This CAN'T be the last post!
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, 03-01-2015 at 04:31 PM (1358 Views)
There's nothing like a new relationship to bury the hatchet. Out with the old in with the new! It didn't start off that way it kind of ended up that way. The X partner/girlfriend decided that I just wasn't her cup of tea anymore or coffee. She did what she had to do, just like most women do. She was a balls a broad, very intelligent, very hardheaded, but not looking at the big picture. Or was she? Maybe I wasn't seeing at the way she was seeing it. She does that sound familiar, I'm sure a lot of you know what's going on in my relationship right now, don't you? Well read on and you'll figure it out.
So after negotiations, which were a combination of me trying to get the truth out of her, and her trying to get how it was going to be beat into my head, we mutually agreed that the business would need to be shut down. This was my 17-year-old child. Prior back a couple years, the partner/girlfriend lost a lot of interest in business. She definitely felt that I was getting too much credit and that most of the customers were liking me and not liking her. Well let's figure this one out: I did all the production work, I spoke to the clients and figured out exactly what they needed and when they needed it and how they needed it. I followed up with them also and kept them happy. Basically she took care of the counter and ultimately did a lousy job at that. On many occasions she told people we couldn't do what they requested just so that she wouldn't have to talk to them. She had a death wish for our business and it came true. The economy really sucked back in 2010, 2011 and most people were going for the big retail chains where they can save a penny. Boy was that really said, because our business was actually sinking like the Titanic. Aside from the poor customer service which was nearly out of my control, and to that the bad economy, and to that customers going elsewhere to save a penny, add to that the small town we were set up in. We were in ruins. I had to go bankrupt, and lost everything that the bankruptcy would take from me including my vehicle. Now here's the catch, I really wanted to get the hell out of Dodge, so going through all the motions were definitely worth it.
Okay so now it's January 2011, I'm still feeling rather crappy from losing the ex-girlfriend/partner, I'm feeling crappy from the business going down the tubes, but my spirits are lifting. Prior to all this junk I did the self analyzation routine and discovered it wasn't me that was at fault. But nonetheless, I started going to the gym, I started getting in shape, I started doing my bike riding. One day right after the turn of the year I met AC. For anonymity sake I'm going to call her AC. It started with a poke. It always does. Facebook will be whatever you wanted to be, and for me it was an outlet. I was not yet a member of this gym and I certainly needed the support of other individuals. Let's forget that stuff for now. So the new year rolls in AC and I become friends and we start talking up a storm. We get more and more friendly and were at a point now where I start looking for her at the end of the day, did she get home early enough for me to stay and chat with her for a while. Will the business is still open were really not doing too much but lingering dying and cleaning up, and Facebook is a good part of my daily activities. It was still early in the year and one day we were headed out for bagels and coffee as well as a walk by the lake, and that's the ex-girlfriend/partner I'm talking about. So along the way she is blabbing about her plans and all of a sudden I blurt out, by the way I met somebody. Just for a moment I thought the car was going to skid into a snow bank but she returned with a good I'm really glad for you.
So now it's out in the open and there's no turning back. I actually felt pretty darn good getting that out of my system. So off to Bruegger's bagels and Starbucks. There was tension in the air but a lot of happiness in my stride and almost a relief in the ex-girlfriend partner. If there's anything I really miss from New York, it's Bruegger's bagels. Breakfast bagel with egg and bacon on and everything bagel. You just can't beat it brother. Well the story of AC gets more interesting in many ways. By July she posted that we were in a relationship on her wall. This was news to me as well as being kind of exciting. There was somebody else on Facebook who was showing an interest in me and I was about to meet her. But lo and behold, one day AC says to me promise me something, so I said what? She said to me promise me that you will meet me first. I'm thinking okay why not! Well it was going to take a while to actually meet her in real life, considering that she lived in Florida and I lived in New York.
Well this Yankee was about to take a plane trip and land in Florida. I've never been on a plane before, and I've never been that far from home either. So Expedia.com here I come!