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    Hello I am new here and had a few questions.

    First has to deal with abuse and perception. I was abused as a child by several different males. The abuse happened when I was young long before puberty. This abuse has given me a strange perception about my penis and other peoples tools, what woman truly want and how to handle my feelings. Has also created some horrible insecurities in me. I have a slight upward bend to my penis , like a banana but not so much. If I straighten that bend and measure I am 6.75 inch with a 5.25 girth. Aroused is more seven but it doesn't seem consistent.

    I've read that some men are having EQ issues from masturbation and porn. Some guys are choosing to not masturbate to get their edge back. Some going for six months. Would these exercises be like Masturbation in the sense they will lower sensitivity? Will they improve erections?

    So tired of feeling the small dick insecurity. It's a punishing feeling that never ends. How do some suffering with this get relief? I kinda feel like it is something I have to overcome on my own. All the data in the world can't help me.

    Two girls have told me I have a thin one. Others have said it's too much. Weird!


    Different strokes for different folks I guess.

    Life goes on. I've been with the same woman for 15 years. Most times things are great and other times those insecurities creep in and ruin a night. My wife could be giving me head and I'll look down and see this small penis, or think of something some chick said or think of abuse and go limp instantly. This of course leads to frustration and anger.

    My wife thinks I have body dysmorphic disorder. She laughs and says, you do know some men would pay to have that thing penis right? This of course makes me laugh and I start to feel a bit better.




    In my mind I feel that if I was walking around with a 5 inch limp dick eight inches hard and six around most problems in my life would vanish. Much of my penis insecurity is probably fear and anxiety. Does anyone think PE can help with this. Can it make my penis stronger, make me more confident if done correctly.


    Thanks for the advice. Does anyone else not see their penis for what it really is?

    I'm 5'11 175 pounds average build.

    6.75 x 5.25 Thinking about hitting up the noob routine.

  • #2
    I also had a bunch of insecurities and anxiety, especially about my penis. But the WORST thing you can do about your anxieties is to build up what i call a "fake truth". Some people has friends who tells them: You are not ugly" etc just to be kind etc. If they start to build a "fake truth" about themselves when they suddenly somehow hear they are not as good looking their whole world will crash, all the "fake" confidence they have built up will be gone, and back to square one. But this only due to what only 1 person has said. People forget about "opinions". One person maybe thinks you are ugly, but then another person thinks you look cute. So the best thing you can do (in my opinion) is to knowledge what you think are "flaws" about yourself and learn to accept and live with them. Learn to be "open" about your flaws and don't hide them for yourself. Show others that you don't care about them. And remember, those flaws is only stated by you and people sharing same opinion. And you are not going to fall in love with yourself or those people right?

    As i can see you have already find a person who has been with you for 15 years. Isn't she enough for you to understand that other people accept you for who you are? I know there are so many more people out there accepting you for who you are and what you have. Every person has different opinions about what is nice and not nice, your current girlfriend has the opinion that you are perfect for her, the evidence is a number, "15" years. You should be proud of that and stop worrying about what those other girls before told about your "penis". They were just other opinions. Every person will always have different opinions. But i think the biggest problem right now is the opinions you have about yourself.

    My best tips to a better confidence is to knowledge what "YOU" think are your flaws and act like you don't care and already know about them and perhaps do something about them if possibly, and understand it's all opinions after all. I don't see a better solution actually to solve a bad confidence.

    I recommend you to start Penis enlargement anyhow, even if i and many others consider your penis nice from the start (in my opinion). Good luck with your goals & gains and your way to a better confidence.
    Starting Stats (2015-02-02): BPEL: 5.1 / MEG: 4 / BEG: 4.3

    Current Stats (2017-01-02):
    BPEL: 6.6 / MEG: 4.9 / BEG: 5.5

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    • #3
      Thanks man. I think a lot of this might be anxiety plaguing my erections and immediately leading to insecure thoughts.
      know of any supplements that help eliminate cortisol stress hormone?

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      • #4
        Yes, the anxious thoughts you get while you are with your partner is a big erection thief. You shouldn't need any supplements. Basically what you fantasizes about when you have sex is your own dick not capable of having an erection. That sounds like a horny fantasize when having sex, you could as well fantasize about a lamp in that case. What i say is, it would not turn you on! That thought is taking over your mind when you have sex and you lose the experience of having proper sex totally. What you should do is focus on whatever makes you horny, focus on your girlfriend, what you find sexy on her body or whatever. And try to relax, don't get that "tension" feeling in your body. Really think about relaxing and focus on relaxing and you could always try to pretend you are horny and really try to think horny thoughts to eventially trick yourself into being horny for real. Think about whatever that turns you on! Think about those thoughts as much as you can and relax as much as you can. You have to completly shut those "non-erection thoughts", or else it's not going to work. And you definitely has to relax your body.

        Ey Andrew, what are you thinking about when you have sex with your girlfriend?

        - I'm thinking about my girlfriend and how sexy she looks when she sucks my penis. And i always think about her ass all the time, i can't wait to bend her over and fuck her while she is moaning loud.

        That sounds sexy Andrew! And what are you thinking about Peter?

        - I'm thinking about how my penis doesn't get hard. And how dissapointment i will be when my penis doesn't get hard.

        Oh, you do? Does it turn you on?

        - No.

        Take my tips and try to implement them slowly. Don't expect to see results directly, but this mindset should fix your problems eventually. And you have to accept failure in the beginning and eventually you will see improvements. And EDGING is really great for EQ.
        Starting Stats (2015-02-02): BPEL: 5.1 / MEG: 4 / BEG: 4.3

        Current Stats (2017-01-02):
        BPEL: 6.6 / MEG: 4.9 / BEG: 5.5

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        • #5
          Originally posted by habban View Post
          Yes, the anxious thoughts you get while you are with your partner is a big erection thief. You shouldn't need any supplements.
          As I always say ; supplements should be great additions to an ALREADY healthy lifestyle (or mostly healthy) - not the go-to fix for everything and anything; and certainly NOT something that is psychological in origin.
          Supplements should not be the basis to your sufficiency, but rather, an extension to your efficiency.
          Self-Discipline and P.E first and then Sups can come after that.

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          • #6
            Cimmerian..your post really resonates with me. Thought control seems tricky. I'm about to see a therapist and maybe try cognitive behavioral therapy, specifically to retrain the brain and it's ingrained patterns. Just remember the brain is plastic/malleable and if one's will is STRONG enough one can mold it into what we desire.

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            • #7
              You have an abover average dick. About the same size as mine. Im not big, but not small either. Ive been with dozens of women, not one said I was small, and I used to be 6x5nbpel when I started. Nobody van change your perception except you. If you think an 8x6 is normal, you are very wrong.
              Start 3.16.15 - 7bpel, 6bpel, 5meg

              Current 1.19.16 - 7.85bpel, 6.6nbpel, 5.3meg

              Goal 1.19.17 - 8.5bpel, 7.5nbpel, 5.75meg

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