Hey guys...
I know ive started a couple of threads so I will delete them if this is considered spam. But I just think I need to write everything out ive been told and feel into one to see where I can start because Im getting confused by all the advice, although I cant say enough thank you all for your time cause I have people to talk to this about now.
Basically, I can get an erection, alone or with my partner, to about 70% EQ max, however it dies VERY fast when stimulation has stopped. When my partner is giving me oral, I am able to maintain it for as long as she is going, intercourse is okay/might get the very slightest bit weaker, however when changing positions it dies so fast i need her to stimulate me so i can re enter her, and her on top is impossible, only missionary and doggy. I dont notice morning wood and when i do its weak. I can initually get an erection kinda fast, say when we are kissing/rolling around the bed, but its after stimulation has stopped or when ive given her oral it dies. There was one time we were sexting and it was the hardest ive ever noticed, and that was about a month ago, i was extremely aroused. im not as aroused during sex but i am still aroused. I also suffer from prem ejaculation, sometimes a lot worse than others. but this doesnt play on my mind during sex - i dont worry about the prem ejac, just my erection. I do sometimes worry about my performance etc, and when changing positions i do stress about how long it will stay up because it fades so fast. i do stress a bit more than the average person about relationships (not jsut sex), uni work, etc.
The thing is, I was with this partner in 2012 and this happened throughout our relationship. we broke up at the end of 2012 and 2013-2014 i had sex a couple of times and this issue was a problem. However I am now in a relationship again with my partner from 2012 and this is still an issue. I am terrified incase it is medical (venous leak).
I have been told a few things to try however I am getting confused with the advice, with my PC muscle being too tight/imbalanced and told to do rks only, however I will just give the description of my situation. I dont know if my PC muslce is too tight, or imbalanced, or if its normal, or weak etc:
For kegels, im not sure if im doing them correctly - I can stop my urine flow easily and it resumes easily. The flow is quite strong. I however cant tell if im actually doing a kegel when not urinating. I think im doing the same muscle movement when not peeing - my testicles rise a bit, however im not sure if its my stomach doing it, as i breathe in when doing it and my stomach moves in and my testicles rise, if i just breathe in through my mouth the same motion with the testicles happens. Also, ive been told some guys wont be able to hold it for a few seconds at all when first tryign this, however i dont feel any like stress or tensionanywhere when doing it, its as if nothings really happening?
For rks, I cant push my urine out faster when I pee so ive no idea how to do them
Any help is appreciated!
Cheers
I know ive started a couple of threads so I will delete them if this is considered spam. But I just think I need to write everything out ive been told and feel into one to see where I can start because Im getting confused by all the advice, although I cant say enough thank you all for your time cause I have people to talk to this about now.
Basically, I can get an erection, alone or with my partner, to about 70% EQ max, however it dies VERY fast when stimulation has stopped. When my partner is giving me oral, I am able to maintain it for as long as she is going, intercourse is okay/might get the very slightest bit weaker, however when changing positions it dies so fast i need her to stimulate me so i can re enter her, and her on top is impossible, only missionary and doggy. I dont notice morning wood and when i do its weak. I can initually get an erection kinda fast, say when we are kissing/rolling around the bed, but its after stimulation has stopped or when ive given her oral it dies. There was one time we were sexting and it was the hardest ive ever noticed, and that was about a month ago, i was extremely aroused. im not as aroused during sex but i am still aroused. I also suffer from prem ejaculation, sometimes a lot worse than others. but this doesnt play on my mind during sex - i dont worry about the prem ejac, just my erection. I do sometimes worry about my performance etc, and when changing positions i do stress about how long it will stay up because it fades so fast. i do stress a bit more than the average person about relationships (not jsut sex), uni work, etc.
The thing is, I was with this partner in 2012 and this happened throughout our relationship. we broke up at the end of 2012 and 2013-2014 i had sex a couple of times and this issue was a problem. However I am now in a relationship again with my partner from 2012 and this is still an issue. I am terrified incase it is medical (venous leak).
I have been told a few things to try however I am getting confused with the advice, with my PC muscle being too tight/imbalanced and told to do rks only, however I will just give the description of my situation. I dont know if my PC muslce is too tight, or imbalanced, or if its normal, or weak etc:
For kegels, im not sure if im doing them correctly - I can stop my urine flow easily and it resumes easily. The flow is quite strong. I however cant tell if im actually doing a kegel when not urinating. I think im doing the same muscle movement when not peeing - my testicles rise a bit, however im not sure if its my stomach doing it, as i breathe in when doing it and my stomach moves in and my testicles rise, if i just breathe in through my mouth the same motion with the testicles happens. Also, ive been told some guys wont be able to hold it for a few seconds at all when first tryign this, however i dont feel any like stress or tensionanywhere when doing it, its as if nothings really happening?
For rks, I cant push my urine out faster when I pee so ive no idea how to do them
Any help is appreciated!
Cheers
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