Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about the advantages of stop and starts and more, in this Ask the Experts article.
Q: I wanted to build up my libido a little….
…What are the advantages of stop and start, if it is for pre-longing ejaculation I have no issue with that. But if they serve a purpose in remaining a wreck without arousal then it’s useful.
Big Al: The Stop and Start exercise is useful for increasing stamina, hardness, ejaculatory control, and the powers of visualizations on a controlled setting. To increase your libido, refrain from any frivolous masturbation and reserve your ejaculations for training and sexual activity only.
Situation: Client eliminating the effects of negative conditioning in conjunction with porn use …
…Client: I am not masturbating at all. Ejaculatjons are only for training and sex. I know for a fact my mind holds me back. It’s just very hard to get my mind right.
Big Al: You should prioritize mental fortitude above all else. Get to a point in your mind where you visualize yourself being confident and unencumbered. Focus on the “feel” of that emotional state. This should be combined with the introspection that A) ANY mental blocks are the result of a lack of mastery over the ego, and B) giving in to the *potential selfish expectations of others at the expense of your mental well being isn’t worth it.
Client: That is the most useful advice I think you have ever given me, thank you! It is difficult to visualize confidence if you really don’t have it at that exact moment you Know haha. Suprisingly I’m pretty confident in bed it’s just when it comes to the most beautiful women I am attracted to that I feel nervous. The mastering your orgasms technique should help with all of this? Is there a certain time and place I should do the stop and start or music to listen to to keep calm and undistracted? I don’t know if that is even recommended
Big Al: It can be difficult to visualize it- especially if you confuse confidence with cockiness. With real confidence, it’s a state of being happy with yourself so you don’t need to prove anything to anyone. Cockiness can be seen as overconfident actions which usually veil insecurities.
You should attempt to practice without any outside stimuli. This can be tough, but the rewards are worth it. If you feel any surges of fear, taking a deep breath and clearing your mind will help. Optimally, you’d perfrom when your T levels are highest- which for most is the morning time.