Looking for wise words

[Cult]

Hey everyone,

I'm not sure why, but I'm feeling really down about my penis size today.

People in the world are starving, ravaged by disease, being raped and other horrendous things... But all I can think about is how inadequate I feel about the circumference of my penis!

How pathetic is that? I don't even deserve to get down about this kind of thing, but I do!

I've got my friends on my back about how I'm a virgin at 19 (nearly 20). My parents even tease about it too!

I go on holiday and I'm a confident lad, I can pull the women BUT as soon as it comes to going back to the bedroom my body forces me to chicken out. I can get completely drunk to the point of paralysis and I still wont have sex with a girl because it is so strongly embedded in my mind.

My girlfriend is for all intents and purposes.............. a slag.............. and I'm a virgin. I love her to bits but I just know that I'm going to end up boring her because I'm going to chicken out about sex (either that or I feel like she's going to dump me the moment she sees me naked).

I don't want to walk in to her house, reveal myself, whip out a condom that sports the name 'TRIM', 'THEY FIT' or 'CONFORM' on the packet to later hear tales of how shit I am in bed and how I've got a PIN DICK.... I refuse to do it! It will fucking ruin me.

I'm only 19 and I've got my whole life ahead of me. Is it cause I'm young? Will I grow out of this unhealthy obsession!?

I measured today at 4.25 inches girth.

Cult

[Cult]

I tell you what though, I'm wondering if I'm just in proportion and that's how I was meant to be...

I'm a skinny lad, 32" waist, skinny ankles and wrists that I can get my fingers around.

Does skinny body mean skinny penis? I suspect not.

I shant give up my PE routine and I will try to keep consistent, no point in moaning too much if the answer is in my PE routine.

Apologies,

Cult

[JonPop]

Ah Lad, the mind is a powerful tool. Use it the other way.

[Hairtrigger]

Cult you are talking about things that haven't even happened yet, you are the one calling yourself these names not your girlfriend. Please stop thinking bout all of this and enjoy being 19 for a change. Don't let your friends pressure you into anything either, you are the one that decides what and when to do something.

Seems to me what really brought you down is when you measured yourself, a tape measure can't measure how much of a man you really are all it can produce is a figure. Please do yourself a favor and get rid of the measuring tape and go talk to your girlfriend instead. Once you are comfortable and ready you will rise to the occassion and the only thing you will be thinking about is how wonderful it is to be able to share these feeling with another person and not the size of your unit. Good luck.

[Rasputine]

Get rid of the measuring tape in your head also.
As Jon Pop said about the mind.
" It's a powerful tool"
Dwell on the positive, screw the negative.
Right now your ,your own worst enemy.
You can't live your life like that!
The one thing we can have control over
is the way we think.We can make choises
We have a free will
To think positive or negative.
Good or bad
Choose wisely.

[PESG]

Cult, my boy, you're having a bad day. Just take a deep breath and relax. Your dick is not that small man. I know you don't think that, but it's the truth.

I can't say it any better than HT:

Cult you are talking about things that haven't even happened yet, you are the one calling yourself these names not your girlfriend. Please stop thinking bout all of this and enjoy being 19 for a change. Don't let your friends pressure you into anything either, you are the one that decides what and when to do something.

Seems to me what really brought you down is when you measured yourself, a tape measure can't measure how much of a man you really are all it can produce is a figure. Please do yourself a favor and get rid of the measuring tape and go talk to your girlfriend instead. Once you are comfortable and ready you will rise to the occassion and the only thing you will be thinking about is how wonderful it is to be able to share these feeling with another person and not the size of your unit. Good luck.

And like JP said, start channeling your thinking into a positive framework. Don't get overrun by negativity. It leads you down the road of failure.

[NSF001]

Cult,

My dimensions are pretty much around you. I have (lol?) 27" waist, and 5"9 inch tall and near 4.32" girth or so (haven't measured it in a month and I will keep it that way). My sexual experiences have been less than interesting because of my circumference although I did get to learn how to use my fingers and my tongue. Now I cant say I have had any personal experiences there, but I have read over and again that if intercourse is your end, then a thin penis can still provide the girl G-spot based orgasms. When people do say "size doesn't matter", I was obviously skeptical (which is why I am on this website, reading, exercising and posting) but there is certainly a ring of truth around it. I am sure you probably are aware of these facts too; I just concentrate on the positive side that ultimately.

Best of Luck

[PESG]

27" waist? DANG, I thought I was skinny!

Anyway, guys, it really is very simple. You can be upset about your dick. You can be insecure. And you CAN do something about it. So, instead of getting down on yourself, instead of being all depressed and worrying about pleasing your partner, why don't you focus all of this negative energy and turn it into a positive: in a year's time...in 12 months...in 52 weeks...in 365 days...I can greatly increase the size of my dick if I stay positive, stay focused, and JUST DO IT. And I'll only be one year older!

[HotRod]

Will I grow out of this unhealthy obsession!?

No, you won't.

I think you're going to have to do something to get out of this.

4.25 is only a little bit less circumference than I have. I don't think you should be worried about this.

I believe you should unapologetically have sex with your girlfriend as you are. I guarantee she won't be your last girlfriend. Be brave and do whatever you have to do to make it happen. Tell her you want to share the experience of the first time with her. It's your first time, so just go for it. Don't wait for the perfect moment. Don't talk to her about your penis size. Don't buy condoms for small penises. Buy a pack of regular size condoms and start practicing with them. Wrap it around your balls if you have to in order to keep it on. Whatever you have to do to make a standard condom work.

She's young too and she'll be having her own insecurities to work through that she won't be revealing. I guarantee it. So just be loving and attentive to her body and work on making her feel good. Just keep pushing her arousal higher and pretty soon she'll be begging to have you inside her.

Meanwhile, it sucks that you have friends and family giving you shit about this. You might try talking to a family member about your fear the next time they start. Just let them know that you have something you're kind of hung up on. If you're talking about a parent who's saying these things, they ought to be able to take a step back and be supportive if you're being genuine about this.

I had insecurities about my penis when I was 19 too, but when I finally opened up to the experience of ACTUAL sex, I realized it was not an issue for any of the girls I was with. We still had a lot of fun and even if they would have preferred a bigger penis, they were like putty in my hands.

[LookAlive]

I go on holiday and I'm a confident lad

Confidence is absoultely key. I guarantee you if she sees you naked and you look confident and like you've got nothing to be ashamed off she wont even care.

Over time that girth will increase, but for now just love what you've got.

Have a look at Radiohead's I Love My Penis thread!!