Premature Ejaculation: What is It? Why Does it Happen? How Can I Fix It? – Pt 4

All of the causes of premature ejaculation lead to one common thing – getting aroused too quickly. This sends your body into the sympathetic mode, releasing hormones leading to orgasm.  It should be in the parasympathetic mode,which is a relaxed state.

Written by Rob Michaels
Updated 01/24/2019


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Here’s how arousal works:

  • Stage 1: Erection Begins – According to the Cleveland Clinic, physical and/or mental stimulation occurs, causing the brain to send chemical messages, down the spinal cord, telling the penile blood vessels to relax (in parasympathetic mode) and allow the penis to fill with blood. The penile tissues expand, creating an erection, and traps the blood in the corpora cavernosa.[1]
  • Stage 2: Full Erection, Relaxed and Controlled – You now have a full erection. Your heart rate has increased slightly and your scrotum is hanging fairly loosely. This parasympathetic activity also stimulates parts of the penile anatomy like the prostate, vas deferens and seminal vesicles.[2] Although you’re sexually excited, your parasympathetic system is still more active than the sympathetic system, allowing you to remain in control. This is the stage we want to stay in for maximum sexual stamina.
  • Stage 3: Arousal Begins to Take Hold – A warm sensation begins to develop in the genital area, and the size of your glans increases. The scrotum, which is the bag of skin holding the testicles, becomes tighter. This causes the testicles to draw up towards the body.[3] Your heart rate increases further. Your breathing becomes more rapid. The sympathetic system begins to take over and ejaculation seems imminent.
  • Stage 4: Ejaculation/Orgasm – The nervous system prepares for ejaculation, with the message to the spinal cord. The spinal cord sends messages to back to the penis causing it to spasm and ejaculate.[4] Your arousal and erection then most often begins to fade.

Moving through these stages too quickly is what leads to premature ejaculation.

Many men suffering from premature ejaculation get to Stage 3 before any physical stimulation even occurs. You need both the parasympathetic and sympathetic system for sex. The key is to relax and stay in the parasympathetic mode for as long as possible. Let’s look at some of the best ways to stay in that mode.



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[1] “Erection & Ejaculation.” Cleveland Clinic. Web. 24 Jan. 2019. Retrieved from
[2] Purves, Dale. “Autonomic Regulation of Sexual Function.” Current Neurology and Neuroscience Reports., U.S. National Library of Medicine, 1 Jan. 1970,
[3] “Sexual Arousal in Men.” National Health Service UK, NHS. 16 Jun. 2016. Web. 24 Jan. 2019. Retrieved from
[4] Alwaal, Amjad et al. “Normal male sexual function: emphasis on orgasm and ejaculation” Fertility and sterility vol. 104,5 (2015): 1051-60. doi: 10.1016/j.fertnstert.2015.08.033

About Rob Michaels

Rob Michaels is the founder of and the author of the bestselling book, Penis Exercises: A Healthy Book for Enlargement, Enhancement, Hardness, & Health.

Rob Michaels has been featured in numerous media platforms, including Men’s HealthGQ Magazine, and, among others. As a male enhancement expert, he has spent more than a decade researching different male enhancement techniques and reviewing products that men can use safely. He continually strives to develop effective programs that will help men gain confidence and a healthy sexuality by achieving their male enhancement goals.