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    Hey all,

    Does anyone else find themselves destroying relationships because of insecurities with the size of their member?

    I just kicked off a relationship with someone and I know that I'm going to ruin it because of it.

    Strange really because I don't have any issues with confidence or any other part of my body..... but this is destroying me!

    Cult
    1 Dec '09 (NEW)
    BPEL: 6" 10/16th (6.63") - 0.25" Increase
    MSEG: 4" 4/16th (4.25")
    EG Tip: 4" 4/16th (4.25")
    EG Base: 4" 6/16th (4.38")

    Start: Oct '09

    BPEL: 6" 4/16th (6.25")
    MSEG: 4" 3/16th (4.19")

    Goal EG 4.5" - 5.0"

    The shortest distance between failure and success, is quitting!

  • #2
    The first part of strength, is knowing your own weakness.
    The second part, is seeking a way around or through it.
    Your pain is real ,but you destroy realtionships rather than seek a way forward?

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    • #3
      Welcome Cult to our community. I have never have had this problem so someone may be better addressing this than myself. I would say that your "member" is a small (bad choice of words) part of your relationship and you shouldn't allow insecurity in that one areas to ruin all the positives that you have to offer. Some of it is also in the way you think about things. It sounds like you are already talking yourself into blowing it with this relationship. Try reframe that self talk to be more like, "Hey I have a lot to offer, I may have some insecurities about my penis which I am addressing through PE but I'm not going to let one thing ruin what could be a great relationship". I know this is easier said that done but you can do it!

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      • #4
        My stats are 6" (None Bone pressed) lenght and 4.3" Girth! argghhh.

        You wouldn't know it if you met me that I have such an Insecurity.

        I'm good looking, smart and confident... the sad thing is... I would trade one of those qualities for some girth.

        I'm only 19 and I know I have lots of time to change myself with the help of PE but even then results do vary and some people can't seem to make gains right?

        I know that there are other people on this forum with smaller junk... Maybe I'm just genetically a relationship destroyer
        1 Dec '09 (NEW)
        BPEL: 6" 10/16th (6.63") - 0.25" Increase
        MSEG: 4" 4/16th (4.25")
        EG Tip: 4" 4/16th (4.25")
        EG Base: 4" 6/16th (4.38")

        Start: Oct '09

        BPEL: 6" 4/16th (6.25")
        MSEG: 4" 3/16th (4.19")

        Goal EG 4.5" - 5.0"

        The shortest distance between failure and success, is quitting!

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        • #5
          TOO BE HONEST...im destroying my relationship now, and we have a son together. i fuck like a porn star and i make her cum more then she has with anyone else. i just get all mean and depressed. which is pushing her out the door.there some more in here i dont want to talk about
          Originally posted by Cult View Post
          Hey all,

          Does anyone else find themselves destroying relationships because of insecurities with the size of their member?

          I just kicked off a relationship with someone and I know that I'm going to ruin it because of it.

          Strange really because I don't have any issues with confidence or any other part of my body..... but this is destroying me!

          Cult
          start time = june- 15- 09
          Flaccid= bone press at 6.5
          EG= 4.5
          BPEL= 6.0
          august 08-09
          EG=4.7
          BPEL=6.3
          NBPEL=5.8

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          • #6
            Cult:

            The great thing about your situation is your only 19 and have tons of time to make self improvements. If you're truly unhappy with your size, you have the ability to change it. As someone above also said, your manhood is a very, very small component of who YOU are as an individual and if a woman is going to judge based on your size, she isn't worth it.

            As for your own personal issues with your size, dude, you're young enough to start with JP's newbie routine and bust out some serious gains. If your doing the newbie routine, this should hopefully plant the seed in your mind that you are doing something about your current size situation so hopefully that will serve to stop your sabotaging your relationships.
            It's a tough job being good looking and hung :-)

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            • #7
              I just had to chime in on this. I too have major insecurities about the size of my unit. I have avoided any chance at relationships or intimate contact with any female since my ex walked out on me. That was almost three years ago. I slept with one chick a few times but she was a pig and I only did it because I knew she wouldn't care. The sad part is is that I am a very attractive man and have women coming on to me all the time. I want to move on these advances so badly but every time I stop myself because of my dick. I know I am not my penis but damn is it hard to get past.
              Started seriously on 4/8/13
              5.75" NBPEL X 4.4" EG
              6.5" BPEL x 4.4" EG

              6/1/13
              6.75" BPEL x 4.5" EG
              6/27/13
              6.87" BPEL x 4.45" EG
              7/3/13
              7" BPEL x 4.45" EG
              6.125" NBPEL x 4.45" EG


              Long Term Goal: 7" NBPEL X 5.5" EG

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              • #8
                Sounds like I'm not the only one in this situation!!

                Furryone87 I would love to hear what age you are and your stats?

                Thanks
                1 Dec '09 (NEW)
                BPEL: 6" 10/16th (6.63") - 0.25" Increase
                MSEG: 4" 4/16th (4.25")
                EG Tip: 4" 4/16th (4.25")
                EG Base: 4" 6/16th (4.38")

                Start: Oct '09

                BPEL: 6" 4/16th (6.25")
                MSEG: 4" 3/16th (4.19")

                Goal EG 4.5" - 5.0"

                The shortest distance between failure and success, is quitting!

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                • #9
                  You are definitely not the only one. This has bothered me for many years and frankly I'm tired of it. I'm ready to move on with my life and meet a great girl but can't get past the fear of possible rejection and humiliation. Really sucks.

                  If I am rock hard I can hit 6" NBPEL x 4.4 EG. This is actually an improvement as I started with 5.5" NBPEL. I just turned 36. I am much more concerned with my girth seeing as how this seems to be the most important aspect regrading penis size. I've had a few women in my life make comments about the size of my penis, none of them really rude but comments nonetheless. I've only recently become dedicated to PE and hope to hell this works out for me because I'm not sure how much longer I can go without a woman in my life.
                  Started seriously on 4/8/13
                  5.75" NBPEL X 4.4" EG
                  6.5" BPEL x 4.4" EG

                  6/1/13
                  6.75" BPEL x 4.5" EG
                  6/27/13
                  6.87" BPEL x 4.45" EG
                  7/3/13
                  7" BPEL x 4.45" EG
                  6.125" NBPEL x 4.45" EG


                  Long Term Goal: 7" NBPEL X 5.5" EG

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                  • #10
                    I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. I guess that I am lucky that I am here at such a young age... why can't we just be normal sized and get on with our lives... seriously!?

                    I also hope to god that this works within a reasonable time frame.

                    How long have you been doing PE for, have you had any results so far girth-wise?
                    1 Dec '09 (NEW)
                    BPEL: 6" 10/16th (6.63") - 0.25" Increase
                    MSEG: 4" 4/16th (4.25")
                    EG Tip: 4" 4/16th (4.25")
                    EG Base: 4" 6/16th (4.38")

                    Start: Oct '09

                    BPEL: 6" 4/16th (6.25")
                    MSEG: 4" 3/16th (4.19")

                    Goal EG 4.5" - 5.0"

                    The shortest distance between failure and success, is quitting!

                    Comment


                    • #11
                      I've been on and off since November 2006. Started over at Thunder's but never really stuck to anything. Then I found PE Gym. This place is awesome and much easier to navigate than Thunder's. The people seem more friendly and helpful as well. I've only been doing this with a dedicated routine for the last couple of weeks. I have seen about a 1/4" to 1/2" length gain which I attribute to some growth but due more to increased EQ. Measured myself yesterday and hit 6" NBPEL. I have no girth gains to speak of but I haven't been at it long enough. If I could hit 5" EG I'd be a happy camper.
                      Started seriously on 4/8/13
                      5.75" NBPEL X 4.4" EG
                      6.5" BPEL x 4.4" EG

                      6/1/13
                      6.75" BPEL x 4.5" EG
                      6/27/13
                      6.87" BPEL x 4.45" EG
                      7/3/13
                      7" BPEL x 4.45" EG
                      6.125" NBPEL x 4.45" EG


                      Long Term Goal: 7" NBPEL X 5.5" EG

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                      • #12
                        Guy's you need to find a women that loves you (the whole you) not your penis. If you believe a loving relationship with a women long term is predicated on penis length or girth this is not realistic.
                        From feed back received (from women) and study (books) generally women are more concerned about; can you provide, are you secure as a partner, will you father good offspring (good genes), will you cheat, will you find her desirable long term (not dump her at first chance), do you desire her more than all others, will you beat or abuse her and finial will you romance her even after 20 short years?
                        Action step. Get curious and due some research. The next time a women shows interest in you ask her gently what is importance to her in a relationship. When you revive her from passing out from such a shocking question then you will get to know her and her concerns. Maybe wait until after the first encounter you may scare her to death. Most likely she will not talk about penis length or girth. Also you may find that she is the one also you may find that she is not the one for you. Use the above female concerns I stated in a conversation format and see want is really on her mind. Wait and listen for the truth not just pat answers designed to move the conversation to light meaningless topics. If you are serious about moving on to better relationships and better times in your life then do some hard relationship building and then look at the rest of her from the neck down. Ha, you may find her to be of great interest for the neck up and then looking from the neck down find a gold mine.

                        Great risk, great reward.

                        Go for it guy's, live life to the fullest.
                        Envy Of Men, Pleasure Of a Woman

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                        • #13
                          I am also 19 like you and have the exact same issue.

                          However, it is true that we have time on our sides to make the right changes to ourselves. Just keep with your routine and soon enough those insecurities will not bother you as much. Either that or the right girl will come along and it won't even matter.

                          Boost.

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                          • #14
                            well you two guys are just like me. man ive dump girls that told me that have a hung guy once. i just dont think i compare. ive probably dump around 10 are so. ive never had problems with bangging them but sex is fun and i want sex. ive had a few girls laugh at me which has scared me for life. i wish i could see just and half inch cuz 5.5 is not what i call a dick. just in my eyes. i mean 6 is the average and i want to be at least that. my dream is to be an 8incher. man then i could really feel like a new person. i even spent 250 on a andoins penis extender. i just dont want to not grow. i wish all men had one size then we would have this dam problem. well we are here and i wish us all the best. ill never stop if i can gain .5 inch in one year then hell its all worth it
                            Originally posted by furryone87 View Post
                            I've been on and off since November 2006. Started over at Thunder's but never really stuck to anything. Then I found PE Gym. This place is awesome and much easier to navigate than Thunder's. The people seem more friendly and helpful as well. I've only been doing this with a dedicated routine for the last couple of weeks. I have seen about a 1/4" to 1/2" length gain which I attribute to some growth but due more to increased EQ. Measured myself yesterday and hit 6" NBPEL. I have no girth gains to speak of but I haven't been at it long enough. If I could hit 5" EG I'd be a happy camper.
                            start time = june- 15- 09
                            Flaccid= bone press at 6.5
                            EG= 4.5
                            BPEL= 6.0
                            august 08-09
                            EG=4.7
                            BPEL=6.3
                            NBPEL=5.8

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                            • #15
                              To Cult and Boost,

                              You have received interesting replies. Interesting to me, at least, for they had me to wonder what I am looking for exactly. I realized that am I silly to think that a half inch gain would transform me in a new, better person. No gain by itself will transform me in a better person. Any half inch gain can help me, can contribute to build confidence or self esteem but I realize through this thread that I have to work on my mind as much as on my penis in order to be happy. Otherwise, I will always be half inch away of happiness.

                              One of the reasons I am here on PEGYM is because of the fear of being rejected, or worse, being humiliated. There is a limit to my fear of not being accepted by everyone and I believe I can put a name on it: respect. Self-respect and respect for others.

                              Thanks all for this thread.
                              I would like to be a real boy whatever it means in term of size

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