I have a unique position here at PEGym, as one of only a few women active on PEGym, and the only female staff member, I get quite a few direct messages from members, asking questions or asking for my opinion.
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Q. I’m new to PEGym and new to PE. I’m 3 months into using Bathmate’s Hydromax X30. And this is the only PE I do….
… I’m married and my wife and I have a great sex life. My wife has no complaints about my size (I’m about 6.5-6.75″ BPEL, 5-5.3″ EG). I’m also a guy. And I want a bigger penis LOL. But I do want a bigger penis for both of us. My question, if it’s even answerable, is how much of an increase in penis size is something a woman can actually perceive?
We have vaginal and oral sex. And obviously she touches me with her hands. I feel like I’m bigger after 3 months with the X30. I’m not (but should be) regimented with measurements. But to me, I do feel noticeably thicker and longer. And my EQ feels great. But here’s her take on it…
Vaginally – she says she can’t feel a difference. But I swear I’ve heard her make a few new sounds during lovemaking. Orally – she says my penis might feel a little more “swollen” and veiny. Hands – she says she really doesn’t feel a difference.
I feel like the ultimate confirmation of PE isn’t a ruler, it’s you AND your partner. So, do you have any thoughts or experience on how much of an increase (length or girth) a man would have to achieve for a woman to feel the difference?
A. This is actually a really interesting question, so thank you for posing it!
First, it’s sometimes difficult to notice penis size increase visually or by feeling because the change happens relatively slowly. This is the reason we always encourage new PEers to take good starting measurements. Think of it this way… you put on 15 pounds in a year, chances are you didn’t wake up one day and go – Oh my goodness! I’ve put on weight! – instead, because it was gradual, you likely didn’t even notice it, until you go to put on a pair of shorts that next summer and they fit a bit snugly.
Second, has your wife ever gotten a hair cut, and you didn’t notice? Don’t feel bad, if it’s happened to you. Most men have had that happen. Heck, I had a pink extension in my hair, for Breast Cancer Awareness, for 2 weeks before MrKimberly noticed it! Some people are just more aware of small changes in their partner. It’s not a good or bad thing, it’s just natural when you spend a lot of time with a person, you may not focus on small details.
Third, when we’re talking vaginally, especially with a gradual size increase that she’s able to get used to over time as you grow, she likely may not ever notice, and that is a simple product of biology. From Discovery Health – “The outer one-third of the vagina, especially near the opening, contains nearly 90 percent of the vaginal nerve endings and therefore is much more sensitive to touch than the inner two-thirds of the vaginal barrel.” Remember, the vagina is designed to stretch to accommodate the birth of a child. If women were so sensitive to size change to really notice a penis size increase, we’d never have kids! LOL
Lastly, more swollen and veiny is definitely a sign of improved erection quality, as well as increased girth. So, it sounds like she is noticing some difference already. And, that’s a very good thing! 🙂
So, keep it up! Even though her body may be adjusting to your increased size as you grow, it definitely sounds like she’s noticing… even if she doesn’t know she’s noticing.