The Costs of Having a “Victim Mentality”

victim mentalityMale enhancement is, obviously, often centered on the physical aspects of improving. We talk about penis enlargement, increasing sexual stamina, improving erection quality, etc. — all physical things. However, the psychological component of male enhancement is arguably just as important to reaching your goals.

I’m sure you’ve heard that old adage — “Attitude is everything.” — It’s true!  Your attitude, while pursuing any goal, male enhancement or otherwise, either helps you or hurts you. One of the most damaging mental attitudes you can have is a “victim mentality.”

What is a Victim Mentality?

The victim mentality, as the name implies, occurs when a person always sees themselves as a victim. Nothing is their fault — ever. They refuse to take responsibility for things in their life, how they feel, where they are in life. It’s a “poor me” type attitude.

Now, to be fair, some of the bad things in their life could likely be due to someone else. A girlfriend cheats on you, it’s natural to have some trust issues, as an example. But, a victim mentality takes these events and uses them as excuses for not making positive changes and progress in their life.

A victim mentality takes, “I was cheated on, so it’s difficult for me to trust, but I’ll try to remember each person is a unique human being.” and expands it into, “I was cheated on, so I have to be super-possessive and every relationship I’m ever going to be in is tainted because of her.”

What is the Cost of a Victim Mentality?

The cost of having a victim mentality is vast. I don’t mean to be over-dramatic here, but seriously — it can negatively affect every facet of your life, both personal and professional.

  •  More Difficulty Reaching Male Enhancement Goals – Reaching your male enhancement goals takes commitment.  There are no quick fixes. It’s going to take time and dedication. This means it’s also going to take you being responsible for your actions… even when you slip up. A victim mentality  will have you blaming any missteps in your training on others. These excuses typically then lead to eventual program failure.
  • More Difficulty in Personal Relationships – The victim mentality is a negative mindset. It can’t help but spill over into your personal relationships. The victim mentality will mean you are allowing a black cloud to follow you into every relationship. Even before you enter a relationship, people can sense when someone has a negative attitude. People are naturally attracted to positive people. With a victim mentality, you may be preventing relationships from even starting!
  • More Difficulty in Your Professional Life – Mistakes happen even to the most competent worker. The victim mentality will mean you blame others for these mistakes, instead of not only taking responsibility but also making efforts to rectify the situation. Employers and colleagues will quickly learn that you never take responsibility, and it’s very difficult to move ahead in your career, when you have that kind of reputation.

What Can I Do if I Have a Victim Mentality?

  • victim-mentality-no-longer-a-victimOwn It – Own the fact that you’re in this mindset and understand why it’s so easy to fall into this trap. A victim mentality can garner you attention from others and make you feel like you’re in the right. You can’t change your mindset, if you don’t own that you have it.
  • Take Responsibility – When you come across something that is wrong in your life, even if it was instigated by someone else, take responsibility for how you’ve responded to it. Again, using the infidelity example — although you couldn’t control the person who cheated on you, you CAN choose how and if you let it affect your future relationships.
  • Be Thankful – When you feel like the world is totally against you, take a moment and really evaluate your life. Chances are you can think of others in worse situations. Take a moment and focus on the good things in your life. Be thankful for those things. To emphasize this thankfulness, try giving back to others — volunteer. It can really help you put things into perspective.

In the end, realize you don’t have to be a victim. You are in control of YOU! You can’t control what others do, but you sure can control how you react to others’ actions and whether or not you allow their actions to affect you in the future.

Focus on the positive and you’ll be so much happier in the long run!

 

 

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