Feeling inadequate - please help!

[hopethisworks Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hopethisworks]

Hey guys,

Looking for a little encouragement here, I cannot stop thinking about this, and it's driving me insane, despite the fact that, if I look at all the facts I should not be worrying.

I am 5.25". My girlfriend has told me, she was with someone who is 8" or 9" inches. She said it was hugh - the biggest she's ever seen/had.

I know I shouldn't care, because:

1. She says he really "hurt".
2. She said they did eventually make it work, but she had to "control it"
3. She says my dick is perfect.
4. She claims I've made her orgasm more than anyone.
5. She says best sex has been with me.
6. I bought her a very expensive, cyber skin 7" dildo - to try to give her some of that experience back. We use it for a while, and then she ends up wanting me back anyway. She says the dildo is good, but she prefers the real thing.

Despite any of this, I still can't get past it. She is very open and honest, and I know she would talk to me about it again, but I don't know what my point would be in talking to her. I know I am the one with the issue - not her, I just need to know how I can feel better, and get past this.

Any advice guys?

Thanks.

[NP97 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close NP97]

Size doesn't matter if you know what you're doing. If you are doing that well with her, who cares?
I know it feels kinda strange. Maybe you just can't believe that you're better than a monster cock. Just look at her while she is cumming. Look at her face and if her body is shaking and whatnot.
I use to feel like this, even though I would make my ex cum everywhere and have full-body orgasms, the fact that she didn't scream made me feel like I was doing something wrong. Just ignore it and keep fucking her.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

It sounds like you have a fabulous girl and that you are a great lover. What a lucky guy! You're right -- you're just going to have to get over this hang up you have. Who would you rather be: you with your girl, or the guy with the big cock who she left? Get real! You have what she wants, not that other guy!
Take a look at this thread: https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-...ze-matter.html
And do what NP97 suggested -- watch her face when you make her cum, when she strokes you, when sees you naked. You can tell what matters.

[hopethisworks Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hopethisworks]

Thanks for the advice.

I really need to get over this. It's not even logical to be worried or have bad feelings about this.

I'm really hoping something psychologically will "pop" with me - in that I can suddenly feel better and not worry.

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

Thanks for the advice.

I really need to get over this. It's not even logical to be worried or have bad feelings about this.

I'm really hoping something psychologically will "pop" with me - in that I can suddenly feel better and not worry.

I would not worry your doing just fine. Just goes to shopw the big cocks don't always deliver. The biggest dick you can have is between your ears.

[coffeecupwithtea Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close coffeecupwithtea]

I am the exact same way! I kinda blame porn a little for this complex. Its pride for me. I just want to be the biggest and best. We all do.

In the last year I met this incredibly good looking girl who used to be with this big black guy with a monster piece. So insecure. I got so insecure I had erection problems. But you know what, she prefers me, she opens up to more things sexually with me. Its all about the connection between the two of you. If shes the type of girl that just wants a big one, well mate, we're both screwed, but most woman arent like that. They really really arent. Most girls WOULD take a real one over a big fake one.

One thing that helps me is to look at those statistic graphs that show the average penis size. Its really a relief to see most guys are in the 5 - 6" domain.

And besides... looks like PE'ing is really working for you.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Thanks for the advice.

I really need to get over this. It's not even logical to be worried or have bad feelings about this.

I'm really hoping something psychologically will "pop" with me - in that I can suddenly feel better and not worry.

Keep reading threads here, and keep talking with your girl whenever you need to. You'll do fine. One day you'll just suddenly realize that you've stop doubting yourself all the time, and you smack yourself in the forehead and wonder why you wasted so much emotional energy on it.

And keep up with the PE. Your gains will make you feel better too!

[Mc Dong Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mc Dong]

Hopewithworks,

All guys are insecure about their dick size regardless of how big they really are. I suggest that you STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP over your size, your ladies past boyfriend's size and your new play toy's size. She knows your not huge. You know your not huge. There is nothing to hide at this point. Obviously she likes having sex with you, so you're doing something right.

Just take that negative vibe and throw it out the window. Don't let this MInd Fuck too the point of pissing her off because you constantly bring it up.

Mc Dong

[hopethisworks Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hopethisworks]

All great advice - thanks everybody. Feel quite a bit better already.

[Cya at 8 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cya at 8]

The thing is that if you continue with the path of insecurities with her, you will lose her. No woman wants to reassure a man over and over only to be told they are not being totally truthful. IIf you want to know the truth, it is possible that she isn't being totally forthcoming but why do you need to worry about that if she is with you?

One thing is clear: She wants to be with you and your insecurities may make that an impossibility. Be strong, PE and enjoy her company.

[iKzX Member Find all posts View Profile Close iKzX]

No offence man but whas the problem??? you just listed some GREAT reasons why you shouldnt even be slightly bothered about this. she wouldnt have/want sex with you if she didnt enjoy it, you should believe her when she says the things you have listed.

another thing if you havent already DONT let her know you are insecure about this, make her think you have all the confidence in the world and she will enjoy sex even more guaranteed.

[Gator Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Gator]

No woman wants to reassure a man over and over only to be told they are not being totally truthful

Good post 8

[millia Senior Member;PEGym Editor Find all posts View Profile Close millia]

I block out my own insecurities about my dick with PE. It's honestly great that when you start making gains, you start feeling as if you have the biggest dick in the world.
When I first fucked my girlfriend a month ago with my starting stats (knowing she was with an 8" before) I was like shit man I can't even compete.
Then I fucked her sunday night with my gains and I after making her orgasm 5 times I knew my 6" was 100x better then that 8". The look on her face, the way she started talking dirty to me out of the blue. It was awesome.
You honestly have nothing to worry about bro, as long as you know how to use your tool the girl will not complain.

[NSF001 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NSF001]

3. She says my dick is perfect.
4. She claims I've made her orgasm more than anyone.
5. She says best sex has been with me.
6. I bought her a very expensive, cyber skin 7" dildo - to try to give her some of that experience back. We use it for a while, and then she ends up wanting me back anyway. She says the dildo is good, but she prefers the real thing.

Despite any of this, I still can't get past it. She is very open and honest, and I know she would talk to me about it again...
Thanks.

Sir, I don't know what to say. In terms of the quality of girl you have found, it doesn't get any better. I don't think even Disney could produce a female character as great as said girl.

[hopethisworks Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hopethisworks]

You are right.

Thanks for the encouragement, it's really starting to bother me less.