Premature Ejaculation: What is It? Why Does it Happen? How Can I Fix It?

Premature ejaculation is more common than most think. In fact, every man has ejaculated earlier than expected at least once in his life. So if this has happened to you, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. If you’re frequently finishing fast or soon after penetration, that’s premature ejaculation. You’re not alone. 

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Read on to learn more about premature ejaculation. What are the causes? What you can do to stop it and control when you orgasm.

Written by Rob Michaels
Updated 01/24/2019


What is Premature Ejaculation?

According to the Urology Care Foundation, premature ejaculation (PE) is when ejaculation happens sooner than a man or his partner would like during sex.[1] It is the inability to control your orgasm with, either before intercourse begins, or shortly thereafter. The Mayo Clinic reports as many as 1 out of 3 men claim to experience PE, though estimates vary.[2]

This isn’t just about not lasting as long as you want, but orgasming too quick with very little stimulation. There’s a difference between having superior sexual stamina and true premature ejaculation. We explore more about exactly what premature ejaculation is, in the next section.

Sympathetic vs Parasympathetic Nervous System

Your body has three divisions of autonomous nervous systems. These include:

  • The sympathetic nervous systemThis is the hormonal response to stress. Your sympathetic nervous system activates in fight or flight type situations.[3]
  • The parasympathetic nervous system – This is the nervous system that controls autonomous bodily functions.[4] This includes your heart beat, your food digestion, breathing and other functions your body does without you even thinking about it.
  • The enteric nervous system – This is the nervous system responsible for coordinating your reflexes.[5]

It’s the moving from the parasympathetic (automatic bodily functions) to sympathetic (stress) mode that often leads to the inability to control ejaculation.

In a 2013 study published in Andrology, researchers note there must be a connection between sympathetic and parasympathetic nerve systems in the smooth muscles of the penis. Though this research was done on rats, scientists speculate these findings have similar physiological implications on human males.[6]

Causes of Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation can be caused by psychological factors (such as anxiety), physiological factors (including abnormal hormone levels), or a combination of both. In fact, the psychological factors are usually at least part of the problem. It becomes a snowball effect.

  • You ejaculate too quickly during one sexual encounter.
  • The next time, you worry you’re going to ejaculate too quickly.
  • This worry causes stress and anxiety.
  • This stress and anxiety makes you unable to control your orgasm.

It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Accoring to a 2016 study published in Translational Andrology and Urology, these snowball effects often include the development of performance anxiety, diminished self-esteem, and avoidance of sexual activity, among others.[7]

Keep reading, to learn more about these causes, to help you pinpoint where your issues may lie, so you can choose the best method to overcome your inability to control your orgasm.

How to Treat Premature Ejaculation

There are things you can do to address your inability to control your orgasm, from pelvic floor strengthening to climax control products to behavioral therapy. We’ll explore these methods in depth, in the following sections of this article.

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In addition to manual exercises designed to help you overcome premature ejaculation, sex toys are a great way to practice sex. Some of the top male sex toys can help you feel more comfortable about your body. Keep reading, to learn more about the the causes of premature ejaculation and how you can overcome this sexual challenge.



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[1] “What Is Premature Ejaculation?” Urology Care Foundation. Web. 24 Jan. 2019. Retrieved from
[2] “Premature Ejaculation.” Mayo Clinic, Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research. 16 May 2018. Web. 24 Jan. 2019. Retrieved from
[3] “Understanding the Stress Response.” Harvard Health Publishing, Harvard Medical School. 1 May 2018. Web. 24 Jan. 2019. Retrieved from
[4] “Definition of Parasympathetic Nervous System.” MedicineNet. Web. 24 Jan. 2019. Retrieved from
[5] “Enteric Nervous System.” Ohio River – New World Encyclopedia. 21 Nov. 2008. Web. 24 Jan. 2019. Retrieved from
[6] Hsieh, J-T., et al. “The Role of Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Nerve Systems on the Smooth Muscle of Rat Seminal Vesicles – Experimental Results and Speculation for Physiological Implication on Ejaculation.” Andrology, vol. 2, no. 1, 2013, pp. 59–64., doi:10.1111/j.2047-2927.2013.00146.x.
[7] Althof, S E. “Psychosexual Therapy for Premature Ejaculation.” Translational Andrology and Urology. Aug. 2016 5(4): 475–481. doi: 10.21037/tau.2016.05.15

About Rob Michaels

Rob Michaels is the founder of and the author of the bestselling book, Penis Exercises: A Healthy Book for Enlargement, Enhancement, Hardness, & Health.

Rob Michaels has been featured in numerous media platforms, including Men’s HealthGQ Magazine, and, among others. As a male enhancement expert, he has spent more than a decade researching different male enhancement techniques and reviewing products that men can use safely. He continually strives to develop effective programs that will help men gain confidence and a healthy sexuality by achieving their male enhancement goals.