GETTING AROUSED TOO QUICKLY
All of the causes of premature ejaculation lead to one common thing – getting aroused too quickly! This leads to your body jumping to the sympathetic mode (and the release of hormones leading to orgasm), instead of staying in the parasympathetic mode – the relaxation mode.
Here’s how arousal works:
- Stage 1: Erection Begins – Physical and/or mental stimulation occurs, causing the brain to send chemical messages, down the spinal cord, telling the penile blood vessels to relax (parasympathetic mode) and allow the penis to fill with blood. The penile tissues expand, creating an erection, and traps the blood in the corpora cavernosa.
- Stage 2: Full Erection, Relaxed and Controlled – You now have a full erection. Your heart rate has increased slightly and your scrotum is hanging fairly loosely. Although you’re sexually excited, your parasympathetic system is still more active than the sympathetic system, allowing you to remain in control. This is the stage we want to stay in for maximum sexual stamina.
- Stage 3: Arousal Begins to Take Hold – A warm sensation begins to develop in the genital area, and the size of your glans increases. Your scrotum and testicles raise snugly up into the body. Your heart rate increases further. Your breathing becomes more rapid. The sympathetic system begins to take over and ejaculation seems imminent.
- Stage 4: Ejaculation/Orgasm – The nervous system prepares for ejaculation, with the message to the spinal cord. The spinal cord sends messages to back to the penis causing it to spasm and ejaculate. Your arousal and erection then most often begins to fade.
Moving through these stages too quickly is what leads to premature ejaculation.
Many men suffering from premature ejaculation get to Stage 3 before any physical stimulation even occurs! You need both the parasympathetic and sympathetic system for sex. The key is to relax and stay in the parasympathetic mode for as long as possible. Let’s look at some of the best ways to stay in that mode.
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