and revamp your plan, to get your progress back on track.
  • Step 6 – Set Up Rewards – We’re human. We like to be rewarded for our efforts. Set up rewards for milestones on your path to goal success. Also, reward yourself for working your plan – such as a reward for doing everything on your plan for the week.

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Ring in the New Year with Amazing Male Enhancement Savings!

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