What I wished I knew when I was younger [about sex, masturbation, pre-cum & porn]

**IdealPenis** · 4 Weeks Ago

This message is intended to go towards 2 targets: 1 my younger self and 2 towards you, the one that are having a similar experience.

This post is about having healthier relation with your partner (especially in bed) and with yourself (your pleasure and satisfaction in general).

Context and statement:
* masturbating when you have tons of pre-cum can have a huge intensity
* combination of masturbation while watching porn is another intense experience
* long sessions of masturbation will most of the times lead to even more pre-cum produced
* abusing all these, in time, results in lower stamina when you have sex (just to name one side effect)

The solution:
* if you are used to masturbate, just do it without watching porn at the same time.
* if you watch porn, do it without masturbating while you do it.
* if you are producing pre-cum, wipe it off and don't use that as a lube when you masturbate. In time it will fuck-up your stamina, will lead to a weird sensitivity and will lead to premature ejaculation.
* if you have tons of pre-cum but you never masturbate and you don't use a condom, enjoy sex.

I noticed that the sensitivity, stamina and libido can all be influenced not only by what you do and don't do, but also by how you do it.
I noticed that when the production of pre-cum is high, having sex with a condom is a recipe for premature ejaculation. On the other hand, pre-cum and no condom during sex can be an awesome experience without the worry of premature ejaculation. Weird, right?

Just like how for some it works to train your stamina through edging, I found that masturbating without other stimulus (porn & pre-cum) leads to:
* better erection,
* low to no pre-cum production in time
* and pretty awesome sex that sometimes you can feel it going on and on for a loooong time.

This is not a manifest against porn or masturbation. I don't believe in shaming things just because they can have ugly side effects when done in excess.
If you like porn, go for it. As long as it is not excessive and it is not creating more negatives than positives in your life, why not.
Same with masturbation.

Sure, ideally many wish that they wouldn't need to masturbate or watch porn. The hard truth is that for some of us it is a fucking torture without things like that ('painkillers' like masturbating). And sure, it can be done, but in time and with understanding for yourself.

So, divide (separate) and conquer.

Hope this will be useful to some of you that might be in a similar situation.