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  • I want to last longer for my gf!

    Hello everyone,

    I'm new here and hoping to get some help with PE issues I've been having.

    This is my story...

    Growing up and hitting puberty I got clinically depressed. Because it was left untreated I shifted into a state of chronic dysthimia (a mild form of depression with basically no highs or lows in your life). To keep the story short, during this period my only stress release was masturbation and porn and I would rely on these tools frequently to help matters. I never had a girlfriend because of my state, so lasting long was never an issue. I always focused on the end game which was ejaculation. This obviously crippled me in the sense that I most certainly PE (I reach PONR in under a minute while masturbating).

    This is my problem...

    I recently met a girl I really care about. We got to know each other and I realized after spending a lot of time with her I would pre-cum just talking with her for the simplest of topics (non-sex related mostly) At a point we shared a bed and I went down on her many times successfully. Now when she tried to return the favor by giving me a handjob I almost instantly ejaculated after maybe half a minute. Another time we did 69 and while I thought I was getting use to her handjob ritual she turned it into a blowjob and I cam after maybe 5 blows. I almost didn't realize it until it was too late.

    I've never had any prior experience with a woman and she obviously could tell that I was fast to ejaculate with her, however she was understanding and thought this will go away in time. She believes I just need to get use to these new sensations. I however am afraid this is not the case.

    This is my goal...

    We live at distance and I will be seeing her face to face in 2 months time from now. I would like to correct this issue if possible because I really care about her and I don't want her to think I am being selfish. I would like to last long in bed for sex including blowjobs. My goal for now is 10 minutes. I was thinking of investing in a Fleshlight STU or something similar and do some practice with exercises but I don't know where to start and I would really appreciate any advise I can get from you guys. The only thing I'm afraid of is that my case is irreparable right now and I need some hope that it's not.


    Some additional information...

    1)I've never had intercourse before in my life

    2)I'm circumcised. I've been told that this should reduce my sensitivity. If I cum in under 30 seconds with a blowjob what am I going to do with real intercourse which I've heard is much more stimulating? I'm terrified of the thought only...



    Thanks in advance for all the help!
    elmosfire
    Junior Member
    Last edited by elmosfire; 09-17-2017, 05:56 AM.

  • #2
    Read the stickies.

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    • #3
      Yes. The advice and wisdom in the stickies will help you find your way.
      Current: BPEL = 6.25"; NBPEL = 5.5"; MEG = 4.5625"
      2022-12-31 Goal: BPEL = 7.0" | NBPEL = 6.5" | MEG = 5.0"

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      • #4
        I am reading the stickies guys. I just wanted a more personal approach and opinion on the matter. Any advice besides just the stickies would be grateful. Plus would it be worth investing in a Fleshlight STU?

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        • #5
          There are a number of approaches to dealing with pre e mentioned in the stickies and it is common to combine more than one .

          The start point can be to think on the cause or causes of your individual pre e . You mention rushed masturbation . This would indicate edging would be of value .
          To some extent you must find your own way and individualise as you gain bette understanding of your own case.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Pegasus View Post
            There are a number of approaches to dealing with pre e mentioned in the stickies and it is common to combine more than one .

            The start point can be to think on the cause or causes of your individual pre e . You mention rushed masturbation . This would indicate edging would be of value .
            To some extent you must find your own way and individualise as you gain bette understanding of your own case.
            I understand and thank you for responding. Would you think abstaining could be an approach rather than frequent edging sessions? And what is exactly your take on Fleshlight STU?

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            • #7
              Not a fan of abstain.
              Some find the stu a great benefit . I can not speak from personal experience though.

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              • #8
                Ejaculating [lightly] early in a sexual encounter should allow you to perform longer in your subsequent rounds. Practicing the techniques of the Stop and Start exercise during sexual contact will help you to improve even more quickly than the manual version- provided anxiety isn't a factor.
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