An Open Letter to My Fellow Ladies: Please Stop Talking About Your Partner’s Penis Size

stop talking about penis size

stop talking about penis sizeDear Fellow Femalekind,

Please, for not only the sake of the general male populace’s psyche, but for our happiness as well, stop talking about your partner’s penis size.

Don’t call it “cute.”

Don’t compare it to other penises you’ve had in the past or seen in porn.

Definitely, in the heat of anger, don’t think a derogatory remark on his size is an appropriate insult to sling.

It’s not nice. It’s not helpful. And, we all pay for it, in the long run.

Forget cyber-bullying – penis size comments have done more harm then all the snarky, mean girl Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and SnapChat posts combined!

I’ve been a part of the PEGym family for more than 7 years now, and at first, I thought snide “small dick” comments were only made rarely. That, sure, there were bitchy, immature girls out there who callously told their partner about a HUGE ex or that they blatantly wish their BFs dick was bigger — but they were few and far between, right? I mean, why would you try to make someone you care about feel bad?

Sadly, my years of talking to tens of thousands of members has realized one truth — these kinds of comments happen quite frequently. And, the result is often the same — a guy doubting his self-worth, with increased physical insecurities, as some girl has just taken a swipe at the most personal part of him – his penis.

So, what harm can these comments really do? Shouldn’t men be a little less sensitive? Sticks and stones and all of that?

The reality is a guy can’t unhear a comment that even implies that his penis is less-than-desirable. Not only, as I mentioned before, does it negatively affect his self-image, but this self-doubt affects every aspect of his life. Romantic relationships suffer. If he’s in one with the girl who has made the comment, he worries that he’s not enough man for her and that she’s unhappy and is going to leave him. This hurt and insecurity often leads to jealousy and anger. It’s often the beginning of the end of the relationship.

Even if she apologizes and tries to reassure him that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with his manhood, he’ll always remember the hurtful comment.

You can’t unring that bell.

This insecurity can even negatively affect other personal and professional relationships.

Ladies, think of it this way. Would you want your partner to say something negative about your breast size? Maybe comment that his ex had nicer, perkier breasts? How would it feel if he said he thought your labia were a little long and floppy? Or that he really prefers a tighter vagina? What about even a simple comment about your weight – that his ex had abs he could bounce a quarter off of – or the perfect ass?

Obviously, we don’t want our partner to talk about how they like something on their ex more than on us. Even in the heat of the moment, or after a bad breakup, we don’t want them going to their buddies to say our ass was riddled with cellulite or we gave crappy blow jobs or our boobs were saggy.

Let’s use the Golden Rule when it comes to talking about men’s penises.

“But, Kimberly,” you say. “What if my partner asks me about his size or sizes of my exes? What do I do?!?”

First – MEN: STOP DOING THIS!!!!! Seriously – STOP! It’s like a woman asking you, “Does this dress make me look fat?” Or, “Do you think she’s pretty?” It’s a loaded question.

Second – Answer with this, “I’ve never paid attention to size. All I know is you rock my world, baby!!”

So, please, ladies – let’s make 2018 a kinder, happier year by making a vow to never discuss the size of a guy’s penis again. The world will definitely be a better place! 

And, remember, happy men are more likely to make us happy! 😀



  1. But what if her comments are true, and they push the guy to increase his size to a satisfactory one? Isn’t a net positive in the end?

    Women want cocks that are big. And most guys’ cocks aren’t. So obviously something needs to be done. And lying won’t help. Especially if something CAN be done.

    • Jimbo24 – absolutely not. Let’s look at the same situation, but with a different condition – weight loss. Let’s say you or your partner is overweight. Making fun of the person. Being cruel. Teasing them. Making snarky comments about their weight, etc. may cause them to do something to lose the weight, but in the process, it’s going to destroy their self-esteem. This can actually lead to depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia, and much more.

      Nope. The old adage is true – If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

      As far as “Women want cocks that are big.” That’s just incorrect. Men (and women) need to stop buying into the crap porn has brainwashed them to believe. Women want cocks that are HEALTHY & HARD. We want lovers that are SKILLED & have STAMINA. I have said it hundreds of times on the forums – a big penis will NOT make you a great lover.

      Yes, a larger penis can make some positions easier (feasible), but I’ve had lovers that were large in size that were absolute crap in bed. And, I’ve had lovers who were average to even slightly below average, who blew my mind!

      Read this – – so you can understand that most men are more than adequately sized to satisfy a woman.

      Like any body modification (weight loss, muscle building, etc.) penis enlargement should only be done for YOU. Not anyone else.

      • Please, I’ve seen and heard enough in my lifetime (I’m 28, but still) to know with certitude that size does matter. To mention one thing, there was a guy in my college for whom word got out that he had a huge dick. Believe it or not, I’ve seen with my own eyes girls coming up to him and giving their phone number with a shy grin on their face. I’ve had two girlfriends telling me to go deeper – which is what spurred me to look into PE to begin with – and I’m not even that small.

        Listen, I don’t want to debate whether women want a big one or not. I appreciate that you’re trying to be kind and all. But you know what? I’ve made my peace with that. Especially since there seems to be a way to correct it, which I’m working on.

        I vowed to cut myself off from the opposite sex until I reach 6.5″ (NBP) – sort of using sex deprivation as the stick that keeps me going there faster. And that’s cool, it’s working, and I did gain some. My biggest hurdle right now is the hard flaccid which I keep getting, but that’s another issue.

        Anyway, thanks for the reply.

  2. Sweetpe, you continue to disappoint, both in your comments here, and those you post in the forums.

    Kimberly, Spot on and thank you for your article! Wish everyone would read this and start making tomorrow a better today. Lots of ways to bring down your fellow human being, but it takes heart to compliment and avoid confrontation. As someone who is happily married, I can say that this advice is key to a long term relationship.

  3. Thanks for the article – so true. “So, what harm can these comments really do? Shouldn’t men be a little less sensitive? Sticks and stones and all of that?” Yeah, even tough men have weak spots – and penis size seems to be for most men’s ego and their balls for their physical strength. You insult his dick, you shutter his ego. You grab his balls, you paralyze his physical strength. Samson’s Hair.

  4. With all my respect,do you think some womes will listen to this post?.
    Seriously,of course it will be womans who will and agree,but a lot won’t.They won’t care and they won’t learn.Is sad but I am sure those womans want that desire to have the control on a big penis.We all know that some desires subpass the mind and we feed them,the desires i mean.
    So those womans will always want their dream come true.
    Sad but true, and, for their desire to be fulfilled, many ruptures will occur.

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