Becoming too big?

[Sportbikejelqer Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sportbikejelqer]

Hi guys, I chose to wait and work on myself before I chose to have sex so I'm still a virgin and unexperienced. Though I have done research and what not on all topics from sex, to PE I recognized that real experience has its true value. Now that I'm approaching where I want to be both in my physique,confidence, and PE health the time is slowly approaching . My question for you guys is for you members (but don't feel excluded if you don't have the exact length haha) that are about 7.5 x 5.5. I mainly started PE for the health of my member(EQ,stamina, and general health) length and girth was just a bonus. I'm 6.75NBEL and 5.20 EG, so I realize I'm above average and I'm kind of worried about being too big. I want to enjoy all aspects of sex and I've read/heard troubles some guys at about 7.5 x 5.5 have. I realize its about finding the right girl, but I just wanted to get some advice from guys who are about at that size because I'm a fast gainer and I just want to make sure I know what problems I might have before I join the reach the "big" length. Thanks in advance for your answers

[Sportbikejelqer Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sportbikejelqer]

Just to clarify by "problems" I mean things like hitting the cervix, to oral all the way to it being less enjoyable for the man because of his size.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Hello Sport, and thanks for joining us. You wont have any issues as long as you take your time with foreplay. Spend plenty of time kissing, touching, licking, and if needed use lubrication. It might be a problem if you try ramming it in without the foreplay. Enjoy your time together. You will be fine.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Well, I'd guess I "kinda fit" your targeted "criteria". I'm currently BPEL almost 7" but I'm 5.75" MEG. so I'm less than 7.5" in length, but larger than 5.5" girth. My original motivation when I joined PEGYM was simply improved EQ. My starting measurements were 6.25" X 4.75". I soon found with doing the exercises (again primarily for EQ), it was "inevitable" I would gain, and I was happy with that! So I, like you, decided I would set my goals at 7.5" X 5.5". I'm still gaining (laying off on the girth work now), but focusing on stretches and edging to reach my length target.
A little background data on "guy" physiology...
Every guy is different. Most guys find length easier to achieve than girth, but most guys (80+%) are "growers", meaning their flaccids expand oftentimes exponentially. I happen to be a "shower", and my flaccid is 6" X 5.25"; however, I don't get the expansion that 80+% of guys get when erect. There are theories about tunica layers differences between "growers" vs. "showers", etc., but there's really not much scientific research been done to validate that. There is certainly a difference in the way and ease with which these 2 different types of dicks respond to PE (I'm living proof). I'm offering this data in an effort to illustrate that there are many variables (even more) in guys, and I also believe there are many variables in vaginas as well. I (like you) am an easy gainer.

I "bottomed out" the cervix of a few women even when I was 6.25" in length, but never had any problems with girth being too large @ 4.75". Today, I'm only involved with 1 woman, but there are some distinct girth issues developing with my 1" increase since starting PE.
!) While my GF could deep throat me before PE (she loves oral & is quite accomplished in that art), she no longer is able to do that with my 5.75"girth. Oral sex is still quite pleasurable for me, & my GF still enjoys it; but if a girl going "balls deep" is REALLY important to you, then 7.5" X 5.75" will not work for most (probably 90+%) women (IMO). There's just very few women that can accommodate that large a girth down their throat, much less blocking their airway, even if they have a highly trained gag reflex.
2) Length will also be a problem at your target 7.5" as well (IMO). My GF has said she does not want me to gain more girth as I'm more than adequately filling her up now. Length she can still accommodate balls deep, but I have to be gentle when long thrusting against her cervix, as that's happening regularly now.

So, as a virgin guy, starting PE, you're wise to not get carried away with the "macho" size issues most young guys seem to be all about these days. Size after all, is not what matters most. Knowing how to use not only your "equipment" but your tongue, your fingers, and your mind are much more important for truly satisfying sex all of your life. Having said that, there are many guys here who have 8" X 6" as their target. That's either a personal goal for them and/or their partners are uniquely able to accommodate that, or they simply don't have a need/desire to go "balls deep" during coitus or oral. Dicks are as unique as their "owner-drivers" you just have to decide what size "rig" you want a "license" to drive!

PE works! Enjoy the journey to a healthier penis and a more satisfying sex-life! Welcome to the GYM!

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Wishful said it.
When I get to 7.5 x 5.5 ( and find a girl ) I'll let you know.

[Sportbikejelqer Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sportbikejelqer]

Wow amazing replies so far guys, thanks for both the simplistic and more detailed answers from all of you. I guess having the "balls deep" option for me always seemed appealing but that could mainly be because porn has taught me what I think I want. Which is why I quit porn a while ago. Maybe I simply was scared of not having it as an option but from your responses I see I have very many and none too daunting haha. I just wanted to make sure that there weren't too many problems compared to benefits. I hear that 7.5 x 5.5 is a sort of goldilocks size, acknowledging the differences with each girl of course. I would like to continue PE as a life long practice for health and I was just worried I would get too big very fast. I gained pretty much a half inch in EQ quality alone where on good days I'm almost touching 7", and I've only been doing it 1 month. Just wanted to make sure if I'm heading in that direction of size can I still have hardcore sex with fair amount of enthusiasm without hurting my girlfriend. I don't care too much about most girls deep throating me but I want to be able to not have to hold back on thrusting when things get heated. If that's something I can do with that size then I'm ok with heading there haha.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

You can get around length issues with skill , that girth should be ok for most girls.

[kong15 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close kong15]

I'm 7.5x5.62. My wife's gyno told her she has the smallest and tightest vagina he had ever seen(lol it was a medical reason why they had the conversation) I can get in all the way no problem, I think sometimes if she's not completely warmed up the friction can bother her. The key is knowing your partners body. Certain positions, how hard, proper foreplay, lubrication etc...my wife could never deepthroat so I can't answer to that. On the rare occasion we do anal and it's tough for her but she does it. It all comes down to sexual comparability and learning each other. Good luck and don't get hung up on the size as your size is not "too big" for almost all women.

[Spoonman84 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Spoonman84]

I think too big is a relative term. When I was At 7 inches I could hit my exs cervix and she loved it. At the same length my wife says its too long and causes her pain cause I hit her cervix. Like Pegasus says you can work around length with skill, but my wife in her words misses that balls deep feeling she could only experience if I was shorter.On that note every one else never had an issue with my length. I am also at 5.5 girth and never had trouble if they are properly warmed up.

[j.helpern Member Find all posts View Profile Close j.helpern]

I have never had a problem with any girl ive ever been with... I hit their end in some positions, but as someone said above as long as you warm them up well you will have no problems... Every girl i have been with has loved my size. In my opinion its more important to learn how to watch how your girl is reacting to you on any given day and treat her accordingly... I have no lack of "balls deep" in my life and im training my girl to deepthroat... she takes about 6.5 out of 8.5 inches at the moment.

[finlandia Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close finlandia]

Hey Sport I had a similar concern when I had my first growth spurt and started to notice my wife would take breaks during oral and massage her jaw. She assured me that she was fine and just needed to get used to it and she did over time, but I stopped my girth work anyways for the time being. As far as sex never had an issue as long as there a good amount of foreplay and if its quickie then just have lube in handy. In certain positions you will just need to learn proper angles but you should be just fine and have nothing to worry about. Enjoy your Journey!

[Sportbikejelqer Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sportbikejelqer]

After reading most of the replies I feel much better about continuing PE, thanks for all the helpful information I've always seen other posts about the community being so nice and helpful but now I get to experience it haha. Another concern I kind of had was becoming bigger mixed with my downward curve (curves down like a banana). I've heard mixed responses from this one, I've heard curved down is amazing and girls love it. To people who have had trouble with angles and even pain. If any member who has a downward curve could share some experience's I'd greatly appreciate it. Maybe some advice on angles positions ect. Also, I'm currently doing a modified version of PESG's routine.
10 min warm up
10 min wet jelqs 10sec strokes
5 min Vjelqs 5 sec strokes
5 min kegel session(regular and reverse to count as 1 rep)
edging if I can time it in
After my 3 month conditioning what exercises should I look into to focus on girth over length? I'm going to add a Bathmate in after about 3 months.

[benschmidt Senior Member Member of the Month July 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close benschmidt]

Seems like a good start. Squeezes are good for girth, as a manual exercise, and the next step from conditioning. As long as your PI's are good, you know you're doing right.

At 5.3 girth and 7.9 in length, I've found that deepthroating isn't really an issue for the experienced operator. The more pressing issue is that the extra bit of girth I've found has on an occasion or two led to excessive teeth on the shaft. Not cool.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Seems like a good start. Squeezes are good for girth, as a manual exercise, and the next step from conditioning. As long as your PI's are good, you know you're doing right.

At 5.3 girth and 7.9 in length, I've found that deepthroating isn't really an issue for the experienced operator. The more pressing issue is that the extra bit of girth I've found has on an occasion or two led to excessive teeth on the shaft. Not cool.

7.9 length and deepthroating hasn't been an issue?, I'm assuming you're not talking about going balls deep.

[benschmidt Senior Member Member of the Month July 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close benschmidt]

Sorry, wasn't being clear. Yes, you are correct. I was more alluding to the fact that the same people that can't deepthroat it also tend to be the ones using too much teeth, and that the teeth were the more pressing problem in these instances.